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Hi,

I lost a friend back in April 2017. We were close, I knew him for 25 years.

2 years on I still think about him a lot, and miss him, and the chats we use to have. He was my closest friend, my other friends live a lot further away from me and we're not close.

How can I get over this?
How can I tell God to help on this matter through prayers?

Regards
Lee
 
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It's hard to completely 'get over' a death of a loved one. My friend's only child and son died two months ago at age 24. He and his wife are still devastated. People kept telling him "it will take time." I spoke to him several times as he lives quite a distance away and told him "no, you will not get over this completely, but you will move on with the scars."
 
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I’m sorry to hear that. My friend was rushed to the hospital last summer after a fall at sea. She got a call from her ex and fell into the water while she was on the boat that was moored up, working. The news was too much for her. They were still married at the time. Sadly she didn’t survive. As the one year mark approaches I have been thinking of her. I remember the fun times I have had with her over the years before her death.
 
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You'll get over it. I was reading a passage in Matthew 7, it says "I assure you that many will come from the east and west and sit down with Abraham, Isaac and Jacob at the feast in the Kingdom of heaven"

This means Abraham, Isaac and Jacob are still alive! they might have died in the flesh but their souls are alive! many will join them at the feast in God's kingdom, this includes your friend and all believers who are still living or those that are already dead in the flesh.

God bless
 
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The first step to healing is understanding this: Healing is not a destination, it is an ongoing process.

The pain will always be there, it just becomes easier to deal with over time.

Truth is, only time can heal this pain.

But in the meantime, if you ever need to talk or want a distraction, feel free to send a message my way. I'm here for you :)
 
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Hi,

I lost a friend back in April 2017. We were close, I knew him for 25 years.

2 years on I still think about him a lot, and miss him, and the chats we use to have. He was my closest friend, my other friends live a lot further away from me and we're not close.

How can I get over this?
How can I tell God to help on this matter through prayers?


Regards
Lee
Hi Lee, it will get better but the better the friendship the least likely you will ever "get over it" so to speak. Sounds like that friendship set the bar. Remain open and trust God to provide. I do understand because I lost a faithful friend (met her in the 3rd grade after 57 years of friendship) suddenly in 2003. Didn't recognize the grief I was feeling for a while but now I surely do having experienced other losses (husband and brother) since then. Grieving any loss is normal. We grieve because we loved. However, we can still love and trust again. Key is trusting that God will provide more friends. He did that for me since then when I met someone who cared for me and had the same faithful qualities as my lifelong friend. But still unique and different. Met her in 2010 and since then the friendship keeps growing gradually. He does restore the years the locusts took as the Holy Spirit helps us to navigate through loss and grief. I have learned that there is something unique and special and different about any good friendship. Gifts from above. The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away, blessed be the Name of the Lord. He is also our friend and He will not leave or forsake us although sooner or later people do.
 
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