I met this single Christian woman locally, which is quite rare in my age bracket around here. She's been divorced for 2 years.
She's actively looking for a romantic partners. We had some discussions about the whole "re-marrying" thing and turns out from a church group (Marriage Permanence) she formally attended that she shouldn't re-marry nor get into anything romantic as the reason for the divorce was due in part not by infidelity, but by the fact that 1. She got tired of carrying the weight financially in the relationship. He had illusions of grandeur for becoming an actor and it never happened.
That your first spouse would need to die for you to be able to remarry.
When they first met, they were both in a stable job, but he quit to pursue his dream. He also had a inappropriate content addiction, so there's that.
Anyway, she's been conflicted on whether or not to get romantically involved with someone new. She said she's read that part of the Bible constantly, looking for some finality to it. But hasn't gotten an answer.
I was like "Well, there is a lot of grey areas out there". I mentioned how I had an uncle that was in a considerably in an abusive marriage to a woman for about 2 decades. Our family members were trying to get him to file for divorce, but as a Christian that's "not what Christians do"
But...he finally did cave and found someone new that treats him well, and is very happy.
That said, could God make an exception here? I mean, when you get to the pearly gates will God say, "Well, your first wife did treat you like crap, and this one, you know, does not...so I can rule this one out"?
That's the part that she doesn't get. How can someone treat you like crap, be unsupportive, etc etc, and God not allow you to find someone that's good for you?
Some actually believe this is one of those sins that give you a one-way ticket to hell. No mercy for this type of sin. That there is no reptentense for this one.
Me, as a NEVER married mid-40s guy, I run into a constant slew of divorced women, most of which marriages ended due to reasons NOT because of infidelity, but because of them being abused or had spouses that suffered from substance abuse. Why should it be a sin for me to be involved with them?
Also, she thinks that the one FILING for the divorce and remarrying should be the adulterous one, not her.
She's actively looking for a romantic partners. We had some discussions about the whole "re-marrying" thing and turns out from a church group (Marriage Permanence) she formally attended that she shouldn't re-marry nor get into anything romantic as the reason for the divorce was due in part not by infidelity, but by the fact that 1. She got tired of carrying the weight financially in the relationship. He had illusions of grandeur for becoming an actor and it never happened.
That your first spouse would need to die for you to be able to remarry.
When they first met, they were both in a stable job, but he quit to pursue his dream. He also had a inappropriate content addiction, so there's that.
Anyway, she's been conflicted on whether or not to get romantically involved with someone new. She said she's read that part of the Bible constantly, looking for some finality to it. But hasn't gotten an answer.
I was like "Well, there is a lot of grey areas out there". I mentioned how I had an uncle that was in a considerably in an abusive marriage to a woman for about 2 decades. Our family members were trying to get him to file for divorce, but as a Christian that's "not what Christians do"
But...he finally did cave and found someone new that treats him well, and is very happy.
That said, could God make an exception here? I mean, when you get to the pearly gates will God say, "Well, your first wife did treat you like crap, and this one, you know, does not...so I can rule this one out"?
That's the part that she doesn't get. How can someone treat you like crap, be unsupportive, etc etc, and God not allow you to find someone that's good for you?
Some actually believe this is one of those sins that give you a one-way ticket to hell. No mercy for this type of sin. That there is no reptentense for this one.
Me, as a NEVER married mid-40s guy, I run into a constant slew of divorced women, most of which marriages ended due to reasons NOT because of infidelity, but because of them being abused or had spouses that suffered from substance abuse. Why should it be a sin for me to be involved with them?
Also, she thinks that the one FILING for the divorce and remarrying should be the adulterous one, not her.
Last edited: