How do you go on when you realize God's plan is for you to go through EVERY situation you have prayed for decades to avoid? I have lost trust in Him. I don't want his plan. I have literally begged Him for decades to prevent all the problems he has put in my life. (Health issues for my wife, monetary issues, job issues, etc).
First, that sounds like a very painful situation; I'm sorry.
Second, he has not PUT those problems in your life, and I don't believe it is his plan for you to go through them. My belief is that the devil sent them - because he is a thief and is trying to destroy your relationship with God, John 10:10. When Job went through lots of problems, they were from the devil. In Job 1 we see behind the scenes of what is going on; Satan said to God, "he only worships you because he has money and an easy life". God said to him, "ok then, he is in your hands, and Job lost everything - yet he did not curse God or stop believing. Even when his wife said "curse God and die", and his friends said, "you must have sinned because you are suffering", Job refused to turn from God. In the end, Job was commended and his friends were rebuked by God for their attitudes.
My deepest heart's desire is for all of the problems to be fixed/not happen.
Well you can't turn back time so that they never happened.
What will happen if they are fixed? If you had a wonderful life, brilliant health, more than enough money - what then? Would you trust God only because he has given you good things in this short, temporary, life? Would the things you had be evidence of his love for you?
What about the cross?
You CAN come to God, pray, ask for forgiveness, help, and receive eternal life ad receive EVERY Spiritual blessing - because Jesus, who was perfect - suffered pain on a scale you will never know, and gave his life for you. He did that because he loves you and your wife and wants you to be his children. When you know his love, nothing will ever be able to separate you from it.
I also don't care what he has done for others (Job, Joseph, etc). So what do you do?
What do you think you can do?
You can't turn back time.
You don't seem to trust, or maybe even be talking to, God.
You're not interested in hearing how he has helped others.
I would guess your problems would still be there if you rejected God completely.
What do you want to happen?
You say your "deepest desire" is to be problem free. God wants our deepest desires to be for him. In the NT when a man asked abut eternal life, Jesus knew that he was very rich and, though he had talked about loving his neighbour, he had not mentioned a desire to love God. So Jesus asked him to give up the ting that meant the most to him - his money. The man was not willing to do this, so he went away sad - with money but without the eternal life that he wanted.
Like I said, if you had a perfect, worry free life would that bring you closer to God? Maybe God wants you to know, and trust, him even though things are going pear shaped? Romans 8 says "In all these things, we are more than conquerors", Romans 8:37.
Various people in the OT said "EVEN IF God doesn't ...... I will still trust him. That included Job, and 3 men who were thrown into a furnace for worshipping God.
What I USED to do was rely on my feelings/problems/lack of problems to dictate my faith.
Having a great day; God clearly loves me. Everything going wrong; I'm not talking to him.
What HE did was to keep on loving, holding and teaching me through this time - and then he reminded me about the cross, which shows just how much he loves me, and all of us.