MyChainsAreGone
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I don't think being open about SSA would be helpful... unless it's within a context where you are encouraging others with the same struggle.
I don't need to know about the personal temptations that everyone is facing... we all face some, and God helps each of us as we need.
There is a mistaken notion in our culture that someone is defined by what triggers sexual interest within them. That's simply a false marker for identity.
Experiencing SSA does not define you... it's simply something you deal with personally.
Should I openly admit and represent myself as an adulterer if I struggle with temptations towards someone who is not my wife? Should I openly announce that I experience NSA (non-spouse attraction) and tell people that I'm actually an adulterer, even though I don't act upon it?
I don't think so. I wouldn't deny the struggle if asked, but I would not ever suggest that such a struggle defines me.
God has called every man to sexual fidelity to his own wife. Whether single or married, a man is still called to that fidelity, even if he doesn't know her yet.... Even if he never meets her in his lifetime, the calling to sexual fidelity is the same. By the same token, the man who experiences SSA is called to fidelity to his own wife. And if that man never marries, the calling to sexual fidelity is the same.
This means that SSA and NSA are really no different... SSA is simply a specific type of NSA. And the answer to both is the same: Sexual fidelity to one's current or future wife.
We are not called to never experience any particular sort of temptation... we are called to be faithful even while experiencing temptation. Do that. And don't apologize for the particular sort of personal temptations you face... but neither announce them. If you sense it will benefit someone, tell them in order to encourage them. But if not, don't make one sin or temptation more "noteworthy" than any other. And certainly, do not allow any one type of temptation to define who you are as a person.
I don't need to know about the personal temptations that everyone is facing... we all face some, and God helps each of us as we need.
There is a mistaken notion in our culture that someone is defined by what triggers sexual interest within them. That's simply a false marker for identity.
Experiencing SSA does not define you... it's simply something you deal with personally.
Should I openly admit and represent myself as an adulterer if I struggle with temptations towards someone who is not my wife? Should I openly announce that I experience NSA (non-spouse attraction) and tell people that I'm actually an adulterer, even though I don't act upon it?
I don't think so. I wouldn't deny the struggle if asked, but I would not ever suggest that such a struggle defines me.
God has called every man to sexual fidelity to his own wife. Whether single or married, a man is still called to that fidelity, even if he doesn't know her yet.... Even if he never meets her in his lifetime, the calling to sexual fidelity is the same. By the same token, the man who experiences SSA is called to fidelity to his own wife. And if that man never marries, the calling to sexual fidelity is the same.
This means that SSA and NSA are really no different... SSA is simply a specific type of NSA. And the answer to both is the same: Sexual fidelity to one's current or future wife.
We are not called to never experience any particular sort of temptation... we are called to be faithful even while experiencing temptation. Do that. And don't apologize for the particular sort of personal temptations you face... but neither announce them. If you sense it will benefit someone, tell them in order to encourage them. But if not, don't make one sin or temptation more "noteworthy" than any other. And certainly, do not allow any one type of temptation to define who you are as a person.
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