Brightmoon
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- Mar 2, 2018
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yep you’re the worst person in the world (eye roll)I break or damage things by accident.
No chance of getting away. I am having difficulty believing that God is for me. I really do need to know deep inside what God thinks of me and not what my husband says God thinks of me. My husband once told me that he was disappointed in me and because he know how God thinks, he knows God is disappointed in me too.
Thank you. I do want to honor God in all I do. The easy way out is leaving but I believe God can change things. It cannot be by my hand that divorce is done. Jesus said what God has brought together let no man put asunder.
Some may argue that God didn't bring us together but I believe He did.
Jesus also said to love your enemies, do good to those who hate you,bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you, if someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other cheek, etc...
Now I am not saying I would say if he started really hurting me, but now he's just rough and pushy.
Whether God brought you together or not does not matter. You are married now and God hates divorce. He didn't say He only hates divorce in good marriages.Thank you. I do want to honor God in all I do. The easy way out is leaving but I believe God can change things. It cannot be by my hand that divorce is done. Jesus said what God has brought together let no man put asunder.
Some may argue that God didn't bring us together but I believe He did.
Jesus also said to love your enemies, do good to those who hate you,bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you, if someone slaps you on one cheek, turn to them the other cheek, etc...
Now I am not saying I would say if he started really hurting me, but now he's just rough and pushy.
I think I said "Christians always fled violence but never retaliated" or something like that.your wisdom.
i may be wrong but from what youve said I doubt you've been in an abusive marriage.
I think I said "Christians always fled violence but never retaliated" or something like that.
God will not lead us into temptation we cannot handle. But Christians always fled violence and never retaliated in the NT.I could be wrong, And I could be on the wrong page, just from my heart I believe sometimes Christians do have to fight. I can think of some examples, One example is, We aren't just expected to defend our families. It is our duty to do that, There is the Term Christian Soldier, Soldiers must sometimes fight.
As a Christian with love in his heart, If you witnessed someone Abuse a child or anyone. Your heart should feel charged to protect that individual. Fighting is not always A bad or evil thing. We from birth have to fight the devil and his temptations.
When you fight if you are fighting for the right reasons, Then you are doing Gods work.
We as Christians shouldn't seek things like pride or ego or fighting just to see who is the Alpha.
But as far as fighting does go, If you see someone male-female or child being abused or treated poorly, and you don't fight. you may be taking the wrong action brother.
No chance of getting away. I am having difficulty believing that God is for me. I really do need to know deep inside what God thinks of me and not what my husband says God thinks of me. My husband once told me that he was disappointed in me and because he know how God thinks, he knows God is disappointed in me too.
When I tell him things he's said or done that was not right, he denies he said or did it.
Or he'll reorganize the order of things that were said or done making him look like a victim and paint me as the bad guy.
This has happened so many times that I even started doubting stories about his past that he has told me where people were unkind and he the innocent victim.
Is that a character issue or a memory issue? He normally has an excellent memory.
That's all good, but if someone comes to a Christian forum, my assumption is they are seeking spiritual guidance. Plus, a pastor may have resources readily available and contacts to direct people to locally. At my church we created an information packet to give to people for just that purpose.
Right, starting point is that most pastors at ignorant villains... Got it.Topher, it can be very dangerous to advise someone to go to a pastor that you don't know.
I'm involved with volunteer work ministering to the abused and you would be heartbroken at how wretchedly too many pastors address women who are being abused. Sadly, there is a significant population of pastors whose main marital theology is that if the wife just submitted to abuse better her marriage would be great. I've even seen pastors excommunicate women for not submitting sufficiently to abuse, which is a terrible, horrible experience for abused wives. It can turn them away from God altogether. Such a pastor's work really has nothing to do with God.
I've learned that enough pastors are not safe for abused women that I've stopped recommending the first step be to go to a pastor. Particularly in a situation as terrible as this one.
A safe Christian resource for marital abuse is marriagebuilders.com. Dr. Harley is an experienced, Christian psychologist who's life work has been studying marriages. I always recommend an abused person go there instead of to a pastor.
Those of us ministering to the abused find the MOST difficult task in all of our work is getting an abused woman to take that first step out of her abuse. It would be very tragic if we poured all of our energy into getting @Itsahappyday to finally take that first step, and that step is to the type of pastor I described above. When that happens, generally a wife won't venture to do anything further about her abuse for another several years, after her health starts suffering.
yep you’ve never been in an abusive relationship nor have you seen one . A lot of us have seen abusers at work that why we advised her to leave if he doesnt stop.Who determines what Abuse is? Old divorced people? Some guy one the street observing? This is why God was clear about Marriage and what the institution means, and what kinds of things make someone eligible for righting of divorce. What does the Bible say about when it's okay to divorce?
abuse was not mentioned in those scriptures. This is why I say people conflict their Ideas with Gods.
The fact of the matter is If someone abuses someone in marriage. Ie. Smacks the daylights out of them, That is still not Grounds for divorce. People should know what marriage is and what the promise means to God before they go around spouting about Divorce.
I'm not saying it's okay to smack someone, I'm saying the bible clearly does not address that issue. Therefore to assume That it is abuse is and it's okay to divorce because of that reason, is unstudied in Gods word.
Period.
Right, starting point is that most pastors at ignorant villains... Got it.
at home for years he calls me dumb stupid etc...
He says I am not trying hard enough, not using my head.
He says not to go against God's anointing.
Today I failed Jesus. I got super angry and swore.
I am tired of being called stupid, dumb idiot., he says I never amounted to anything and that I have nothing to show for all my years. That I do nothing.
He says I am demon possessed, angel of light coming against the man of God. He has said I was not saved. He said today if I left him I probably would go for a woman - which is so very much not true.
I used to spend so much time with the Lord every day when I was single but now it's so hard. I tried praying tonight but I didn't feel much. So then I tried worshipping and it just wasn't the same.
No.Could the Lord be angry with me?
This is a problem, do not ignore these things, but rather take them to God. God is our Judge in all things and all matters. Take these concerns to Him and He will act. Don't forget that God wants to hear us everyday with what ever is going on in our lives. He knows our needs and provides for us.I do ignore many things, even cutting remarks at times, but sometimes I just can't take it and respond back in anger.
Before being saved I dated men, one for a long time and he never called me names. I get married to a Christian and I am called names,put down, pushed around .... What's going on???