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Can I talk to someone and hear some biblical and clinical advice? I'm Born Again Christian, married, and employed. I'm just new to the company, and boy, how I love my new job!

For the first few weeks, felt like it's a dream come true- a job with good benefits, very good salary, amazing schedule, nice bosses, supportive colleagues, a jolly and positive atmosphere- couldn't ask for more. Everything was going well and I gradually settled into my job. Feeling euphoric whenever my bosses compliment me or when they're impressed by my outputs. They got the impression that I'm excellent in what I do, talented, smart, organized, and positive--- not until today, when I accidentally made a mistake, not a major one, but a crucial factor in the "close observation" phase which my bosses are currently doing. I apologized to my boss but I felt like I was a failure at that time and his/her facial expression gave it away. It's like, all the excellence and positivism that I have so carefully built for the past weeks have gone down the drain when it happened.

Plus, my other boss (cos I have 2 supervisors) seemed to be aloof from me and doesn't seem to be at ease with me nowadays. That boss was different weeks ago, but all of a sudden changed and I've been feeling a little awkward whenever I talk to him/her as it shows that s/he's not that interested in me anymore...well at least that's what I feel. S/he used to smile at me often but now s/he doesn't even want to walk past my way.

What should I do? Can't help but worry. What should I think of whenever worry creeps up? Any born again Christian out there who can lovingly share any encouragement?

For the past whole week, I've had poor sleeping and eating habits...and today I was just sooo groggy. In my normal state I shouldn't have made that kind of mistake cos I really know what I'm doing. Too bad my boss thought I was confused and didn't know what to do- when in fact, I did know what I'm doing. Maybe my poor sleeping habits added to the awkwardness and unnecessary stress?

I need some advice. Thank you!
 

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Can I talk to someone and hear some biblical and clinical advice? I'm Born Again Christian, married, and employed. I'm just new to the company, and boy, how I love my new job!

For the first few weeks, felt like it's a dream come true- a job with good benefits, very good salary, amazing schedule, nice bosses, supportive colleagues, a jolly and positive atmosphere- couldn't ask for more. Everything was going well and I gradually settled into my job. Feeling euphoric whenever my bosses compliment me or when they're impressed by my outputs. They got the impression that I'm excellent in what I do, talented, smart, organized, and positive--- not until today, when I accidentally made a mistake, not a major one, but a crucial factor in the "close observation" phase which my bosses are currently doing. I apologized to my boss but I felt like I was a failure at that time and his/her facial expression gave it away. It's like, all the excellence and positivism that I have so carefully built for the past weeks have gone down the drain when it happened.

Plus, my other boss (cos I have 2 supervisors) seemed to be aloof from me and doesn't seem to be at ease with me nowadays. That boss was different weeks ago, but all of a sudden changed and I've been feeling a little awkward whenever I talk to him/her as it shows that s/he's not that interested in me anymore...well at least that's what I feel. S/he used to smile at me often but now s/he doesn't even want to walk past my way.

What should I do? Can't help but worry. What should I think of whenever worry creeps up? Any born again Christian out there who can lovingly share any encouragement?

For the past whole week, I've had poor sleeping and eating habits...and today I was just sooo groggy. In my normal state I shouldn't have made that kind of mistake cos I really know what I'm doing. Too bad my boss thought I was confused and didn't know what to do- when in fact, I did know what I'm doing. Maybe my poor sleeping habits added to the awkwardness and unnecessary stress?

I need some advice. Thank you!
Let yourself off the hook, Im sure they will too. Its all a feeling out process that will take time. You apologized, move on and do your best not to do it again. Everyone makes mistakes.
 
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Can I talk to someone and hear some biblical and clinical advice? I'm Born Again Christian, married, and employed. I'm just new to the company, and boy, how I love my new job!

For the first few weeks, felt like it's a dream come true- a job with good benefits, very good salary, amazing schedule, nice bosses, supportive colleagues, a jolly and positive atmosphere- couldn't ask for more. Everything was going well and I gradually settled into my job. Feeling euphoric whenever my bosses compliment me or when they're impressed by my outputs. They got the impression that I'm excellent in what I do, talented, smart, organized, and positive--- not until today, when I accidentally made a mistake, not a major one, but a crucial factor in the "close observation" phase which my bosses are currently doing. I apologized to my boss but I felt like I was a failure at that time and his/her facial expression gave it away. It's like, all the excellence and positivism that I have so carefully built for the past weeks have gone down the drain when it happened.

Plus, my other boss (cos I have 2 supervisors) seemed to be aloof from me and doesn't seem to be at ease with me nowadays. That boss was different weeks ago, but all of a sudden changed and I've been feeling a little awkward whenever I talk to him/her as it shows that s/he's not that interested in me anymore...well at least that's what I feel. S/he used to smile at me often but now s/he doesn't even want to walk past my way.

What should I do? Can't help but worry. What should I think of whenever worry creeps up? Any born again Christian out there who can lovingly share any encouragement?

For the past whole week, I've had poor sleeping and eating habits...and today I was just sooo groggy. In my normal state I shouldn't have made that kind of mistake cos I really know what I'm doing. Too bad my boss thought I was confused and didn't know what to do- when in fact, I did know what I'm doing. Maybe my poor sleeping habits added to the awkwardness and unnecessary stress?

I need some advice. Thank you!

I think many have been where you are. I have. You can be throwing all Ace's but one joker card, and the whole house of cards just fall down. Unless you've been fired, you still have the chance to do good again.

Just cash it in as experience, accept the fact that they just don't like you (Right now... maybe even ever) and just move on and do your job. Either that, or find a new one(?) -- if this is practical. You can also pray for wisdom, better days, and just to help yourself keep cool during the days.
 
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New people are expected to make mistakes. Your perception of the situation may be magnified far beyond what your supervisors are thinking. Continue doing great work and demonstrate over time that you have learned from your experience. Everyone needs time to get beyond this disappointment.
 
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Jobs can be stressfull. Dont take it so personally and just keep it professional. Be humble and let go of your ego. Maybe this is a good time to mention Jesus?..."man Im stressed, I love this job, its a nice blessing from God." somthing simple to open the door...
 
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At the end of the day you are serving Jesus not them.

All your effort is as unto the Lord.

Don't allow yourself to be judged by them.

Profit driven management no matter how pleasant has no care for the person.

Be confident in who you are in Him.

They play on the fear of losing your job and attempt to extract excellence at any cost.

I am currently in a similar situation.

The boss comes down the stairs and demands my work is not up to scratch - then he discovers it was someone else's error - and there is no apology.
 
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Can I talk to someone and hear some biblical and clinical advice? I'm Born Again Christian, married, and employed. I'm just new to the company, and boy, how I love my new job!

For the first few weeks, felt like it's a dream come true- a job with good benefits, very good salary, amazing schedule, nice bosses, supportive colleagues, a jolly and positive atmosphere- couldn't ask for more. Everything was going well and I gradually settled into my job. Feeling euphoric whenever my bosses compliment me or when they're impressed by my outputs. They got the impression that I'm excellent in what I do, talented, smart, organized, and positive--- not until today, when I accidentally made a mistake, not a major one, but a crucial factor in the "close observation" phase which my bosses are currently doing. I apologized to my boss but I felt like I was a failure at that time and his/her facial expression gave it away. It's like, all the excellence and positivism that I have so carefully built for the past weeks have gone down the drain when it happened.

Plus, my other boss (cos I have 2 supervisors) seemed to be aloof from me and doesn't seem to be at ease with me nowadays. That boss was different weeks ago, but all of a sudden changed and I've been feeling a little awkward whenever I talk to him/her as it shows that s/he's not that interested in me anymore...well at least that's what I feel. S/he used to smile at me often but now s/he doesn't even want to walk past my way.

What should I do? Can't help but worry. What should I think of whenever worry creeps up? Any born again Christian out there who can lovingly share any encouragement?

For the past whole week, I've had poor sleeping and eating habits...and today I was just sooo groggy. In my normal state I shouldn't have made that kind of mistake cos I really know what I'm doing. Too bad my boss thought I was confused and didn't know what to do- when in fact, I did know what I'm doing. Maybe my poor sleeping habits added to the awkwardness and unnecessary stress?

I need some advice. Thank you!

Your going thru standard feelings. You need to back off your feelings and just be yourself.
 
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Can I talk to someone and hear some biblical and clinical advice? I'm Born Again Christian, married, and employed. I'm just new to the company, and boy, how I love my new job!

For the first few weeks, felt like it's a dream come true- a job with good benefits, very good salary, amazing schedule, nice bosses, supportive colleagues, a jolly and positive atmosphere- couldn't ask for more. Everything was going well and I gradually settled into my job. Feeling euphoric whenever my bosses compliment me or when they're impressed by my outputs. They got the impression that I'm excellent in what I do, talented, smart, organized, and positive--- not until today, when I accidentally made a mistake, not a major one, but a crucial factor in the "close observation" phase which my bosses are currently doing. I apologized to my boss but I felt like I was a failure at that time and his/her facial expression gave it away. It's like, all the excellence and positivism that I have so carefully built for the past weeks have gone down the drain when it happened.

Plus, my other boss (cos I have 2 supervisors) seemed to be aloof from me and doesn't seem to be at ease with me nowadays. That boss was different weeks ago, but all of a sudden changed and I've been feeling a little awkward whenever I talk to him/her as it shows that s/he's not that interested in me anymore...well at least that's what I feel. S/he used to smile at me often but now s/he doesn't even want to walk past my way.

What should I do? Can't help but worry. What should I think of whenever worry creeps up? Any born again Christian out there who can lovingly share any encouragement?

For the past whole week, I've had poor sleeping and eating habits...and today I was just sooo groggy. In my normal state I shouldn't have made that kind of mistake cos I really know what I'm doing. Too bad my boss thought I was confused and didn't know what to do- when in fact, I did know what I'm doing. Maybe my poor sleeping habits added to the awkwardness and unnecessary stress?

I need some advice. Thank you!

So..... If you are openly admitting that you have poor eating and sleeping habits, then that's on you to fix.

However, everything else you have said sounds like normal work place mistakes.

If your boss is expecting perfection, then you need to leave the company sooner, rather than later, because no human being is going to be perfect.

That said... I don't think that's the case. I think you are blowing this out of proportion yourself. Just keep doing what you do, as best you can do it. Stop worrying about what they think.
 
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Can I talk to someone and hear some biblical and clinical advice? I'm Born Again Christian, married, and employed. I'm just new to the company, and boy, how I love my new job!

For the first few weeks, felt like it's a dream come true- a job with good benefits, very good salary, amazing schedule, nice bosses, supportive colleagues, a jolly and positive atmosphere- couldn't ask for more. Everything was going well and I gradually settled into my job. Feeling euphoric whenever my bosses compliment me or when they're impressed by my outputs. They got the impression that I'm excellent in what I do, talented, smart, organized, and positive--- not until today, when I accidentally made a mistake, not a major one, but a crucial factor in the "close observation" phase which my bosses are currently doing. I apologized to my boss but I felt like I was a failure at that time and his/her facial expression gave it away. It's like, all the excellence and positivism that I have so carefully built for the past weeks have gone down the drain when it happened.

Plus, my other boss (cos I have 2 supervisors) seemed to be aloof from me and doesn't seem to be at ease with me nowadays. That boss was different weeks ago, but all of a sudden changed and I've been feeling a little awkward whenever I talk to him/her as it shows that s/he's not that interested in me anymore...well at least that's what I feel. S/he used to smile at me often but now s/he doesn't even want to walk past my way.

What should I do? Can't help but worry. What should I think of whenever worry creeps up? Any born again Christian out there who can lovingly share any encouragement?

For the past whole week, I've had poor sleeping and eating habits...and today I was just sooo groggy. In my normal state I shouldn't have made that kind of mistake cos I really know what I'm. Too bad my boss thought I was confused and didn't know what to do- when in fact, I did know what I'm doing. Maybe my poor sleeping habits added to the awkwardness and unnecessary stress?

Hi, BAC.

I am certain that many of us can relate. What I am thinking is not a solution, because there is no immediate solution IMHO.

What I think you should do, however, is soldier on, knowing that you have the capability and you were acclaimed for your work earlier. It may be that the bosses' ire was
raised only temporarily, or that the issue got under their skin but they know deep down that it is not typical of you...or something like that.

In other words, you ought not try to assess your standing with them just yet, simply because that would be impossible to do. It is unlikely that one mistake could reverse a well-founded impression held about you before this, but time will tell. And there isn't much you can do about it but continue to perform at your best in your usual way. do not go to them, hat in hand, to apologize further, plead your case, or anything of that sort, because this kind of action runs risks of its own.

So give it some time and you will see how they really feel. THEN you may have some decisions to make.
 
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If it were me, I would humbly go to my boss (or bosses) and say something like,
  • (SAMPLE:) "I know I let you down and dropped the ball on the ___________ project, and I hope you know that my apology was sincere because I truly meant it -- I am so sorry. But ever since then, I've been sensing a real distance or an awkwardness/uneasiness toward me and I want to make sure that things are okay...or is there something else you need from me, or that I can do, to help rebuild your confidence in me? (or something to that effect)

It sounds like there are unresolved issues on their part and having this type of conversation after the fact will at least help give you peace of mind that you've done all you can do (and gone that extra mile) to help remedy the "distance" situation going on - and then, like others have said, let it go and just keep doing your job as unto the Lord and leave the rest up to Him to work out.
 
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Can I talk to someone and hear some biblical and clinical advice? I'm Born Again Christian, married, and employed. I'm just new to the company, and boy, how I love my new job!

For the first few weeks, felt like it's a dream come true- a job with good benefits, very good salary, amazing schedule, nice bosses, supportive colleagues, a jolly and positive atmosphere- couldn't ask for more. Everything was going well and I gradually settled into my job. Feeling euphoric whenever my bosses compliment me or when they're impressed by my outputs. They got the impression that I'm excellent in what I do, talented, smart, organized, and positive--- not until today, when I accidentally made a mistake, not a major one, but a crucial factor in the "close observation" phase which my bosses are currently doing. I apologized to my boss but I felt like I was a failure at that time and his/her facial expression gave it away. It's like, all the excellence and positivism that I have so carefully built for the past weeks have gone down the drain when it happened.

Plus, my other boss (cos I have 2 supervisors) seemed to be aloof from me and doesn't seem to be at ease with me nowadays. That boss was different weeks ago, but all of a sudden changed and I've been feeling a little awkward whenever I talk to him/her as it shows that s/he's not that interested in me anymore...well at least that's what I feel. S/he used to smile at me often but now s/he doesn't even want to walk past my way.

What should I do? Can't help but worry. What should I think of whenever worry creeps up? Any born again Christian out there who can lovingly share any encouragement?

For the past whole week, I've had poor sleeping and eating habits...and today I was just sooo groggy. In my normal state I shouldn't have made that kind of mistake cos I really know what I'm doing. Too bad my boss thought I was confused and didn't know what to do- when in fact, I did know what I'm doing. Maybe my poor sleeping habits added to the awkwardness and unnecessary stress?

I need some advice. Thank you!
I agree with Kris. Face your fear and anxiety head on. Clear the air as only you can do that. Communication is the scriptural approach to your situation.

Proverbs 12:25 “Anxiety in a man’s heart weighs him down, but a good word makes him glad.”
 
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prayers for you.
it may be that the person who used to greet you in a friendly way has just got used to you being around so is getting on with life at work. in a way it's a compliment that you've become part of the furniture so to speak. they may have been using extra effort to be friendly as you were new and now they're just being their normal self.

Just shrug off the mistake (we all do them, it's good you've made that one now you can shake the perfect image and just be a normal hard worker) and look forward, seek to do your best and do your job as well as you can.
you're doing great! navigating a new job and work environment isnt easy, you're doing really well!!
 
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Thank you so much for all your kind words; really helpful and uplifting. Thankful for the kindness that God gave humanity. It makes the world go round.

Please continue to pray for me, though I'm but a stranger to you. I would also whisper a prayer to the Lord to bless you all in all aspects of life. May the Lord bless and keep us, amen.

"Trust in the Lord with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding." Proverbs 3:5
-something to remind myself of
 
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I understand all too well, as this problem used to plague me to the point of falling into
a very debilitating anxiety disorder. It led to panic attacks, intense symptoms, lack of sleep, brain fog, and so much else.

Know that you aren't perfect, and neither are your superiors. If any of you were perfect, you wouldn't need Jesus! I guarantee you they've made similar or worse mistakes in their careers! The best you can do is view it as an opportunity to learn and grow.

Instead of working to please others, meditate and apply what the Bible says:
"Our purpose is to please God, not people. He alone examines the motives of our hearts. --1 Thess 2:4

It is dangerous to be concerned with what others think of you, but if you trust the Lord, you are safe. --Proberbs 29:25

“I, yes I, am the one who comforts you. So why are you afraid of mere humans, who wither like the grass and disappear? --Isaiah 51:12

And understand too, that you can come to your Heavenly Father who loves you for strength and help!

Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy to bear, and the burden I give you is light.” --Matthew 11:28-30

Don't be afraid, for I am with you. Don't be discouraged, for I am your God.I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand. --Isaiah 41:10

“Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters, since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving.”
‭‭Colossians‬ ‭3:23-24‬ ‭

God Bless!
 
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I don't want to rehash what others have already stated, but I do want to point out that part of a manager's job is to design process and workflows that do not allow for small mistakes to cause significant problems.

For example, if you worked at a bank and had to transfer money using account numbers people are inevitable going to accidentally hit the wrong number sometimes, so the manager needs to come up with a solution. Maybe instead of typing the number you scan barcodes. Or maybe the account numbers are generated randomly in such a way that typing in a 1 wrong number will result in an account number that doesn't exist, making it extremely difficult to accidentally put money in the wrong account. Or maybe you have to type in the number twice in two different places, so it they don't match you have to retype them correctly.

A good manager will recognize when they need to improve their processes and not blame their employees. Only if you deliberately ignore instructions that your manager has given you should you blame yourself, and even then a good manager will still accept an honest apologize as long as such occurrences remain rare.
 
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Can I talk to someone and hear some biblical and clinical advice? I'm Born Again Christian, married, and employed. I'm just new to the company, and boy, how I love my new job!

For the first few weeks, felt like it's a dream come true- a job with good benefits, very good salary, amazing schedule, nice bosses, supportive colleagues, a jolly and positive atmosphere- couldn't ask for more. Everything was going well and I gradually settled into my job. Feeling euphoric whenever my bosses compliment me or when they're impressed by my outputs. They got the impression that I'm excellent in what I do, talented, smart, organized, and positive--- not until today, when I accidentally made a mistake, not a major one, but a crucial factor in the "close observation" phase which my bosses are currently doing. I apologized to my boss but I felt like I was a failure at that time and his/her facial expression gave it away. It's like, all the excellence and positivism that I have so carefully built for the past weeks have gone down the drain when it happened.

Plus, my other boss (cos I have 2 supervisors) seemed to be aloof from me and doesn't seem to be at ease with me nowadays. That boss was different weeks ago, but all of a sudden changed and I've been feeling a little awkward whenever I talk to him/her as it shows that s/he's not that interested in me anymore...well at least that's what I feel. S/he used to smile at me often but now s/he doesn't even want to walk past my way.

What should I do? Can't help but worry. What should I think of whenever worry creeps up? Any born again Christian out there who can lovingly share any encouragement?

For the past whole week, I've had poor sleeping and eating habits...and today I was just sooo groggy. In my normal state I shouldn't have made that kind of mistake cos I really know what I'm doing. Too bad my boss thought I was confused and didn't know what to do- when in fact, I did know what I'm doing. Maybe my poor sleeping habits added to the awkwardness and unnecessary stress?

I need some advice. Thank you!

We need to remember it's work and that's where we get our paycheck. Being friendly and having friends there is nice but, not of most importance.

We will all make mistakes at times. With some jobs they are more critical.

Concentrate on your work, less on the others you work around, don't let the compliments go to your head.

I hate learning from my mistakes but, have heard that it is supposed to work.

M-Bob
 
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