how do I get people to stop telling me to leave them alone?

Are you friends with them or not?

Part of it depends on who you ask. Don't get burnt out; pray for the Spirit to lead you to people who are willing to help, and pray for the people who aren't. Prayer is our best weapon against discouragement.

May God bless us all!

Well, respect their wishes & don't make a habit of asking personal questions. Find something else to talk about, they'll probably stop telling you to leave them alone.

What type of questions are you asking them?! Perhaps they are introverts who don't like to talk much.

Hmmm...those questions seem tame enough. I can't offer any help. Just be sure you don't appear to be pushy. In all my 62 years the only one to tell me to leave them alone has been my husband when I tend to go on and on about a subject. Lol.

Lanae said:

how do I get people to stop saying that to me?

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Ignore them. Then they won’t say anything to you.

Lanae said:

I'm tired of hearing people telling me to leave them alone every time I ask them personal questions or want someone to talk to. how do I get people to stop saying that to me? its so annoying and rude. I guess asking personal questions is ruining my life.

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If they don't want to talk to you about a particular subject.... then you should leave them alone.

In general, if people don't want to talk about their lives with you, they're probably not your friends. Acquaintances maybe.

If the trust hasn't developed enough in a relationship, then certain questions don't make sense, and some people don't want to share their other social networks in the context of other social networks.

it's like, I'm at church and people ask personal questions, this is because they want to then ask if they're saved, and other follow up questions so it can be gossip material.

Maybe it's who you ask, maybe it's what you ask, maybe it's the way you ask.

Everybody needs personal space. If you don't respect that bubble of personal space, people will tell you to leave them alone.

Perhaps a friend or family member in your real life can tell you if you act in an off-putting manner, and how you might act instead.

Lanae, I did a quick search on some of your previous posts, and it seems you have an ongoing issue with proper social behavior and boundaries. Many of your posts have started with "How do I get (person/people) to (do what you want).

Whenever you are trying to find a way to "get" someone to do something your way, you are being manipulative. That is never appropriate. Please do not do things to try to bring a specific outcome from someone else.

I can see that you have been dealing with social problems for a long time. Are you in counseling for this issue? Because you have made so many posts about people avoiding you and asking you to stop what ever behavior you are exhibiting, it seems that you need some guidance in appropriate social behavior. Even if you don't have natural abilities to relate to people, you can learn skills that will make you a more attractive friend (not physically, but attractive in the sense that people enjoy your company and want to be with you).

Dale Carnegie wrote a most excellent book about this almost a century ago, and people are still reading it because it is that good. It's called "How To Win Friends and Influence People". It's a classic that I think you might benefit greatly from.

God teaches us to think of others before ourselves. That means that we interact with them in a way that benefits them if we are to serve like Jesus. It is selfish to interact simply to satisfy ourselves. The Lord knows that if we treat each other with kindness and respect, we can build mutually satisfying relationships that are strong and real. My prayer is that you learn how to serve others as the Lord taught us.

Lanae said:

I'm tired of hearing people telling me to leave them alone every time I ask them personal questions or want someone to talk to. how do I get people to stop saying that to me? its so annoying and rude. I guess asking personal questions is ruining my life.

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Maybe they don't know you enough to respond, why don't you tell them about yourself first

I agree with turkle, in that your posts are laden with problems that seem to be related to social sensitivity issues. I am wondering if maybe you have some kind of never diagnosed syndrome, like Asperger's for example. (You can get an informal feel for that issue on Google, I'm sure.) Though I don't know if you suffer from that, I do know such people can be very inappropriate in their social interactions.

Someone needs to analyze what you are doing wrong and you need to get some kind of formal and/or informal coaching on what to do right. I have
had people be evasive to me in the past, here and there, if I brought up a subject they didn't like. I have even had them get mad at me - though that has been rare. No one has ever flat out told me - so far! - to leave them alone. In fact, most people enjoy being asked harmless questions about their lives. They like to talk about themselves! We all can be that way.

Therefore, if people are continually telling you "Leave me alone" then something is way off in how you are approaching them. As your posts say, you do not know what the problem is, therefore you do not seem to be empathizing with people and understanding the generally accepted norms for conversations with others. It might be your body language is also off putting. Do you get into others' space? Touch them when they don't want to be touched because you are not emotionally close to them? You might want to research that, too.

Why are you asking people those questions, btw?. Is it because you generally care about them and want to show interest, or could it be that you are just trying to make conversation for your own purposes? People can generally sense your
motives. I have had a couple of people ask me all the right open ended questions but somehow they seemed to be acting, and I do mean acting, off of a list they saw somewhere. That was a turn off.

I pray you will get insight on what is wrong and how to make it right. I hope you will pray to love others and want to bless them. Love is usually irresistible and will lead you in all the right ways.

This is a joke, right? How do you get them to stop? Well, leave them alone.

P.S. There are You Tube channels, Bright Side comes to mind, that contain videos on social skills. I would suggest praying to be led to whatever can help you. And I would suggest that you pray before social interactions that you will be a blessing to others in some way. What blesses them will bless you, too! That's how the Father makes things work out all around.

Also, do some video selfies or even use a mirror, and act out ways you have approached others that led to negative reactions. Be honest with yourself. Would you like to be treated the same way or not? Pray to know how to correct. Counselors can be great, at least some of them. But nothing beats the guidance of the Holy Spirit after heart felt prayer. "You need that no man should teach you, but the Holy Spirit will teach you."