Yeah allowing people to cuss me out and taking it is showing compassion right? Ok
To clarify, I do not hang up when a customer first starts calling. I only hang up when I know the customer calling is a scammer, or if it's the end of the call and I have completed what the customer ask and they start cussing,that is when I hang up. I appreciate all the advice, but even if it is a job, I don't feel like I should have to be tolerant of people cussing at me. If I did what I had to do, and they still want to cuss me out, then I hang up the phone, I don't see anything wrong with that.
Its really interesting you mentioned that, if the OP won't mind me going off topic slightly. For years I had heard of the four temperament types, four humors etc, which you mention. The other one being: sanguine. I know there are several classification systems, but I don't think I ever knew there was one that has these four temperaments with a fifth: supine (introvert/extrovert). I would not have been searching for these except for reading your post, so thanks for making mention.
But I want to ask for more info on this because I can't understand why I have not heard of it. In many ways I find supine descriptive of aspects of my temperament, even so I prolly am a mixed temperament, but without this classification I am at a loss to understand myself. I knew I was never merely an introvert, even though some seemed to peg me as that, but it annoyed to no end, because I enjoy and am outgoing and social in the right settings and with the right people and don't mind groups that much. Nobody tell me God understands me, I know that, the issue is in the workplace when one needs a boss who understands one's temperament, and these temperament type profiles are being used a lot in workplaces. Some I don't but a lot of stock in. The Jungian based one Myers Briggs is fairly popular, but as that was designed for placing women in industrial workplaces in the War due to so many men being drafted and taken away from those jobs, what is the application of it for say a modern office environment? Leaving that aside. The supine classification makes a lot of sense for me.
But what profiling tests score for it, what is its connection to the other four classical temperaments mentioned earlier, what humor does it correspond to? Can anyone help me find out more, cause I'd really like to know?
Sorry to sidetrack the thread a little.
If I remember correctly what they taught us in psychology, its not like "I am a flegmatic, therefore I cannot be a choleric".
Your personality is a mixture of all these types, but you have different percentage of them, for example, you can have:
70% from melancholic
70% from flegmatic
30% from choleric
5% from sangvinik
- this mixture would make you a strong introvert, for example
To clarify, I do not hang up when a customer first starts calling. I only hang up when I know the customer calling is a scammer, or if it's the end of the call and I have completed what the customer ask and they start cussing,that is when I hang up. I appreciate all the advice, but even if it is a job, I don't feel like I should have to be tolerant of people cussing at me. If I did what I had to do, and they still want to cuss me out, then I hang up the phone, I don't see anything wrong with that.
If they are calling you, you should be able to expect they be polite
If I remember correctly what they taught us in psychology, its not like "I am a flegmatic, therefore I cannot be a choleric".
Your personality is a mixture of all these types, but you have different percentage of them, for example, you can have:
70% from melancholic
70% from flegmatic
30% from choleric
5% from sangvinik
- this mixture would make you a strong introvert, for example
I'm always polite in the situations you mentioned, because that problem isn't the fault of the person on the phone. Unfortunately it appears that not everyone shares my view.Not necessarily.
Put a fraud protection hold on someone's credit card when they have 100,000 dollars in checking and see how happy they are when they call to remove the hold because they were on a mini shopping spree..
Have someone's cable go out in the middle of the big game, when they pay good money every month in a timely manner, and see how happy they are when they call..
Most of the calls you get in a call center are due to problems they are having with a service.. and people who cuss when they are happy can sound worse than any sailor when angry..
It's a matter of deescalating the situation and fixing their issues in order to keep their business through a bad situation... hanging up on people doesn't do that..
certainly, the type of call center makes a difference, but most call centers are hired by large corporations people do business with every day.. your credit card/banking issues, phone service, cable, all go through call centers in most cases..
Welcome to my world.Hello all. I have a hard time dealing with people when they are mean and rude to me. I get upset whenever I feel that someone is upset with me. I just recently started a call center job, and I have gotten cussed at and talk to any kind of way, and I just tend to hang up when customers starts cussing. I am just losing my tolerance with people who act like that. Is this normal, I do I need to build up my tolerance? Its just this happens to me all the time, and I have had enough of it this year.
Thanks, I try to treat myself to ice cream every now and then after work lol. On the bright side, my boss did say I am doing very well and one of the top rated agents, so I think I am doing good.I work as a supervisor in a nice gated community.
I love it when they call us, yelling, "Get this snake out of my garage!!" Or "There's bears on my porch! Come get them away!!"
Not happening. We don't deal with wildlife. We aren't trained in that, don't need to be, and that is not part of our job.
I really don't need my obituary including I A) got bitten by a poisonous snake and crapped out and died in their garage, or B) got eaten by bears on their porch.
I'd rather go out to be remembered as a good person and a good wife.
I do lose my patience but never let it show. That's the hard part of completely losing patience but never let it show. Be nice, be kind, hang in there with whatever issues, then when you get home after dealing with all the mess, help yourself to junk food, read your Bible, and then watch nice stuff on YouTube and Netflix.
It works for me.
All good things
Emmy
Thanks, I will make sure to keep in mind not to taken it personal. I appreciate the adviceI don't want to get into a debate with other posters as this is Advice not a debate thread.
I would say first of all to the OP its commendable her working her way through college.
Secondly Temperament does come into suitablilty for some even many jobs, and that is temperament not personality type. Temperament is different from persona , and character.
Having some mental skills to keep at a distance, and filter out anything rude a person may say on the phone is important. The caller doesn't know you, and so pretty much dismiss any rude remarks they make.
I would be somewhat the same if someone started to swear or cuss at me. You could try and defuse things if you can tell what has annoyed them, if they have been waiting in a queue for instance, by explaining briefly if its busier the usual, and apolgising, But if they keep on cussing, I think you do need to say firmly something along the lines of:
"staff are here to assist you with your query - not to take abuse, if you tell me the reason of your call then we can see if we can help you, otherwise i'll have to end the call. If you want you can call back and speak to another operator."