I want to overcome my touching yourself but can't seem to please pray for me

I'm praying.

it's not the masturbation that is the problem, its the thoughts we have when we do it.

If your thoughts are on lust-filled things then you will fill worse about it as you are convicted in your own heart.

So, My advice is to de-demonize your thoughts over time, make the thoughts less exciting little by little. Then replace love with the lust.

Be more controlling and more of a authoritative figure in your own life. Train your self and be self discipline in your thinking.

Stop watching mind altering stuff and stop looking at mind altering material.

We are all tempted in what we see and allow our self's to witness.

If you force your self to stop, you will fail and it can be worse, so, pray to God, ask him for strength in that area and let him know you want to stop the lust full thinking and you are trying to change.

In time, you will not even think about it any longer.

I'm praying for you also, the more of us who do, God will help you and give you the strength to discipline your self out of the lust.

Some important thing to do is to keep you busy and tired.

Jags said:

Yesterday i had a ton of lustful thoughts but was able to make them go away straight away but around 8 pm i couldn't control the thoughts.

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It takes time, never give up on your self and remember, It will not go away over night or right away.

We all where born with physical body's that need well, that.

It's not about controlling your thoughts, Its about self discipline over time.

When we where children there was no thoughts of that nature because we where not allowed to be subject to it. Then when you grow up you can do what you wish, and unless you are self disciplined you will loose every time. The calling out from the body is stronger then your thoughts.

In this way, we train the body to need love and call out for love and not lust.

It does help to have a passion for other things in life, like drawing, painting or exercising also.

When you get a thought of that nature, replace it with a loving thought, it takes practice and this is why I keep saying self discipline. We need to discipline our self's to replace what is wrong and bad with what is right and good.

Psalm 119 is a great passage to read daily & many verses in there are good to memorize.

Psalm 119:9-11 How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to Your Word. 10With all my heart I have sought You; do not let me stray from Your commandments. 11I have hidden Your word in my heart so
that I might not sin against You.

Psalm 119:37-40 Turn my eyes away from worthless things; revive me with Your Word. 38Establish Your Word to Your servant, to produce reverence for You. 39Turn away the disgrace I dread, for Your judgments are good. 40How I long for Your precepts! Revive me in Your righteousness.

Memorizing specific verses & hiding them in your heart will help guard your heart & keep your way pure.

Here is what Job did & good verses to memorize.

Job 31:1-4 “I made a covenant with my eyes not to look lustfully at a young woman. 2For what is our lot from God above, our heritage from the Almighty on high? 3Is it not ruin for the wicked, disaster for those who do wrong? 4Does he not see my ways & count my every step?

Mark 4:22 Whatever is hidden away will be brought out into the open, and whatever is covered up will be uncovered.

Romans 12:1,2 Therefore I urge you, brethren, by the mercies of God, to present your bodies a living and holy sacrifice, acceptable to God, which is your spiritual service of worship. 2And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, so that you may prove what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect.

Romans 13:13,14 Let us walk with decency, as in the daytime: not in carousing and drunkenness; not in sexual impurity and promiscuity; not in quarreling and jealousy. Instead, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ & make NO PROVISION for the flesh, to gratify its desires.

I Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.

Galatians 5:16 I say then, walk in the Spirit & you will certainly not carry out the desires of the flesh.

Psalm 103:2-3,6 I will ponder the way that is blameless—when will You come to me? I will walk in my house with integrity of heart. I will set no worthless thing before my eyes. I hate the work of those who fall away; it shall not fasten its grip on me. My eyes will be on the faithful of the land, that they may dwell with me; he who walks in the way of integrity shall minister to me


Hope these will help you. They have helped me!

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Jags said:

Iv been trying to quit Masturbation addiction its been getting better and i can seem to last longer without it i also have a sexual addiction which i have been praying for it to get better and it has been but it feels like it won't be gone for a long time and i always have guilt why did i do that after i masturbated today i masturbated again and lasted 9 days without masturbation i'm going for 1 month without masturbation please pray for me.

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As long as it is a struggle for you, you stay humble before God and know that you are totally dependent on Christ and have the attitude that:
"I'm a poor sinner and nothing at all,
But Jesus Christ is my all in all."

Father God, we agree and pray, bless with your understanding, strength, to say no to masturbation. yes Lord please bless , and be glorified in Jags' body, and life. In Jesus righteous name, Amen!

Jags said:

So basically this won't go away instantly it will take time and i should continue and continue praying for Jesus to help me until these thoughts go away?

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"Be anxious for nothing, but by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, make your requests known to God, and the peace of God that passes all understanding will keep your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:6-7).

Jags said:

So basically this won't go away instantly it will take time and i should continue and continue praying for Jesus to help me until these thoughts go away?

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Yes, your right, because its a human natural felling we are built with, its so we will reproduce.

And the devil has mixed love with lust.

In the old days men loved there wife, and that created passion between each other, then they would, well, you know.

But in today's world, love has been forced out with lust.

Most all men, not every one, but most of men use to not think such thoughts, when they saw a woman they wanted it was due to that felling of love. That is why we use to call them romance or romantic.

That word is no longer used or not as much, The passion was for the felling of love and adornment for each other. The closeness and admiration was the thoughts of men and women.

When I was a kid I got to see this side of people as the internet was not yet invented, the only way to see unkind images was with magazines and you could not get that unless you was 18 or over.
And even that is was very soft images and not like today.

We truly live in Sodom and Gomorrah.

Jags said:

So basically this won't go away instantly it will take time and i should continue and continue praying for Jesus to help me until these thoughts go away?

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No the urge will not go away. And you really do not want it to. God designed us to work that way and until the last 100 years or so, people got married in their teens.

God will not change the way He made us, and if we try to change it ourselves, we will do damage to ourselves.

At your age I struggled with the same immoral habit. It takes the power of the Holy Spirit to be set free. You need to be baptised in the Holy Spirit for a permanent cure (Luke 24:49). You can also seek some counseling from a Chaplain here. Peace in Christ.

Jags said:

What i mean is i want to stop masterbating its a addiction that i don't like same with having so much wrong thoughts. i want these out of my mind i don't want to change how god made but want to get rid of these addictions.

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I assume what you mean by "addictions" is that you're also addicted to inappropriate content. With that you have to come to the place of saying "No matter what it takes, no matter what I have to do; I'm going to get inappropriate content out of my life!"

If you have to; go to counseling.

if you have to sit down and keep a journal that every time you want to look at inappropriate content, begin to write down:
"Why am I doing this?"
"God what is this about?"
"God what do I really want?"
"Am I lonely?"
"Am I bored?"
"Am I angry?"
"Am I doing this to prove to myself that You must not really care about me anyways because I can't stop."

(That one is a huge mind trip we often play on ourselves when it comes to confronting sin. "I can't stop myself from.... fill in the blank." When actually - yeah, you can.) Making the choice to look at inappropriate content (if that's what you mean by "addictions") is the first layer in the onion of unraveling and understanding all of this.

Guard your heart for out of it come the issues of life. The goal is to contain your sexuality in a proper context for your life circumstances; not to deny it's there. Trying to force yourself to be a non-sexual entity is only going to further your frustration and feelings of failure because your sex drive never goes away. It may wax and wain according to life's circumstances but it is a part of the make up of what you are created as and will be there for the rest of your life.

Next step is when ever the thoughts come up start praying: "God, why are these here?" "Help me figure this out." "Yeah, maybe I just looked at inappropriate content again and that's not good; but what's going on inside my soul. Please help me understand the need so I can fill it with things that aren't fake."

You'd be surprised at what can trigger unwanted thoughts or undesirable actions. Disappointment with people you trusted. Loss; someone's sick, someone died, the cat got out and hasn't come back in two weeks now.... Emotions trigger poor coping mechanisms; whether it's getting drunk, throwing tirades of vengeful rage, or hiding in your bedroom and masturbating to inappropriate content.

Out of the heart comes the issues of life. When you address those emotions / issues of life, than you open the door for the things you want to overcome and to begin to unravel the psychology of why you do this and to lean with greater fervency upon God to guide you to healthy means of coping.

Do not keep trying to fight it. Have you seen those old alien movies where they say "Resistance is futile"? The "alien" here is the devil. Once sin gets a stronghold, there is helplessness. "Anyone who continues to sin becomes a slave to sin." Through your own efforts you will maybe have some success here and there but, as you have seen over and over, it will not last long.

When Messiah steps in He doesn't free you a little at a time! He frees you. After that you may still feel some temptation here and there - the devil won't give up easily - but it will be mild and easy for you, then, to resist. The fight for you, then, is not against the lust, it is against your own heart where it is not yielding to Him. Pray to surrender to Him in this, and to stop trying to fight battles you will ultimately always lose. Either He''s gonna do the job, or you're gonna keep trying, and failing, to do the job.

If you are very healthy, a once a week 24 hour water fast can work wonders with prayer. (However, if you are not very healthy, fasting strenuously can be bad for your health, especially your adrenals and if they get weak it is nearly impossible to build them up again.)

I have had one person tell me that t.v. was leading him to lust, but he was addicted to t.v. too! T.v. promotes anti Biblical messages all the time, ditto most all secular "entertainment." You can't feed on the bread of the devil and on the Bread of Life and expect to live a holy life. So, you may need to surrender secular media too. (I did. The Lord told me years ago to 100% give up t.v. and that "It is being used to harden the hearts of Americans".)

There is a book by a Christian author called Every Man's Battle, and a website associated with that. Many have found it to be very helpful. Maybe also, you can get a prayer partner, an accountability partner in real life or online. They can be helpful, too. However....
The Bible says "The battle is the Lord's...in quietness and rest is you salvation....be still and know the salvation of the Lord...." So, again, ultimately you have to turn it over to Him and quit trying on your own "power."

And please do remember this, after freedom comes, the devil will try to tempt you with thoughts like "Just this one time..." or whatever. Remember what Messiah said. If we go back to our sins after being freed, then 7 worse demons come to take the place of those who have left and you would then be even more addicted. But! Fasting and prayer can help you more and more to get closer and closer to the Lord so that you are stronger and stronger.

I pray for your freedom, for life.

I prayed that you will grow as a Christian and learn how to be indwelt by the Holy Spirit, and that He will empower you and assist you in thwarting these temptations. Jags, consider also to employ some practices that will prevent any impulse to just do these things. Get the book Every Man’s Battle by Stephen Arterburn which is an excellent resource for this problem. They also have a radio program at Home where you can call in and ask for more specific advice.

Offer up your thoughts, your lusts, your desires to God. Ask Him to replace them with His grace.

Picture Jesus on the cross everytime you get an 'urge'.

God bless you