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I miss going to church but I just cannot go because noise just really hurts my ears. Even sitting in the cry room with adjustable volume doesn't help because sound coming through speakers really messes with my hearing and because eventually someone will come in with a crying baby (which is what the room is actually for) and I have to leave it until the child is removed.
I wish I could ask my church to come to my house and minister to me but my mother would never agree with that and they already are barely able to minister to those in the nearby care home (they only do services for the elderly there once or twice a month).
I don't get any emotional support from my mother (she has a really hard time with empathy for human beings) and my friends are all too busy or too far away.
I need to go to see a therapist but I can't even afford a sliding scale therapist and there are none in my area that are Christian and affordable.
I just want someone to talk to and be a support to me without any judgement but there is no one I can ask. Not even online.I'm not sure what to do. My life is so miserable as it is. Each day I struggle through my tasks (even more so if I have to go to work) and go home to my room to cry for a few hours and browse the web until I get tired enough to fall asleep. Every time I attempt to just tell someone I'm having a hard time keeping faith or just a hard time in general I get judged or brushed off.
I know how you feel. You are not alone. I had a serious incident involving intense noise and ever since, I have had constant ringing in the ears. One ear is almost deaf, and one ear (while it still rings) is my best ear to hear out of. I work in an environment that is loud and noisy, and so I am forced to wear both ear plugs and ear muffs.
There are a few options available to you in your situation:
Option #1. House Churches.
(Not affiliated with a big church)
(Affiliated with a big church).
There are many home churches who meet up to discuss God's Word. Some home churches or house meet up groups are affiliated with a big church building in your area, and sometimes they are not affiliated with a big church organization. You can do a search online for both. Many house church meet ups (not all) do not have children present.
Option #2. Online Fellowship and Instruction.
If the house church meet up thing is not working, you can also watch tons of sermons online for free at YouTube, and give to the poor via online, and give to those who preach the gospel online. You can read tons of Christian articles online. You can interact with Christians online via forums, Christian social groups, youtube, etc.
Option #3. Traditional Church (Wearing Ear plugs and Ear Muffs).
While I personally would not endorse attending a large church (because I do not find that kind of fellowship as biblical), if you are determined about going to the actual church because you like the connection there (and that is where you would feel most comfortable for now), I would suggest to wear both ear plugs and ear muffs. If people ask, just say you have ringing in the ears and you do not want the ringing to get worse (if such a statement is true for you).
Ear Plug and Ear Muff Protection:
When I see Christian movies, I take both my ear plugs and ear muffs. The ear muffs is for the parts of the movie when it gets really loud. I wear both!!!! If not, the ringing in my ears will get louder - Meaning: I just lost more hearing (i.e. More of those tiny hairs in my ear just went flat or they got bent out of shape). When I want to hear the actors talking when they appear to be taking really softly, I pull the earplugs out a little (still leaving them in), and then shove them back in as needed when things in the movie start to get loud again.
I even go to the grocery store with ear plugs. They are the big bright green ear plugs. The green Moldex meteor ear plugs are the best in my opinion. They even have ear muffs that can adjust noise levels to your liking and it will not get too loud, too. I would recommend to wear ear plugs and ear muffs in any super loud environment like a church, movie, crowded airport, crowded mall, etc.. My wife is also sensitive to noise. We are both young looking and you would not think we would have noise damage to our ears, but we do. We had only one person ask us why we were both wearing ear plugs, and we told them that we have ringing in the ears, and loud noises in the store just makes the ringing in our ears louder or worse. I even wear ear plugs on the highway because the pavement that we have for our high way in our city is loud unlike traditional blacktop highways that are much more quite. Also, we have monster trucks and sports cars driving past us all the time in our area and they are insanely loud. So my ear plugs are a necessity to survival of my hearing. I do have tan ear plugs that are more covert, but they are not as good as the moldex Meteor ones that are bright green. If they made a tan version, I would buy them. But they don't sell them (to my knowledge).
Buy the kind of ear muffs that gun owners or hunters use. The ear muffs have to be the best in blocking out noise so as to protect what hearing you have left. Also, sometimes people have ringing in the ears because they snore insanely loud (and they do not even realize it). In this case, folks like this need to see a sleep doctor and get an air machine called a "CPAP." They will wear an air mask when they sleep, but it will stop them (or minimize them) from snoring insanely loud (Which is not good for their ears). Also, avoid loud appliances like washers and dryers and running bath water. Sometimes doing the dishes can be noisy. In these cases, use ear muffs. In fact, I have coat and or towel hangers in my place, and I try to keep ear muffs handy on these hooks through out our place. Buy several pairs of ears muffs and have them handy always.
I even go to the grocery store with ear plugs. They are the big bright green ear plugs. The green Moldex meteor ear plugs are the best in my opinion. They even have ear muffs that can adjust noise levels to your liking and it will not get too loud, too. I would recommend to wear ear plugs and ear muffs in any super loud environment like a church, movie, crowded airport, crowded mall, etc.. My wife is also sensitive to noise. We are both young looking and you would not think we would have noise damage to our ears, but we do. We had only one person ask us why we were both wearing ear plugs, and we told them that we have ringing in the ears, and loud noises in the store just makes the ringing in our ears louder or worse. I even wear ear plugs on the highway because the pavement that we have for our high way in our city is loud unlike traditional blacktop highways that are much more quite. Also, we have monster trucks and sports cars driving past us all the time in our area and they are insanely loud. So my ear plugs are a necessity to survival of my hearing. I do have tan ear plugs that are more covert, but they are not as good as the moldex Meteor ones that are bright green. If they made a tan version, I would buy them. But they don't sell them (to my knowledge).
Buy the kind of ear muffs that gun owners or hunters use. The ear muffs have to be the best in blocking out noise so as to protect what hearing you have left. Also, sometimes people have ringing in the ears because they snore insanely loud (and they do not even realize it). In this case, folks like this need to see a sleep doctor and get an air machine called a "CPAP." They will wear an air mask when they sleep, but it will stop them (or minimize them) from snoring insanely loud (Which is not good for their ears). Also, avoid loud appliances like washers and dryers and running bath water. Sometimes doing the dishes can be noisy. In these cases, use ear muffs. In fact, I have coat and or towel hangers in my place, and I try to keep ear muffs handy on these hooks through out our place. Buy several pairs of ears muffs and have them handy always.
Conclusion:
Actually, I believe houses churches is the biblical form of fellowship.
God's Order in the Church vs Man's Order
The Pastor King (New)
But I also believe we are living in the last days and that finding believers who truly want to follow Jesus as we read in the New Testament is becoming more and more increasingly difficult. So sometimes online is the only way to minister, learn, and fellowship these days.
Anyways, I hope what I said here helps;
And may God bless you.
With loving kindness to you in Christ,
Sincerely,
~ Jason.
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