Doing Good Deeds

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As I have explained before I'm not a very outgoing person. I'm very unsocial. I'm sure you've heard the whole "I have been hurt" attitude. So, I am not going to bore you with my story about being hurt. It is actually getting old.

But I was wondering why people think that you cannot love other people without fellowshipping with other people. There is so many good things that you can do online. For example, you have the GoFundMe page and you can sponsor a child. Why do we need to fellowship in order for us to show love towards one another?

I know I am just looking for an excuse to not being Fellowship sometimes. It can be very difficult. But somebody wants told me that I cannot have that sacrificial love without being in Fellowship. And I'm just trying to understand how that is so. I'm not trying to argue with anybody and I'm not willing to argue with anybody. I am actually trying to learn. But a person who struggles social anxiety can still do a lot of good. Am I right? He can sponsor a child, or help people on the GoFundMe page. Isn't God pleased with people who do good deeds regardless of whether they socialize or not?

Okay, I will admit, I'm really scared to go to church. I went 2 weeks ago and I did not go this last Sunday. I want to obey God about loving other people, but I just don't want to fellowship with them. My biggest fear is being hurt, especially with my sin struggles.

Would God care if I just take some time to myself, but still did some good like sponsor a child or something? I am planning on joining a church someday, but maybe someday is not today.
 
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Would God care if I just take some time to myself, but still did some good like sponsor a child or something? I am planning on joining a church someday, but maybe someday is not today.
If you are unable to stand it in church, I am sure He understands.

However, I persist in believing that there is a good church for almost everyone, so I am sorry whenever anyone swears off church attendance categorically.
 
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Doing good things and giving the glory to God is always a good thing regardless of fellowship or not. DO IT. You are overthinking a lot of things and in a way I kind of understand I've seen your previous posts. The church isn't God, you can't change how people react, and there's nothing to be anxious about. Just do the right thing, love the LORD with your all your heart, mind, and soul. Love others as you love yourself. Do that you will fall into the place you belong.
 
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Maybe we need to approach this from another angle. While fellowshipping is said to be one of the benefits of churchgoing, and the Bible supports that, it does not mean that you have to be a glad-hander, go to the coffee hours after the service, chat with everyone, and so on.

There are plenty of people attending a range of churches who simply get lost in their thoughts while sitting in their chair or pew. It is not thought awful or wrong to do that and just say Hi or Good Morning and nothing else to the other people on the way in or out.
 
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As I have explained before I'm not a very outgoing person. I'm very unsocial. I'm sure you've heard the whole "I have been hurt" attitude. So, I am not going to bore you with my story about being hurt. It is actually getting old.

But I was wondering why people think that you cannot love other people without fellowshipping with other people. There is so many good things that you can do online. For example, you have the GoFundMe page and you can sponsor a child. Why do we need to fellowship in order for us to show love towards one another?

I know I am just looking for an excuse to not being Fellowship sometimes. It can be very difficult. But somebody wants told me that I cannot have that sacrificial love without being in Fellowship. And I'm just trying to understand how that is so. I'm not trying to argue with anybody and I'm not willing to argue with anybody. I am actually trying to learn. But a person who struggles social anxiety can still do a lot of good. Am I right? He can sponsor a child, or help people on the GoFundMe page. Isn't God pleased with people who do good deeds regardless of whether they socialize or not?

Okay, I will admit, I'm really scared to go to church. I went 2 weeks ago and I did not go this last Sunday. I want to obey God about loving other people, but I just don't want to fellowship with them. My biggest fear is being hurt, especially with my sin struggles.

Would God care if I just take some time to myself, but still did some good like sponsor a child or something? I am planning on joining a church someday, but maybe someday is not today.


God created us all as humans, he took our spirts and implanted them into us.

In a spiritual way we can communicate yes, like sending money to others.

But in the flesh we need human connections, just not for you, but for them.

I see in your argument to yourself its one sided and thats not fair to the other people.

What about how they fell? do they need human connection? Yes, and so do you, your screaming it out right now.

I also need it, crave it, wish for it, but also have no one to have a human connection with.
On a daily basis I also cry out inside, but there are no humans around, just robots who only want for them self.

If you start to give human connection, others will break out and also start to give back human connection.

Love is a feeling we crave, but not only spiritual, we all need human touch and human communication to survive.
 
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Maybe we need to approach this from another angle. While fellowshipping is said to be one of the benefits of churchgoing, and the Bible supports that, it does not mean that you have to be a glad-hander, go to the coffee hours after the service, chat with everyone, and so on.

There are plenty of people attending a range of churches who simply get lost in their thoughts while sitting in their chair or pew. It is not thought awful or wrong to do that and just say Hi or Good Morning and nothing else to the other people on the way in or out.
Yes, this is true.

FWIW, many Catholics seem to be deeply shy. We don't generally fellowship a lot. Attend Mass, smile or nodd at each other on the way out, go home. That doesn't mean that we don't love the Mass, love each other, or deeply enjoy worshipping in our hearts.

We're just generally a quiet bunch. And that's ok.
 
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As I have explained before I'm not a very outgoing person. I'm very unsocial. I'm sure you've heard the whole "I have been hurt" attitude. So, I am not going to bore you with my story about being hurt. It is actually getting old.

But I was wondering why people think that you cannot love other people without fellowshipping with other people. There is so many good things that you can do online. For example, you have the GoFundMe page and you can sponsor a child. Why do we need to fellowship in order for us to show love towards one another?

I know I am just looking for an excuse to not being Fellowship sometimes. It can be very difficult. But somebody wants told me that I cannot have that sacrificial love without being in Fellowship. And I'm just trying to understand how that is so. I'm not trying to argue with anybody and I'm not willing to argue with anybody. I am actually trying to learn. But a person who struggles social anxiety can still do a lot of good. Am I right? He can sponsor a child, or help people on the GoFundMe page. Isn't God pleased with people who do good deeds regardless of whether they socialize or not?

Okay, I will admit, I'm really scared to go to church. I went 2 weeks ago and I did not go this last Sunday. I want to obey God about loving other people, but I just don't want to fellowship with them. My biggest fear is being hurt, especially with my sin struggles.

Would God care if I just take some time to myself, but still did some good like sponsor a child or something? I am planning on joining a church someday, but maybe someday is not today.

The purpose of the church is to help strengthen each others faith, get the good news out about Jesus and help others. Many people do not or can not attend church for one reason or another (like myself)

There are many good charities out there. This is the way I look at it ... I live on a limited income ... so I try to balance things. Here are two places you might consider. There are of course many good charities.

Getting Gods word into peoples hands (getting the good news out) .... even in oppressed countries
Back to Jerusalem – Pill-Bible Project

Helping children who are victimized in child trafficking
Operation Underground Railroad

I self study Gods word myself intensively. Always self study.

Proverbs 2

1 My son, if you accept my words
and hide my commandments within you,
2if you incline your ear to wisdom
ad direct your heart to understanding,
3if you truly call out to insight
and lift your voice to understanding,
4if you seek it like silver
and search it out like hidden treasure,
5then you will discern the fear of the LORD
and discover the knowledge of God.

The Lord has made it possible through many means to help His church (all those who believe in Him) ... it's not exclusively about a physical building church/organization ... it's about ones relationship with Jesus. When one has that relationship then it is a natural response to want to do good deeds because He has given you a new heart.

God Bless.
 
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don't get overly worried about doing good deeds. they aren't going to get you right spiritually and there is nothing overly Christian or 'godly' in doing good deeds as 'good deeds' are very common. focus on your own spiritual health first, then you will be better equipped to help others in the future.
 
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There are, to this day, hermit monks who hardly ever come into contact with other people...but if you read stories of the lives of some of these in the past, they loved people very deeply. They spent much of their time weeping for the sufferings of people in the world, and praying for all of them. You don't need to be in physical contact with people to love them. You don't even need to have money or other material things to offer in order to help them, though if you have these things to share that is good also...if not, you still can offer your love, empathy, and sincere prayers.

That being said, I believe going to Church and participating in the prayer and sacraments there is important for us...not only because it provides fellowship with other Christians, but because it has effects on our soul which help us to become closer to God. As someone above made mention, you don't need to stay for the coffee hour and have conversations with other people if you aren't comfortable with those things...often, it is even more beneficial for us to remain in silence and contemplation after church.
 
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In addition, one thing that has crossed my mind in times that I start coming up with reasons not to go to church... ("I'm exhausted." "I can just go another day this week." "I'm in a bad mood and don't want to interact with other people right now." Etc...) Is how many people there are who live in countries in the midst of war, or where Christianity is not allowed, or where there are no churches, or people who are in prison, or bedridden, and that many of them would give absolutely anything to be able to walk into a church and pray, while I casually brush it off... So then I go, and while I'm there I try to keep those people in mind and pray for God to be near to them and give them comfort, and also to help me be more thankful for having the opportunity which so many do not. It is a great gift we have, not something we should disdain so casually...and in the future, maybe we will not have it.
 
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I'm introverted myself. I understand the draw of the Internet as opposed to face-to-face interaction. There is value in what you can do over the Internet, and there has always been value in intercessory prayer (for those that bother to do it, and stay with it), as well as in acts of service done in secret (when we can do them).

But fellowship helps you get better at loving people in unique ways. It also provides you with more opportunities to do acts of service, secret and otherwise. It's hard to explain as it happens experientially once you get community life going.

"Are there not enough sins on earth, as it is, but we must tempt God, interfere in His judgment, and make money-bags of his saints? Therefore my advice is to let the saints glorify themselves; or rather, God alone should glorify them, and every man should keep to his own parish, where he will profit more than in all these shrines, even if they were all put together into one shrine. Here a man finds Baptism, the Sacrament, preaching, and his neighbour, and these are more than all the saints in Heaven, for it is by God’s word and sacrament that they have all been hallowed." - Martin Luther, 27 Articles Respecting the Reformation of the Christian Estate​
 
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As I have explained before I'm not a very outgoing person. I'm very unsocial. I'm sure you've heard the whole "I have been hurt" attitude. So, I am not going to bore you with my story about being hurt. It is actually getting old.

But I was wondering why people think that you cannot love other people without fellowshipping with other people. There is so many good things that you can do online. For example, you have the GoFundMe page and you can sponsor a child. Why do we need to fellowship in order for us to show love towards one another?

I know I am just looking for an excuse to not being Fellowship sometimes. It can be very difficult. But somebody wants told me that I cannot have that sacrificial love without being in Fellowship. And I'm just trying to understand how that is so. I'm not trying to argue with anybody and I'm not willing to argue with anybody. I am actually trying to learn. But a person who struggles social anxiety can still do a lot of good. Am I right? He can sponsor a child, or help people on the GoFundMe page. Isn't God pleased with people who do good deeds regardless of whether they socialize or not?

Okay, I will admit, I'm really scared to go to church. I went 2 weeks ago and I did not go this last Sunday. I want to obey God about loving other people, but I just don't want to fellowship with them. My biggest fear is being hurt, especially with my sin struggles.

Would God care if I just take some time to myself, but still did some good like sponsor a child or something? I am planning on joining a church someday, but maybe someday is not today.

Perhaps it might be better to look at as God giving you the opportunity to teach you how to love others when it is difficult. I recommend this video on becoming love:

 
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First, the Bible never even tell us to go to Church. The word "Church" is just a Greek translation of "ecclesia" which simply means a gathering of believers at any time and any place. The early believers never heard of a big building with a cross on top where people went to worship on Sundays. (If anyone wants to debate this, sorry, this is not a debate forum and I have already done my homework.)

So, if you feel blessed at a Church, go to that one. If you cant find one where you feel comfortable, what does it matter since you are not commanded to go to Church anyway? Now there may be some online Churches where they have live services which you can check out and maybe e-participate in.
They may have a chat box where you can say things to others and leave prayers for them in live time.

We are told not to forsake the assembling of ourselves with other believers. But, again, we are not told to go to a Church.

What does the Bible really say about the Sabbath? (I won't get into what day it really is on, Saturday or Sunday, as, again this is not a debate forum.) It says to rest, to congregate (but, again, not in a Church) and to even have our animals and servants rest. Now so often people think they have done their Christian duty if they go to Church on Sunday. Then they go shopping where people have to be servants to them, ditto to restaurants. In Isaiah we are shown not to even make financial transactions on the Sabbath and to keep the day "holy unto YHWH" i.e. the Lord. But, again, those Church goers generally think nothing of watching worldly entertainment on the day they think is the Sabbath.

May I suggest you research over, and worry more about, what the Bible actually says about how to keep the Sabbath, as that will be more of a blessing to you than going where you don't feel comfortable.
 
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