God has the ability and the right to choose those to whom He will grant the new birth. We desparately need the new birth to be free of Satan's grasp.
1 John 5
19 And we know that we are of God, and the whole world lieth in wickedness.
20 And we know that the Son of God is come, and hath given us an understanding, that we may know him that is true, and we are in him that is true,
even in his Son Jesus Christ. This is the true God, and eternal life.
We can give ourselves faith. It comes from God. He helps Christians from beginning to end. He helps us overcome sin.
1 Corinthians 1
4 I thank my God always on your behalf, for the grace of God which is given you by Jesus Christ;
5 That in every thing ye are enriched by him, in all utterance, and
in all knowledge;
6 Even as the testimony of Christ was confirmed in you:
7 So that ye come behind in no gift; waiting for the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ:
8 Who shall also confirm you unto the end,
that ye may be blameless in the day of our Lord Jesus Christ.
9 God
is faithful, by whom ye were called unto the fellowship of his Son Jesus Christ our Lord.
If you already have faith, it is a gift of God. We love Him because He first loved us and Jesus said we will keep His commandments if we love.