Asking for prayer during a time of temptation

I would prayerfully distance yourself from this young lady. Prayers for wisdom, self-control, and mercy.

I realize that this is not an advice thread, but there are so many things wrong with your situation. First, God created that kind of intimacy for marriage. Second, if this young woman is living with a guy and cheating on him with you, what makes you think she would not cheat on you too?

2 Corinthians 6:14 says, "Do not be mismatched with unbelievers. For what partnership is there between righteousness and lawlessness? Or what fellowship does light have with darkness?"

I pray that God will help you see the truth and "flee from youthful passions, and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart." (2 Timothy 2:22)

I pray that you will have the wisdom and courage to reflect Christ's kingdom in your actions. If the young lady is interested in knowing the King, I hope you are able to share. I also hope you will be very careful not to approve of or encourage any conflicting actions either with yourself or with another.

May God give you strength and grace.

Trayalc said:

There's a girl (who I've made a post about in the past) who is very fond of me. We have a lot in common, except she's an unbeliever (an agnostic, to be more specific). Last December I told her I was hesitant to enter into a relationship with her for this reason, and so she went on to find another boyfriend.

Lately she's been showing interest again, even though she's still dating the other guy. To complicate things further, she has already committed to a year of living with him. The other night, she was very loving and touchy-feely with me, and if there had not been another person there, I feel like we may have gotten intimate.

The problem is, now I feel incredibly allured by her. I'm now desiring that sort of companionship; I felt so loved and desired by her, and I want to feel that again. It's been overshadowing God's love for me. I'll admit I've also been flirting with her, not making the situation any better.

I think both she and I are mixing up our priorities, and we both need prayer during this time.

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"Somebody's knocking, should I let him in? Lord it's the Devil. Will you look at him! I'd heard about him, but I never dreamed, he'd have blue eyes and blue jeans!"

During times of temptation, may we train ourselves to shift our focus from the temptation to You. May we treat the temptation as if we were dead to it, and alive to You, Romans 6:11-14. May we not even entertain temptation slightly,
but flee to You from it immediately. Amen.

Definitely keep on praying, and the people here have given good advice so far. One practical step you can do is set up mental “check points.” I learned this from a men’s breakfast I attended. The speaker said, if you are walking and you meet an irresistible woman, without checkpoint, sooner or later you find yourself in a sinful situation. This is oversimplified of course. We were told that imagine that instead of a woman, you are looking at a series of pictures. You can look at picture 1 but avoid looking at picture 2.


In this case I would put a check point on “touching.” I would allow her to touch my hands but anything further, forearm, shoulder, and so on, ask nicely and remind her that she is with another guy. If she comes close to your face so that you can smell her breathe, her perfume, or her hair, that is very alluring. I am a married man and this totally applies to me, but you can tweak it if it is seems overkill to you. In your original post, other people being there sort of prevented it from escalating.


Pray also for her that she gets to know the Lord. Start talking to her about your faith. Here is an article that might help you, though the roles are reversed: Christian Romantically Involved With a Non-Christian.

The girl is manipulating the heck out of you, and no doubt her boyfriend. She has, no doubt deliberately, stirred up your hormones so that you can hardly think straight. Run!

Praying for wisdom and for you to have a relationship with someone who will walk with you in the Lord.

When we are walking with the Father the enemy will use our weakness against us. She lol is not the enemy but the enemy knows you.. .will put things in our path to get us off the right path. We are free to choose who we want So.. He would say.. what do you want? He always has something better..

It "could be" a distraction. Something from the lord IS COMING.. keep the faith!

Trayalc said:

There's a girl (who I've made a post about in the past) who is very fond of me. We have a lot in common, except she's an unbeliever (an agnostic, to be more specific). Last December I told her I was hesitant to enter into a relationship with her for this reason, and so she went on to find another boyfriend.

Lately she's been showing interest again, even though she's still dating the other guy. To complicate things further, she has already committed to a year of living with him. The other night, she was very loving and touchy-feely with me, and if there had not been another person there, I feel like we may have gotten intimate.

The problem is, now I feel incredibly allured by her. I'm now desiring that sort of companionship; I felt so loved and desired by her, and I want to feel that again. It's been overshadowing God's love for me. I'll admit I've also been flirting with her, not making the situation any better.

I think both she and I are mixing up our priorities, and we both need prayer during this time.

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Cheaters are so nasty man. My wife cheated on me a couple months after our 3 year old’s autism diagnosis, and then she left me and destroyed our family. Anyone giving you that type of attention while living with and being committed to another man is a trash human being. Relationships are hard enough when the other person loves you and is faithful. If they are a cheater it’s a certainty they will do the same to you when they get bored.

I recommend walking away now.