Should I Continue to Go to Church or Not?

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I am with a woman since December 2012 now and we're not married because when I met her, she was not divorced yet.

She came out from an abuse marriage. That's the reason she's not with her husband anymore.

But my intention is to marry her when the divorce is finalized.

Now, I started to go to church recently, and wonder if I should stop going to church until I finally marry her or if it is okay for me to go still?

What do you think?
Keep going to church. If we all waited until everything was perfect to go to church, the churches would all be empty. Talk with your pastor about your situation and listen to his advice. As a pastor myself, I would prefer you both go to church so you can be encouraged and grow so that your marriage will start off strong. And of course, since you are not married yet, make sure you are handling your relationship appropriately.

That being said, if you are going to a place where the leadership is condemning your situation, I would strongly consider finding another place. (note: condemnation is different than critical advice)
 
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it is okay for me to go still?
If you want to, go for it. If you wait around for everyone to approve of your decision, you'll never go back.....not everyone will approve.

Heck with 'em.......do what YOU feel is right, because you're gonna get a bunch of different opinions on whether you going to church is "biblical" or not.
 
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If you're worried about whether a church will accept you, then come along to mine. We've been welcoming sinners for the past four hundred years and there's plenty of room for more. If I am welcome there, then I am sure you will be too!

The church isn't an exclusive club, it is the house of God and, if I understand the Bible correctly, then everyone is welcome: "Whosoever will may come" (Revelation 22:17)

Jesus didn't call the righteous, but sinners to repentance.
 
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I am with a woman since December 2012 now and we're not married because when I met her, she was not divorced yet.

She came out from an abuse marriage. That's the reason she's not with her husband anymore.

But my intention is to marry her when the divorce is finalized.

Now, I started to go to church recently, and wonder if I should stop going to church until I finally marry her or if it is okay for me to go still?

What do you think?

This is what happened with me when I came to the same question. I saw something not right with the church I was going to and so I left. My dad followed shortly after he saw the hypocrisy in it as well. For a while it left me not liking Christians at all and I did not want to be associated with them as all they seemed to do was fight each other. I was like this for a few years, but then looking at my own life came to the realization that I needed God. I fully surrendered to Him and after another year or so, both my dad and I prayed that God would guide us to a church He saw fit for us. It took a while for our answer, but He led us to one.

It's most important that we develop a relationship with God so He can help us and teach us His ways. :yellowheart:
 
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It just so happened I read this in a Christian book today...
 

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Go to church.
Until the divorce is final, you should not live together if you can avoid it.
If you live together with her, you should avoid sexual contact until the divorce is final and you are married. I think a good pastor will probably tell you something similar to this based on the information you shared.
God Bless.
 
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I am with a woman since December 2012 now and we're not married because when I met her, she was not divorced yet.

She came out from an abuse marriage. That's the reason she's not with her husband anymore.

But my intention is to marry her when the divorce is finalized.

Now, I started to go to church recently, and wonder if I should stop going to church until I finally marry her or if it is okay for me to go still?

What do you think?

The so you are committing adultery? You are sleeping with a woman that is married?

You need to move out, and not marry her. You are committing a great and terrible evil. G-d is not going to bless that.

As far as going to church... you obviously are not following G-d... so I don't know why you would bother going to church.
Jesus in Luke 6 said:

Why do you call me, 'Lord, Lord,' and do not do what I say?

But the one who hears my words and does not put them into practice is like a man who built a house on the ground without a foundation. The moment the torrent struck that house, it collapsed and its destruction was complete
You know what you are doing right now is evil and wrong. If you think you are going to build a family with a woman who is married to someone else, while you are shacking up with her.... G-d says no.

This is very bad plan, and you need to break this off. If you had waiting until she was divorced, and assuming there was a justified reason for it... maybe you could have built a life with this woman.

But it's too late now. You are in great evil and sin. I don't see anything good coming from this.
 
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I am with a woman since December 2012 now and we're not married because when I met her, she was not divorced yet.

She came out from an abuse marriage. That's the reason she's not with her husband anymore.

But my intention is to marry her when the divorce is finalized.

Now, I started to go to church recently, and wonder if I should stop going to church until I finally marry her or if it is okay for me to go still?

What do you think?

Jesus said that when you do marry her its adultery, forgivable, but still not a good thing.

Being with her then was and still is adultery, Do you want to start your marriage under God from that?

Consider your marriage in his eyes.

I'm not judging, heck, I've done things myself, but, I'm just warning for your future.
 
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