Awesome response. Love it. Thanks for your input! Yeah the biggest part for me is wondering if he lies frequently. It's nothing to do with the fact he had sex. It is about lying. How much more has he or will he lie to me? But yeah, you're right... we all have our sins. But because we are not married, if he does lie then I am not going to tolerate lying and our relationship may not work out. Thoughts?
As someone else advised, he lied to hold onto you long enough and avoid hurting you until your love grew strong enough to handle this information. If he told you up front, he feared he would not have a chance with you.
We are insecure with relationships which is the reason we present only our best in the beginning.
That said, a relationship with a compulsive liar won't work. Ask him if there is anything else - tell me now?
There's no rush to marry, put it off, but give him the benefit of the doubt. If you discover he lies often, you can't trust him.
Pray for guidance everyday, God will answer your prayer. Sometimes emotions get in the way of rational thinking and even spiritual guidance. God can be obviously leading us in the right direction and we can go in another - ignoring that inner voice. It happens to the best of us.
Look inside this guy apart from how he treats you.
How does he greet others?
Do you see the fruit of the Spirit in him, (as he relates to the world, not just you)?
Does he having these qualities: Love, kindness, joy, peace, goodness, patience, self control, faith, hope.
Does he love the LORD, study his Bible, pray - apart from you?
How is his relationships with his parents and long term friends? How do they view him?
This is one reason why arranged marriages are successful, the kids don't decide, because romances can be deceiving, irrational, with emotions getting in the way if thinking clearly; so while the parents know their children and who would be a good match for them, they choose wisely.
I'M NOT SUGGESTING AN ARRANGED MARRIAGE, just making a point.
How do your parents really see Him and how does his parents see You? And close friends can offer valuable input as well.
I made a mistake and didn't listen to people around me, nor were my parents involved 3000 miles away so I went on feelings ... How wonderful she was in the beginning. There was also a gut feeling that I ignored, she drank and couldn't control it - it wasn't always, just whenever she drank ... this led to drugs down the road too. This was before I was a Christian, so I was lost anyways.