wasn't expecting to be getting so many kind people willing to help me! I was expecting maybe a couple responses and people telling me what an awful sinner I am lol
Take your time, sister. So glad you are not experiencing the digital stoning you dreaded.
We are
ALL wired for affairs, just like you are finding yourself to be, but the successful avoidance of them
requires keeping proper boundaries with the opposite sex along with open and honest transparency with our other half.
It doesn't matter how much in love you are with your husband or how great he is at meeting your needs, you will still have an affair if you do not have proper boundaries with the opposite sex.
I strongly recommend full digital transparency, shared passwords, etc in marriages. Many spouses can't imagine doing this, but affairs usually start with poor boundaries in conversations and these days most of our conversations also have a digital element. This is an essential safeguard for your marriage. Have you and this other man started texting or having other private digital communications?
I don't have a password on my phone and I leave it laying around accessible to my husband. I gave him a sheet with all of my social media passwords - which is a good idea in case a bus hits you (God forbid) so he can deal with your accounts, etc, anyway. This also encourages me to ensure that my communications are always appropriate for him to read - as they should be. We two are one. I often leave my Facebook open when I leave the computer. I always want him to KNOW his feeling of security in our relationship is firmly founded.
Start your digital transparency today!!
Has this guy been leaning towards you in a friendly way, or did your feelings start without any encouragement or interaction from him?
It is possible this guy is actually grooming you and any boundary transgressions have been intentional on his part.
If you got together with this guy, he'd absolutely do the same to you with another woman. He is NO prize for you, but your husband is.
Meanwhile, go on dates with your husband. In spite of its title, this article describes the anatomy of a date that is incredibly effective at restoring in-love, tingly
ah!mazing feelings towards each other. This is likely what you did while you were dating (hopefully minus the sex), and you need to keep it up after the marriage to maintain the sparks and deeply in-love feelings:
The question of the ages: How can a husband receive the sex he...
Your situation could happen to any of us if we let our boundaries slip.