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I have no joy. Im at peace and have other spirit fruits, but am constantly kindof sluggish and Im not happy or joyful. Ive been with Christ for a while and never really had joy. Only once in a very blue moon. I would like a consistent joy. How do you get it? When I ask christians they give me bad advice or cheesy empty mottos and cliches. Please help, I need a real solution
 

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Have you had a physical check-up lately, especially one where they check your vitamin levels and that sort of thing? When you mentioned "sluggish" in your post, it made me think of a possible vitamin D deficiency. In any case, I'd rule out anything physical first.
 
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Often, joy is rare. Beautiful and welcome, but rare.

We follow Christ. What helps me a lot about Catholic theology and spirituality is a focus on the reality of carrying our crosses as a real and meaningful part of our Christian walk.

Sometimes I feel joy. But most of the time, I hope, and do my best to be humble, and love.
 
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A full medical check up is a good idea.

A regular physical exercise program is a good idea.

Set aside a prayer time daily of a few minutes to inquire of the Lord what brings you joy. Focus on what brings you joy, and when you find it, to start doing that.

May God Bless You
 
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Only once in a very blue moon. I would like a consistent joy. How do you get it?
At the expense of running by another cliche or more cheese...take hold of His promises despite the circumstances. (We walk by faith, not by sight).
 
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I have no joy. Im at peace and have other spirit fruits, but am constantly kindof sluggish and Im not happy or joyful. Ive been with Christ for a while and never really had joy. Only once in a very blue moon. I would like a consistent joy. How do you get it? When I ask christians they give me bad advice or cheesy empty mottos and cliches. Please help, I need a real solution
Do you like music...?
 
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I have no joy. Im at peace and have other spirit fruits, but am constantly kindof sluggish and Im not happy or joyful. Ive been with Christ for a while and never really had joy. Only once in a very blue moon. I would like a consistent joy. How do you get it? When I ask christians they give me bad advice or cheesy empty mottos and cliches. Please help, I need a real solution
Have you considered asking God for it?

As David asked God for it, so should we.

Psalm 51:12 “Restore unto me the joy of thy salvation; and uphold me with thy free spirit.”
 
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I have no joy. Im at peace and have other spirit fruits, but am constantly kindof sluggish and Im not happy or joyful. Ive been with Christ for a while and never really had joy. Only once in a very blue moon. I would like a consistent joy. How do you get it? When I ask christians they give me bad advice or cheesy empty mottos and cliches. Please help, I need a real solution
Spiritual joy is experienced when we revel in God and the things of God. His works of creation, Providence, and redemption are the inspiration of such joy and meditation on these things will both generate and facilitate true happiness in the soul. Not a giddiness, but a sincere, abiding contentment and confident expectation that transcends all temporal and circumstantial matters. True joy is not an absence of sorrow, but an inspired hope that the God of love will use our present bitter experiences for our ultimate good eternally.
 
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Try to find some joyful songs or make a joyful or uplifting playlist possibly, a feel good mix or something, and play it from time to time... I find music to be a great way to express emotion and get and emotional release also, express some feelings, even to and with God, ect... Praise is important to joy... That release can can help you to relax as well... Feel and be calm and at peace... And not to mention, it's one of the more "healthy" ways to do it... Anyway,

Be cool being by yourself and with yourself... But want to be around and be with other people though, anyway, you get what I'm trying to say, right...?

Know who you are, ect... Who your God is, ect... Yourself in relation to that/Him, ect...

God Bless!
 
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Try to find some joyful songs or make a joyful or uplifting playlist possibly, a feel good mix or something, and play it from time to time... I find music to be a great way to express emotion and get and emotional release also, express some feelings, even to and with God, ect... Praise is important to joy... That release can can help you to relax as well... Feel and be calm and at peace... And not to mention, it's one of the more "healthy" ways to do it... Anyway,

Be cool being by yourself and with yourself... But want to be around and be with other people though, anyway, you get what I'm trying to say, right...?

Know who you are, ect... Who your God is, ect... Yourself in relation to that/Him, ect...

God Bless!
And get out and being a blessing to others can do wonders as well, as others have said already... Takes the focus off yourself for awhile, ect...

God Bless!
 
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I have no joy. Im at peace and have other spirit fruits, but am constantly kindof sluggish and Im not happy or joyful. Ive been with Christ for a while and never really had joy. Only once in a very blue moon. I would like a consistent joy. How do you get it? When I ask christians they give me bad advice or cheesy empty mottos and cliches. Please help, I need a real solution
Clinical depression can make you sluggish.

This is not a spiritual or moral failure. It is a PHYSICAL disease, a CHEMICAL IMBALANCE, and can be corrected with the proper meds.

See your physician immediately.
 
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I have no joy. Im at peace and have other spirit fruits, but am constantly kindof sluggish and Im not happy or joyful. Ive been with Christ for a while and never really had joy. Only once in a very blue moon. I would like a consistent joy. How do you get it? When I ask christians they give me bad advice or cheesy empty mottos and cliches. Please help, I need a real solution

Question: "How can I experience joy in my Christian life?"

Answer:
Joy is something we all long for but that often seems difficult to grab hold of. Experiencing joy should be a part of every Christian’s life. Joy is a fruit of the Holy Spirit, produced by God’s work in us, and it is part of God’s will for us.

We know that even the most mature of God’s people experience periods of joylessness. For instance, Job wished he had never been born (Job 3:11). David prayed to be taken away to a place where he would not have to deal with reality (Psalm 55:6–8). Elijah, even after defeating 450 prophets of Baal with fire called down from heaven (1 Kings 18:16–46), fled into the desert and asked God to take his life (1 Kings 19:3–5). If these men struggled, how can we experience consistent joy in the Christian life?

The first thing is to realize that joy is a gift from God. The root word for joy in the Greek is chara, which is closely related with the Greek charis for “grace.” Joy is both a gift of God as well as a response to the gifts of God. Joy comes when we are aware of God’s grace and relish His favor.

With this in mind, it’s evident that one way to experience joy is to focus on God. Rather than dwelling on our difficulties or those things robbing our contentment, we can dwell on God. This is not to say we should deny our discontent or stuff negative emotions. Following the example of many of the psalmists, we can pour out our hearts to God. We can tell Him bluntly all the things that ail us. But then we submit those things to Him, remember who He is, and are happy in Him. Psalms 3, 13, 18, 43, and 103 are good examples.

The book of Philippians has much to say about joy, even though Paul wrote the epistle from prison. Philippians 4:4–8 gives some guidelines for experiencing joy in the Christian life: “Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! . . . The Lord is near. Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” Here we see the importance of praising God, remembering that He is near, praying about our worries, and keeping our minds focused on the good things of God. We can experience joy when we intentionally praise. David wrote that the study of God’s Word can bring us joy (Psalm 19:8). We experience joy by communing with God through prayer. And we experience joy by keeping our focus on godly things rather than on difficult circumstances or discontentment.

Jesus also gave some instructions regarding joy. In John 15 He talked about abiding in Him and obeying Him. He said, “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my love. If you keep my commands, you will remain in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commands and remain in his love. I have told you this so that my joy may be in you and that your joy may be complete” (John 15:9–11). One of the keys to joy is living in obedience to God.

Another way to experience joy in the Christian life is through community. God gave Elijah rest and then sent a man, Elisha, to help him (1 Kings 19:19–21). We, too, need friends that we can share our hurts and pains with (Ecclesiastes 4:9–12). Hebrews 10:19–25 says, “Brothers and sisters . . . let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.” Because of the grace of God, we know we can approach God confidently in prayer (Hebrews 10:19). We know we are cleansed of our sin (Hebrews 10:22). And we are joined into a new community, a family of believers. With our fellow believers, we hold firm to our faith, trusting in the character of God. We also encourage one another. Christians do not belong to this world (John 17:14–16; Philippians 3:20). We long to be with God, finally restored to our original design. Life can be lonely and discouraging. Others help remind us of truth, carry our burdens with us, and strengthen us to continue on (Galatians 6:10; Colossians 3:12–14).

Joy is meant to be a hallmark of the Christian life. It is a fruit of the Holy Spirit and a gift of God. We best receive this gift when we focus on the truth of who God is, commune with Him through prayer, and rely on the community of believers He has provided.

www.gotquestions.org/joy-Christian.html
 
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I have no joy. Im at peace and have other spirit fruits, but am constantly kindof sluggish and Im not happy or joyful. Ive been with Christ for a while and never really had joy. Only once in a very blue moon. I would like a consistent joy. How do you get it? When I ask christians they give me bad advice or cheesy empty mottos and cliches. Please help, I need a real solution
 
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I have no joy. Im at peace and have other spirit fruits, but am constantly kindof sluggish and Im not happy or joyful. Ive been with Christ for a while and never really had joy. Only once in a very blue moon. I would like a consistent joy. How do you get it? When I ask christians they give me bad advice or cheesy empty mottos and cliches. Please help, I need a real solution

Last summer I preached a message on the joy of the Lord is our strength. It turned out that I had to minister that message the day after my father died... On Father's day weekend no less. Obviously it was a extremely difficult thing to do. The focus was more on the strength side than the joy, but I believe the two are directly connected and you could use more of both (as could all of us). And I did talk about joy some as well.

There was a lot in there, but if I had to pick out 1 thing I think it would be this: you can't get strength from something you are hiding in, or hiding from. Be open and honest about your weaknesses to God, and those you trust. That opens the door for Him to strengthen you, which then opens the door for joy to rise up, even where it would seem to have no earthly business rising up.

Anyway, if you think it might be of help and you are at all interested I can pm you a link to the message.
 
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Do you have any hobby? I find walking therapeutic. If you like listening to music, get a good mix to help uplift your spirit. If you're like me then I suggest you take regular walks, you'll feel fit and relaxed afterwards.
 
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Look up potential vitamine-boosts, start exercise a few times a week. Preach the gospel to yourself, do you really understand and live by what Christ did? Joy can be found through Him by the renewing of your mind through prayer and reading the Word of God. Seriously, the Word and properly understanding the cross, looking at the grace and all the promises will make you joyful. You will have to contend for it, your emotions might lie to you and Satan wants to steal your joy, be sure of that.
 
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