my wife and I have been married for 20 years. Things have been good for the most part but the last couple of years have really been a struggle. Last year she found out that the guy she dated for 4 years before we got married was getting divorced and was putting his house up for sale. I’m not sure when she reached out to him but last April she called me while I was at work and told me that she was heading to his house to help him clean it. I protested and told her that she had no business going over there. For many years she has thrown his name up in my face when I didn’t do something that she expected me to. So I have insecurities regarding him. She went to his house anyway. The next week I busted her at his house after she had turned her phone off and told our daughter she was working late. She was cleaning but she lied about where she was because she knew I’d have a problem with it. Prior to and after this event she had told me during arguments that after our daughter graduates high school (she’s in 8th grade) that we were through. She’s told me during arguments that she warned a divorce. I always came back groveling. Last May I had had enough and told her why wait 5 years? That led to a long conversation where I confessed that I had fallen out of love with her.
Fast forward a year...I’m still here doing my best. Over the past couple of weeks she has been extremely nasty towards me. Accusing me of things like being close with a coworker, blaming me for things. She got into an argument a few days ago with her parents over a card game and started yelling and being disrespectful to them and spewing “venom”. I tried to restrain her from re entering the room so that things would calm down and she used her fingernails on my arm and drew blood. Since then, she has literally told me that she wished I would just have an affair (in very crude language) so that she could be free. This was said in front of a witness....repeatedly. I have never...ever...put myself in a position to ever cheat, nor would I.
Today I found out that she has continually been texting the ex boyfriend for who knows how long. And he has told her that if she wanted to come over he would leave his side door unlocked.
I feel like I’ve had enough. Although I don’t think she has cheated on me...I can’t get over the fact that she said she wished I would. We believe divorce is only acceptable due to adultery....but I’m about at the point to just do it and live alone for the rest of my life.
My daughter (14) told me that she wants us to divorce.
What do I do?????
Fast forward a year...I’m still here doing my best. Over the past couple of weeks she has been extremely nasty towards me. Accusing me of things like being close with a coworker, blaming me for things. She got into an argument a few days ago with her parents over a card game and started yelling and being disrespectful to them and spewing “venom”. I tried to restrain her from re entering the room so that things would calm down and she used her fingernails on my arm and drew blood. Since then, she has literally told me that she wished I would just have an affair (in very crude language) so that she could be free. This was said in front of a witness....repeatedly. I have never...ever...put myself in a position to ever cheat, nor would I.
Today I found out that she has continually been texting the ex boyfriend for who knows how long. And he has told her that if she wanted to come over he would leave his side door unlocked.
I feel like I’ve had enough. Although I don’t think she has cheated on me...I can’t get over the fact that she said she wished I would. We believe divorce is only acceptable due to adultery....but I’m about at the point to just do it and live alone for the rest of my life.
My daughter (14) told me that she wants us to divorce.
What do I do?????