I know this topic has been discussed at length multiple times over many years, however, it is one that doesn't seem to get old. There are two sides of the coin strongly voicing their opinion on the matter, and I rarely see the issue lie in the middle. I would like to hear from other Christians what their thoughts are on this!
I have read things from progressive Christians, saying things like there are no such thing as gender roles anymore and no man should tell them what to do. On the opposite side, I have read things like women shouldn't venture out to go to college, get jobs or be in the world outside the home, lest she compete with men and be influenced by the evils of the world. I have read that it goes against God's design for women to have a career, quoting verses such as Titus 2:5 and 1 Timothy 5:14...with some such as "The Transformed Wife" even going so far as to say that it is a sin for a woman to work outside the home.
Let me know your thoughts on this!
That's because hard lines are easier to understand than "figure it out yourself". Right? it's easier to say "Don't do X" or "You can do X", than to say "You need to think carefully what is reasonable and right for you to do in your specific context".
So, I have two conflicting answers for you, and you'll have to figure out what works best for you.
1. Acts 16:40 talks about Lydia of Thyatira. This was a woman who ran a business as a seller of purple. Purple was the absolute most difficult color to make in their age, and thus the most expensive. That's why king routinely wore clothes of purple, because it was a sigh of wealth.
There is no evidence that Lydia was told to not work outside the home. No evidence of her being rebuked or scolded for being a women who worked a career.
This matches closely with Proverbs 31:16, which says a wife carefully appraises a field, and buys it, and then plants a vineyard.
Therefore, I believe that it is safe to conclude that there is nothing in the Bible, anywhere, that says a woman should not work outside the home, or have a career.
I am confident when I say it is not a sin at all, for a woman to work.
2. The other side is this. I think it is very bad for a woman to put her career ahead of her family. That may seem self evident, but it isn't. High paying careers, expect high levels of loyalty and time. Working the big jobs, means you can't be with your family much.
A lot of women end up getting the big job, the big money, and the big titles, and then lose their family.
My mother was a career school teacher, and she loved what she did. But as a result, I rarely saw my mother. I came home to an empty house. I watched TV until diner. By the time she got home, it was time to make something to eat. So I never saw her until dinner. We ate together for 30 minutes, and then I did my homework, and went to bed.
That was home life. I never saw my mother much.
Equally my grandmother got to the point she needed care. She wanted to live with my parents for her remaining life. My mother decided at that time, that she couldn't take care of her and work her full time job as a teacher. So we put grand mother in a nursing home. She died a few years later, and my mother regretted her choice.
Lastly, after I was through college, and had a full time job, suddenly my mother wanted to do all these things with me. She wanted to go see this play, and go to this state, and go to the beach, and go on a cruise and such.
I was living in her house for 20 years, and we rarely did anything. Now I have a job of my own, and bills to pay, and now she wants to go make up for lost time?
Can't do it.
Decades ago now, I watched a video about a woman abandoned by her husband, and was left with her three girls. She had no choice but to work, however she sat down with her girls and said openly "I can get a corporate job, and we can live in a nice place, but I won't be home much. Or I can get a low paying job, but I'll be home more. Which do you want?" Praise G-d the woman had the bravery to ask these questions of her young daughters. All 3 of her girls said, low pay, and be with us more.
Women today need to grasp this. You can't spend equal time at the corporate office and at home. You have to pick one or the other. You can't make millions, and be with your family. You get your kids for a very short time, and then the leave. Once they are gone, they are gone. If you spend that time at the corporate office, getting that high level title... than don't be surprised when if you find yourself all alone with your corporate title.