- Jul 22, 2017
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For the longest time I thought I was depressed. But I fully function at work, and function well to the point of excelling. I'm an introvert who actually does well in professional environments with interpersonal communications. I think I'm really more suffering from anxiety of my own thoughts than anything else.
I've been divorced for 10 years (rounding off more or less) and it's been a constant struggle. Anytime I meet any woman I have an interest in, enjoy the conversation, etc., I get anxious and have these thoughts of, why would she be interested, or something like that and before I even find out I sabotage it. Then it turns into, no woman could be interested because of x, y or z. Then I feel down for a time and then better and start the cycle over again.
One woman I work with is, in a word, amazing. We can talk about anything all day without having a starting point, we laugh, we know each other well, we interact well for the most part (being an introvert). But I suppose I've been out of it for so long I have no clue if she's just being naturally flirty or she's interested. But if I try to act on what I feel, I lose the friendship.
So here starts the anxiety cycle again, and I've been down for the last 24 hr. I don't know what advice, if any, I'm looking for. Maybe how to not be anxious about things and be at peace? I'm just SO lonely all the time.
Please no platitudes about how the Bible says do not be anxious, I know what the Bible says, but I have no clue how the practical application of that works.
I've been divorced for 10 years (rounding off more or less) and it's been a constant struggle. Anytime I meet any woman I have an interest in, enjoy the conversation, etc., I get anxious and have these thoughts of, why would she be interested, or something like that and before I even find out I sabotage it. Then it turns into, no woman could be interested because of x, y or z. Then I feel down for a time and then better and start the cycle over again.
One woman I work with is, in a word, amazing. We can talk about anything all day without having a starting point, we laugh, we know each other well, we interact well for the most part (being an introvert). But I suppose I've been out of it for so long I have no clue if she's just being naturally flirty or she's interested. But if I try to act on what I feel, I lose the friendship.
So here starts the anxiety cycle again, and I've been down for the last 24 hr. I don't know what advice, if any, I'm looking for. Maybe how to not be anxious about things and be at peace? I'm just SO lonely all the time.
Please no platitudes about how the Bible says do not be anxious, I know what the Bible says, but I have no clue how the practical application of that works.
