Is this guy faking interest?

Men generally are after one thing. Until God gives very clear directions, don't trust men, and then only if everything they do is in line with Scripture, clearly.

It's possible for a person to stare at a person (male, female - it can go either way) and not have that person's best interests in mind or not be capable of carrying on a healthy relationship. Make him prove that neither of those things are true before you show any special interest in him.

NathChristian said:

Hi everyone.

I have a classmate who might like me, but I am not sure, because his behavior is a bit odd.

One day, at class, he stared at me for some 20 seconds, with a normal/ordinary facial expression.

After that, I thought "he might like me", so I would glance at him lots of times but he would never glance at me, it was almost like I didn't even exist.

Then, after 3 months, we were at the same bus, and he stared at me again, this time making facial expression that hinted he was really interested. The expressions were too sexual and I got really shy/embarrassed.

After that, I would again glance at him on class and he would NEVER glance at me. He wouldn't say hi, he wouldn't make any eye contact at all. It made me really upset because I could not tell whether he was genuine or just faking interest and playing with my heart.

When guys like a girl, they will glance at them often. So what is going on? Why would he stare at me in some occasions then just forget I exist?

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From what you've told us, I have a hunch that this guy is either a little bit off...or else is playing some game at your expense. Either way, I would avoid him if I were you.

If I happen to be wrong about that, he can always behave normally and dispel the uncertainty in so doing.

I'll be blunt. Most boys that age are horny. They are going through changes and will do anything to gain a womans trust to have sex. If you felt he was making sexual gestures then avoid him. Also avoid a guy who instantly says he will be yours forever and basically sounds like a "dream guy". I do realize a tiny percentage of young guys aren't like that. But its just to risky.

Someone who REALLY wants to be with you will avoid sexual temptation and want your heart, not your body. If they can't respect that, then they won't respect you.

None of us here would know if he is faking an interest or not. Maybe he is, maybe he's shy, maybe he has a behavior disorder , etc..... there are a lot of maybes. If he really likes you, he will make an effort to talk to you, get to know you, and spend time with you beyond staring.

I can't read his mind. I don't know if he's faking interest, or interested. I don't know if he would be a good man to get together with if he is interested, or not. I don't know if the gesture he made was intended to convey interest, or to harass you by intentionally creeping you out.

This isn't going to sound good, but I have an art background and I observe things and people that are interesting, without any attraction whatsoever*. And part of what's interesting is what I consider unattractive. I've had to train myself a bit to not stare at people. Sometimes I'm just taking in scenery when a woman acts like I'm staring at her, which isn't the case. Maybe she's attractive, maybe she's not. She's just part of the scenery I'm taking in.

I don't know if he's doing the same thing.



* This doesn't mean I don't check out women I find attractive repeatedly. I do that too.

NathChristian said:

Hi everyone.

I have a classmate who might like me, but I am not sure, because his behavior is a bit odd.

One day, at class, he stared at me for some 20 seconds, with a normal/ordinary facial expression.

After that, I thought "he might like me", so I would glance at him lots of times but he would never glance at me, it was almost like I didn't even exist.

Then, after 3 months, we were at the same bus, and he stared at me again, this time making facial expression that hinted he was really interested. The expressions were too sexual and I got really shy/embarrassed.

After that, I would again glance at him on class and he would NEVER glance at me. He wouldn't say hi, he wouldn't make any eye contact at all. It made me really upset because I could not tell whether he was genuine or just faking interest and playing with my heart.

When guys like a girl, they will glance at them often. So what is going on? Why would he stare at me in some occasions then just forget I exist?

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"Hey, I noticed you looking at me. Do I have something on my face?"

I know that's corny, but it is impossible to know what is going through someone's mind, unless you ask them.

I don't get embarrassed easily, but one of the most horrifically embarrassing moments in my life, was at a restaurant.

There was a group of high school, or college age kids at the end of restaurant, and one had a shirt, that I thought for sure said something about Jesus. I was utterly curious to see what the shirt said. After trying my best to get a glimpse at the shirt I gave up.

Then the person walked past me twice in a row, right by my table. In the back of my mind, I am thinking... that was too short to go to the bathroom, and they didn't have a plate of food....

...so I looked over the booths down to the end where they were, and saw one girl talk to the other girl, in what I could clearly make out "He didn't look at you this time".

In utter horror, I realized I had been staring at this girls chest the entire time, trying to read the shirt. I dropped like a rock into the seat, as low as I could get.

First time in my life, I dumped cash on the table, left all my food un-eaten, and power-walked out of the joint. Half ran to my car, and it was nearly 6 months later before I could go to that restaurant again.

But I wasn't thinking anything about the poor girl. Not that they'd believe me if I tried to tell her that... I wouldn't have believed me either. I was staring as much as a mindless male could at her, without thinking a thing.

I think it is wise to not let this take too much of your attention.

When I was younger I thought that if a guy looked at me, that this would indicate more interest toward me as well. I could also quickly develope "crush feelings" back, and most of the time I would either end up disappointed or nothing would happen out of this!

As mina told you; If he genuienly are interested in you, he will show this clearer to you. If he is shy he may work up more confidence to try getting in contact with you.

If his last time glancing at you felt sexual, I would say you would do wise in keeping your guards up!

Try to ignore him. Most teen boys are after your body so if you're a Christian, you'll focus on your books for now until you're ready for a serious relationship heading towards marriage.

Joined2krist said:

Try to ignore him. Most teen boys are after your body so if you're a Christian, you'll focus on your books for now until you're ready for a serious relationship heading towards marriage.

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