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hey guys. I really need some support.

My husband refused to repeat something when I asked him and it turned into a huge argument. I am hard of hearing and have constant tinnitus. My hearing loss is around 15-25 decibels, depending on the frequency. It's not severe enough for me to get a hearing aid according to the audiologist.

My husband always asserts his right to not repeat himself and he did that this time. I told him that I often live life from the outside looking in because of how little I can hear. He said that even so, he doesn't have to say anything again and he doesn't want to.

It hurts so bad. I've been crying a lot about it and don't know what to do or say. I've explained my condition to him. We've been together for 10 years, maybe he's just tired of it. Anyway then he gets really angry when I cry. Because I am very sensitive. He seems to take it personally when I get upset, I'm not sure why that's happening.

I am socially isolated because of my hearing problem. Sometimes I pretend to hear what people say just so I don't annoy them with asking them to repeat themselves all the time. Or sometimes I just say "I didn't hear you," to my husband, and leave it at that.

So I really am trying to keep things peaceful, but I am growing weary. I don't have any other family or friends nearby. Right now, God is the only One who gets me, or even knows me. And that's ok because He's my rock. But it's still difficult on a daily basis. Fighting the fight with my Commander, but little fellow infantry. Thank God for our kids. We worship Him together and talk about Him.

Pray for our little church, for us to not grow weary of seeking God while we're in the battleground. And pray that one day my husband will want to have joy in the Lord too.

The local churches here are strange and power-hungry. This is a spiritually desolate zone, very different from where I grew up. I hope to attend a small church soon that has a few people who I love. Please pray for my family and me. There's no doubt in my mind that we're being spiritually attacked.
 

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hey guys. I really need some support.

My husband refused to repeat something when I asked him and it turned into a huge argument. I am hard of hearing and have constant tinnitus. My hearing loss is around 15-25 decibels, depending on the frequency. It's not severe enough for me to get a hearing aid according to the audiologist.

My husband always asserts his right to not repeat himself and he did that this time. I told him that I often live life from the outside looking in because of how little I can hear. He said that even so, he doesn't have to say anything again and he doesn't want to.

It hurts so bad. I've been crying a lot about it and don't know what to do or say. I've explained my condition to him. We've been together for 10 years, maybe he's just tired of it. Anyway then he gets really angry when I cry. Because I am very sensitive. He seems to take it personally when I get upset, I'm not sure why that's happening.

I am socially isolated because of my hearing problem. Sometimes I pretend to hear what people say just so I don't annoy them with asking them to repeat themselves all the time. Or sometimes I just say "I didn't hear you," to my husband, and leave it at that.

So I really am trying to keep things peaceful, but I am growing weary. I don't have any other family or friends nearby. Right now, God is the only One who gets me, or even knows me. And that's ok because He's my rock. But it's still difficult on a daily basis. Fighting the fight with my Commander, but little fellow infantry. Thank God for our kids. We worship Him together and talk about Him.

Pray for our little church, for us to not grow weary of seeking God while we're in the battleground. And pray that one day my husband will want to have joy in the Lord too.

The local churches here are strange and power-hungry. This is a spiritually desolate zone, very different from where I grew up. I hope to attend a small church soon that has a few people who I love. Please pray for my family and me. There's no doubt in my mind that we're being spiritually attacked.

Hello! You sound like me. I have hearing loss (and I'm losing more and more as time goes on) and I also have loud tinnitus. I also know how it feels when people get frustrated with you for asking them to repeat what they said several times. You and I are in the same boat essentially as far as that is concerned.

I will definitely pray for both you and I and for your husband too. May God have mercy and compassion on us and move the hearts of those around us and in our lives to be compassionate to us too. <3

(Also, if you want to have someone to talk to about the struggles of hearing loss and tinnitus feel free to PM me :) )
 
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hey guys. I really need some support.

My husband refused to repeat something when I asked him and it turned into a huge argument. I am hard of hearing and have constant tinnitus. My hearing loss is around 15-25 decibels, depending on the frequency. It's not severe enough for me to get a hearing aid according to the audiologist.

My husband always asserts his right to not repeat himself and he did that this time. I told him that I often live life from the outside looking in because of how little I can hear. He said that even so, he doesn't have to say anything again and he doesn't want to.

It hurts so bad. I've been crying a lot about it and don't know what to do or say. I've explained my condition to him. We've been together for 10 years, maybe he's just tired of it. Anyway then he gets really angry when I cry. Because I am very sensitive. He seems to take it personally when I get upset, I'm not sure why that's happening.

I am socially isolated because of my hearing problem. Sometimes I pretend to hear what people say just so I don't annoy them with asking them to repeat themselves all the time. Or sometimes I just say "I didn't hear you," to my husband, and leave it at that.

So I really am trying to keep things peaceful, but I am growing weary. I don't have any other family or friends nearby. Right now, God is the only One who gets me, or even knows me. And that's ok because He's my rock. But it's still difficult on a daily basis. Fighting the fight with my Commander, but little fellow infantry. Thank God for our kids. We worship Him together and talk about Him.

Pray for our little church, for us to not grow weary of seeking God while we're in the battleground. And pray that one day my husband will want to have joy in the Lord too.

The local churches here are strange and power-hungry. This is a spiritually desolate zone, very different from where I grew up. I hope to attend a small church soon that has a few people who I love. Please pray for my family and me. There's no doubt in my mind that we're being spiritually attacked.
Here is a book for your comfort - Desire of Ages

Perhaps you may ask your husband to write things down when asked a question in a little notepad, and you can begin by writing a love letter to him explain this, or to get two phones and have text to each other, that way you can read what is said or asked, for they have an app where he could speak into the phone, and it will text you what was stated or asked. Only a suggestion to make things easier. For in the days of Jesus, when Zacharias couldn't speak, he got a writing table to communicate. Jesus communicates through the written word.

Be of good cheer, for God knoweth the heart and physical condition, and your husband may be just upset with himself rather than you.

Cry, LORD Jesus, have mercy upon me, a person with hearing loss.

It is written:

Lev_19:14 Thou shalt not curse the deaf, nor put a stumblingblock before the blind, but shalt fear thy God: I am the LORD.
 
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hey guys. I really need some support.

My husband refused to repeat something when I asked him and it turned into a huge argument. I am hard of hearing and have constant tinnitus. My hearing loss is around 15-25 decibels, depending on the frequency. It's not severe enough for me to get a hearing aid according to the audiologist.

My husband always asserts his right to not repeat himself and he did that this time. I told him that I often live life from the outside looking in because of how little I can hear. He said that even so, he doesn't have to say anything again and he doesn't want to.

It hurts so bad. I've been crying a lot about it and don't know what to do or say. I've explained my condition to him. We've been together for 10 years, maybe he's just tired of it. Anyway then he gets really angry when I cry. Because I am very sensitive. He seems to take it personally when I get upset, I'm not sure why that's happening.

I am socially isolated because of my hearing problem. Sometimes I pretend to hear what people say just so I don't annoy them with asking them to repeat themselves all the time. Or sometimes I just say "I didn't hear you," to my husband, and leave it at that.

So I really am trying to keep things peaceful, but I am growing weary. I don't have any other family or friends nearby. Right now, God is the only One who gets me, or even knows me. And that's ok because He's my rock. But it's still difficult on a daily basis. Fighting the fight with my Commander, but little fellow infantry. Thank God for our kids. We worship Him together and talk about Him.

Pray for our little church, for us to not grow weary of seeking God while we're in the battleground. And pray that one day my husband will want to have joy in the Lord too.

The local churches here are strange and power-hungry. This is a spiritually desolate zone, very different from where I grew up. I hope to attend a small church soon that has a few people who I love. Please pray for my family and me. There's no doubt in my mind that we're being spiritually attacked.
In general, it takes more for a man to be open with his thoughts and feelings than it is for women. This can make the need to repeat frustrating to us. Your husband needs to get into the habit of speaking to you in a louder voice. It may be awkward for him at first, but he'd probably get used to it eventually.
Lately, I have also been suffering from severe tinnitus and acute hearing loss. So much so, that I can barely hear anything people say. May the Lord give us grace to suffer in a way that will bring Him honor.
 
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hey guys. I really need some support.

My husband refused to repeat something when I asked him and it turned into a huge argument. I am hard of hearing and have constant tinnitus. My hearing loss is around 15-25 decibels, depending on the frequency. It's not severe enough for me to get a hearing aid according to the audiologist.

My husband always asserts his right to not repeat himself and he did that this time. I told him that I often live life from the outside looking in because of how little I can hear. He said that even so, he doesn't have to say anything again and he doesn't want to.

It hurts so bad. I've been crying a lot about it and don't know what to do or say. I've explained my condition to him. We've been together for 10 years, maybe he's just tired of it. Anyway then he gets really angry when I cry. Because I am very sensitive. He seems to take it personally when I get upset, I'm not sure why that's happening.

I am socially isolated because of my hearing problem. Sometimes I pretend to hear what people say just so I don't annoy them with asking them to repeat themselves all the time. Or sometimes I just say "I didn't hear you," to my husband, and leave it at that.

So I really am trying to keep things peaceful, but I am growing weary. I don't have any other family or friends nearby. Right now, God is the only One who gets me, or even knows me. And that's ok because He's my rock. But it's still difficult on a daily basis. Fighting the fight with my Commander, but little fellow infantry. Thank God for our kids. We worship Him together and talk about Him.

Pray for our little church, for us to not grow weary of seeking God while we're in the battleground. And pray that one day my husband will want to have joy in the Lord too.

The local churches here are strange and power-hungry. This is a spiritually desolate zone, very different from where I grew up. I hope to attend a small church soon that has a few people who I love. Please pray for my family and me. There's no doubt in my mind that we're being spiritually attacked.

Several things there, and I've prayed also, and because you feel spiritually attacked one invaluable thing to do will be for you to begin yourself to daily pray as Jesus said to you to pray (just below), because the prayer He gave you and me to pray is for exactly things like this, and also the most crucial things we most need:
Matthew 6 NIV
 
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Lord bless Healing with Jesus and this prayer. Help Healing with Jesus to hear clearly and let her husband be happy. Lord solve Healing with Jesus's problem and bless her to be with others socially. Lord bless their family and Church .Lord bless this prayer and you be glorified. In Jesus loving name, Amen!
 
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To me your husband's refusal to repeat words seems just plain mean. I wonder if he is being dismissive and/or abusive in other areas. I pray you will be healed of the pain you have suffered from such treatment and that you will be led to healing for your physical affliction. Also praying for your family and Church.
 
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I will pray, asking also for God to inspire me when I do.

You are in a good place. I know it may sound strange, but God is clearly working with you and your family. What may seem like a bad thing to those who are of the world, isn't necessarily a bad thing for those who are in Christ Jesus!

Romans 8:28

"And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose."

You are in good hands when you are in God's hand! :):heart:
 
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Heavenly Father, may this woman get a 2nd opinion about her hearing loss if need be?. I ask for Your healing mercies to restore her hearing just like Jesus did with others that were deaf, "The hearing ear and the seeing eye, the LORD has made the both of them. Proverbs 20:12. In Jesus Name I ask, Amen
 
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I totally understand Healing. I wear hearing aids and so does my mom, whose hearing loss is much worse than mine. My dad often accused her of not listening to him even though he knew about her hearing loss. It is very frustrating to anyone who has trouble understanding what others are saying.
 
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