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I think it's important to establish authority early on and the necessity for following rules. I don't believe physical punishment is an ideal way to do this. I began instructing my daughter about consequences and expectations at a young age. Each year we had a theme which built upon the others. These were character building lessons that would hold her in great stead as she matured.
I provided a set of ten principles she was not permitted to transgress without serious consequences. They were non negotiable and included dating, education, sexuality, drugs, alcohol, running away, illegal activities and several others.
Ours was not a do as I say not as a do home. I was very transparent and shared my mistakes openly without shame. This fostered a close knit relationship between us and has provided many moments of laughter as we recall our foibles. Seeing my imperfections enables her to share her own more readily.
I don't believe this is a situation worthy of grounding or spanking. It's a misalignment of authority and respect. Ideally, the child respects you because of your position and your person. Otherwise, you're subject to punishment cycles and infractions that increase in severity with age.
I would go back to basics and reestablish boundaries and a chain of command. The constancy of obedience cannot be secured under threat. Good luck.
I provided a set of ten principles she was not permitted to transgress without serious consequences. They were non negotiable and included dating, education, sexuality, drugs, alcohol, running away, illegal activities and several others.
Ours was not a do as I say not as a do home. I was very transparent and shared my mistakes openly without shame. This fostered a close knit relationship between us and has provided many moments of laughter as we recall our foibles. Seeing my imperfections enables her to share her own more readily.
I don't believe this is a situation worthy of grounding or spanking. It's a misalignment of authority and respect. Ideally, the child respects you because of your position and your person. Otherwise, you're subject to punishment cycles and infractions that increase in severity with age.
I would go back to basics and reestablish boundaries and a chain of command. The constancy of obedience cannot be secured under threat. Good luck.
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