I need advice. Pursue my dream or don't bother?

Take Heart · Apr 15, 2019

So.. a brief background:
My mom is in the healthcare field, career-wise. My dad was a dentist. All they've ever known has to do with health care. And of course, they pushed that onto me when I was in highschool (which is when most kids are still trying to figure out what they want to do).

Here's the thing though, I never was remotely interested in healthcare. They wanted me to be a nurse or something related.

So fast-forward-- now, having recently turned 30, I am a nurse AND a psw (personal support worker). Im not happy. As great and rewarding as these jobs are, my heart is just not in it. I have had to pay my tuition and endure classes that I was not interested in and dreaded. Don't get me wrong, I am very thankful for these jobs. God has helped me through those courses through tears and feeling a bit of resentment towards my mom (who really pushed me to do a dream job she wanted for herself) It truly is a miracle I am even a nurse as my grades in highschool were so bad I had to upgrade the marks in college (through a special course)

I have "grown to (like?) tolerate" my jobs I guess..but again, my heart is not there.

So the advice I am seeking is..
Do i pursue my dream while doing these 2 jobs I currently am blessed with or just suck it up and do the jobs im currently in for the rest of my life and live in complete regret, bitterness, sadness, and feeling like.."what if i actually had the courage to do what I wanted"?

You may be wondering, at this point, what my dream is. I feel a bit reluctant to share it as i dont want the dream to be shot down, be criticized in comparison with what in doing now (job wise), or laughed at.
I want to be an auto-detailer. Basically a person who cleans cars (interior mostly as opposed to exterior (car washing and/or polishing). I want to start my own business. Ive bought 90% of the supplies needed, and ive practiced on my own car and my mom's. (She actually likes when i clean her car) but doesnt really know how interested I am in it.
Should i pursue the dream, start a business, see what happens.. or just.
Not bother. I want to repeat that I am grateful for my current jobs. I enjoy interacting with the elderly, listening to their stories.. i just feel like ive wasted my years doing something i never was passionate about.

Thanks for reading this far.

Tree of Life · Apr 15, 2019

Do you have dependents?

HTacianas · Apr 15, 2019

Take Heart said:
So.. a brief background:
My mom is in the healthcare field, career-wise. My dad was a dentist. All they've ever known has to do with health care. And of course, they pushed that onto me when I was in highschool (which is when most kids are still trying to figure out what they want to do).

Here's the thing though, I never was remotely interested in healthcare. They wanted me to be a nurse or something related.

So fast-forward-- now, having recently turned 30, I am a nurse AND a psw (personal support worker). Im not happy. As great and rewarding as these jobs are, my heart is just not in it. I have had to pay my tuition and endure classes that I was not interested in and dreaded. Don't get me wrong, I am very thankful for these jobs. God has helped me through those courses through tears and feeling a bit of resentment towards my mom (who really pushed me to do a dream job she wanted for herself) It truly is a miracle I am even a nurse as my grades in highschool were so bad I had to upgrade the marks in college (through a special course)

I have "grown to (like?) tolerate" my jobs I guess..but again, my heart is not there.

So the advice I am seeking is..
Do i pursue my dream while doing these 2 jobs I currently am blessed with or just suck it up and do the jobs im currently in for the rest of my life and live in complete regret, bitterness, sadness, and feeling like.."what if i actually had the courage to do what I wanted"?

You may be wondering, at this point, what my dream is. I feel a bit reluctant to share it as i dont want the dream to be shot down, be criticized in comparison with what in doing now (job wise), or laughed at.
I want to be an auto-detailer. Basically a person who cleans cars (interior mostly as opposed to exterior (car washing and/or polishing). I want to start my own business. Ive bought 90% of the supplies needed, and ive practiced on my own car and my mom's. (She actually likes when i clean her car) but doesnt really know how interested I am in it.
Should i pursue the dream, start a business, see what happens.. or just.
Not bother. I want to repeat that I am grateful for my current jobs. I enjoy interacting with the elderly, listening to their stories.. i just feel like ive wasted my years doing something i never was passionate about.

Thanks for reading this far.

People leave their jobs to start businesses all the time. While most people might not think of auto detailing as a life's dream, they forget that owning a business in and of itself is.

Go for it. But start off small with your business while holding on to your regular job. Maybe start off with a mobile business on a by appointment basis. Even after your business becomes successful, if you have a nursing license you should always keep it current.

Take Heart · Apr 15, 2019

Tree of Life said:
Do you have dependents?

I am single and live with my mom and brother.

Tree of Life · Apr 15, 2019

Take Heart said:
I am single and live with my mom and brother.

Then I don't see why you shouldn't pursue this venture.

crossnote · Apr 15, 2019

Take Heart said:
So the advice I am seeking is..
Do i pursue my dream while doing these 2 jobs I currently am blessed with or just suck it up and do the jobs im currently in for the rest of my life and live in complete regret, bitterness, sadness, and feeling like.."what if i actually had the courage to do what I wanted"?

Continually commit your ways unto the Lord with the expectancy of 'nevertheless not my will, but thine be done'.

Willing-heart · Apr 15, 2019

A friend of mine used to say, "Don't follow your dreams, chase them." I heard some say "If God had meant for humans to fly, He would have given us wings. But God gave us something much better than wings; Dreams." I'm currently in a position that I find myself not to be sure of what I want to do with my life, or perhaps, I have not found it yet as I've tried a couple of jobs for a few years and they haven't worked out... I think in life you can either sink, or swim, but you'll never know unless you dive in. Life is too short to not do what you're passionate in. Above all else, enquire of the Lord, and ask him what He wants.

Additionally, I think it's worth mentioning this from my blog post - Be My Witnesses!

The apostle Paul had a dream and goal in life and a vision for life given to him by God. As revealed in his written letter to the Romans (Romans 15), his vision was to preach the gospel wherever it has not been preached. His ultimate destination was Spain. Why? because at that time Spain was an unknown world. Did Paul make it to Spain, did he achieve that dream?

As I reflected on this, I realise it does not really matter because when God gives you a vision or a dream, it is what you do in accomplishment of that dream or vision that really matters, it matters more than accomplishing it. Moses had a dream to go the promise land with his people, he never made it there, but every waking moment of his life, he worked, taught, ruled and judged with the whole purpose of getting there. David had a dream to build a magnificent temple for God, but he never got to lay a stone in the building of that temple. And yet, he lived all of his life trying to achieve that dream, and he left his entire network in order to build that dream that God has given him.

What really matters to God is not whether you have accomplished the dream He has given to you or not, but it is how faithful you have been in trying to accomplish that dream. God is not so much interested in the destination as much as He is interested in how faithful you have been in trying to get there. If there is a desperate need in our day among believers, it is for Christians to dream dreams for God of conquering and accomplishing great things for God.

yeshuaslavejeff · Apr 15, 2019

QUOTE="Take Heart, post: 73856861, member: 378961"]So.. a brief background:
My mom is in the healthcare field, career-wise. My dad was a dentist. All they've ever known has to do with health care. And of course, they pushed that onto me when I was in highschool (which is when most kids are still trying to figure out what they want to do).

Here's the thing though, I never was remotely interested in healthcare. They wanted me to be a nurse or something related.

So fast-forward-- now, having recently turned 30, I am a nurse AND a psw (personal support worker). Im not happy. As great and rewarding as these jobs are, my heart is just not in it. I have had to pay my tuition and endure classes that I was not interested in and dreaded. Don't get me wrong, I am very thankful for these jobs. God has helped me through those courses through tears and feeling a bit of resentment towards my mom (who really pushed me to do a dream job she wanted for herself) It truly is a miracle I am even a nurse as my grades in highschool were so bad I had to upgrade the marks in college (through a special course)

I have "grown to (like?) tolerate" my jobs I guess..but again, my heart is not there.

So the advice I am seeking is..
Do i pursue my dream while doing these 2 jobs I currently am blessed with or just suck it up and do the jobs im currently in for the rest of my life and live in complete regret, bitterness, sadness, and feeling like.."what if i actually had the courage to do what I wanted"?

You may be wondering, at this point, what my dream is. I feel a bit reluctant to share it as i dont want the dream to be shot down, be criticized in comparison with what in doing now (job wise), or laughed at.
I want to be an auto-detailer. Basically a person who cleans cars (interior mostly as opposed to exterior (car washing and/or polishing). I want to start my own business. Ive bought 90% of the supplies needed, and ive practiced on my own car and my mom's. (She actually likes when i clean her car) but doesnt really know how interested I am in it.
Should i pursue the dream, start a business, see what happens.. or just.
Not bother. I want to repeat that I am grateful for my current jobs. I enjoy interacting with the elderly, listening to their stories.. i just feel like ive wasted my years doing something i never was passionate about.

Thanks for reading this far.[/QUOTE
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Why wouldn't you do car detailing while remaining in your current job(s) ?
I think it might be a good idea (not knowing enough to say one way or another).
Others have (probably) made a 'good living' doing detailing, for a while or for decades - realizing that perhaps this may also lead to other opportunities.

Also, you've done overall well, just remember the commandment "HONOR your mother and your father , SO IT MAY BE WELL WITH YOU....."

yeshuaslavejeff · Apr 15, 2019

..... shalom

Lucian Hodoboc · Apr 15, 2019

Take Heart said:
Do i pursue my dream while doing these 2 jobs I currently am blessed with

If you can do this, do this. Also, pray to God for guidance. Have an honest conversation with your parents and explain to them that your dream job might turn out profitable and it will make you happy. And if you do have to keep your current jobs, remember Mother Angelica's advice:

Do your duties, if they are righteous, and do them to glorify God. If you have to cook supper for your family, then cook supper for your family. Cook supper for Jesus. If you have to take care of your patients, then take care of your patients. You're taking care of Jesus. Remember His words: "(...) For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, 36 I was naked and you gave me clothing, I was sick and you took care of me, I was in prison and you visited me." (Matthew 25:35-36)

nonaeroterraqueous · Apr 15, 2019

Take Heart said:
You may be wondering, at this point, what my dream is. I feel a bit reluctant to share it as i dont want the dream to be shot down, be criticized in comparison with what in doing now (job wise), or laughed at.
I want to be an auto-detailer.

As far as dreams go, that one's unusually sensible.

Take Heart · Apr 15, 2019

nonaeroterraqueous said:
As far as dreams go, that one's unusually sensible.

Thank you. I've learned to be practical/realistic when it comes to dreams of which I've had some few far-fetched ones.

Gordon Wright · Apr 15, 2019

If you have no dependents and have no financial debt then no one in this world has a claim on you.

If your parents were good parents, then "honor your father and mother" has some applicability. Just how far that goes is something you must figure out for yourself. It doesn't mean they own you. There is no "always and forever" in that Commandment.

Willing-heart · Apr 15, 2019

yeshuaslavejeff said:
Who told you that was "why" (and "IF"!) that was Paul's dream, to get to Spain ? It sounds like un-Biblical tradition, not in line with all that we know from the Bible.

His "vision" and full Apostle-ship/ ministry was fully delivered to him by the Father Yahuweh through Yahushua Messiah,
not "thought up" in his own mind nor soul.

The Bible tells me so, Paul tells us in Romans 15:20 that, "My ambition has always been to preach the Good News where the name of Christ has never been heard, rather than where a church has already been started by someone else." And in Romans 15:23-24, Paul says, "But now that there are no further opportunities for me in these regions, and since I have longed for many years to visit you, I hope to see you on my way to Spain. And after I have enjoyed your company for a while, you can equip me for my journey..."

I am not here to derail this thread, and having nothing more to say on this subject whether you agree or disagree with me on Paul's godly ambition. However, I'd suggest you can read about Paul's mission in the link below:

The Missionary Challenge of Paul's Life

usexpat97 · Apr 15, 2019

There's a big difference between liking auto detail and doing it all day, every day, rain or shine, summer and winter.

There's also a big difference between detailing cars and starting a business which details cars. A lot of that is accounting. Is there a franchise opportunity out there?

yeshuaslavejeff · Apr 15, 2019

..... Shalom

Joined2krist · Apr 15, 2019

"Whatsoever your hand find to do, do with all your heart"

Before you quit your jobs, I advice you to find a part time job in a car wash. This should help you in deciding before you take the full plunge. God bless

FutureAndAHope · Apr 15, 2019

Take Heart said:
So.. a brief background:
My mom is in the healthcare field, career-wise. My dad was a dentist. All they've ever known has to do with health care. And of course, they pushed that onto me when I was in highschool (which is when most kids are still trying to figure out what they want to do).

Here's the thing though, I never was remotely interested in healthcare. They wanted me to be a nurse or something related.

So fast-forward-- now, having recently turned 30, I am a nurse AND a psw (personal support worker). Im not happy. As great and rewarding as these jobs are, my heart is just not in it. I have had to pay my tuition and endure classes that I was not interested in and dreaded. Don't get me wrong, I am very thankful for these jobs. God has helped me through those courses through tears and feeling a bit of resentment towards my mom (who really pushed me to do a dream job she wanted for herself) It truly is a miracle I am even a nurse as my grades in highschool were so bad I had to upgrade the marks in college (through a special course)

I have "grown to (like?) tolerate" my jobs I guess..but again, my heart is not there.

So the advice I am seeking is..
Do i pursue my dream while doing these 2 jobs I currently am blessed with or just suck it up and do the jobs im currently in for the rest of my life and live in complete regret, bitterness, sadness, and feeling like.."what if i actually had the courage to do what I wanted"?

You may be wondering, at this point, what my dream is. I feel a bit reluctant to share it as i dont want the dream to be shot down, be criticized in comparison with what in doing now (job wise), or laughed at.
I want to be an auto-detailer. Basically a person who cleans cars (interior mostly as opposed to exterior (car washing and/or polishing). I want to start my own business. Ive bought 90% of the supplies needed, and ive practiced on my own car and my mom's. (She actually likes when i clean her car) but doesnt really know how interested I am in it.
Should i pursue the dream, start a business, see what happens.. or just.
Not bother. I want to repeat that I am grateful for my current jobs. I enjoy interacting with the elderly, listening to their stories.. i just feel like ive wasted my years doing something i never was passionate about.

Thanks for reading this far.

I am a computer programmer, and have tried to start a few website design businesses. I have the skills to start a business, but I have found it very hard work. To the degree that I normally end up back in a paid role some where, with the business on the back burner.

If you were to leave your role how hard would it be to return? And what financial support do you have getting the business going. For the first years could be really tough getting clients and building a loyal customer base. If you are going to start a business, I would suggest saving enough money to support your self for the first year or so. Even then you may find it will not work out. I am not going to discourage your dream, only give a dose of reality. Businesses are tough work, and you need to be prepared to possibly fail, or have failure along the way to success.

Take Heart · Apr 15, 2019

FutureAndAHope said:
I am a computer programmer, and have tried to start a few website design businesses. I have the skills to start a business, but I have found it very hard work. To the degree that I normally end up back in a paid role some where, with the business on the back burner.

If you were to leave your role how hard would it be to return? And what financial support do you have getting the business going. For the first years could be really tough getting clients and building a loyal customer base. If you are going to start a business, I would suggest saving enough money to support your self for the first year or so. Even then you may find it will not work out. I am not going to discourage your dream, only give a dose of reality. Businesses are tough work, and you need to be prepared to possibly fail, or have failure along the way to success.

Thank you for your reply. No worries, I do not intend to quit my current jobs in place of starting a business. The business I want to start is more of a side job that hopefully will flourish, God-willing, throughout the coming years. I appreciate the dose of reality. I am prepared to fail and encounter stumbling blocks. I think it is admirable to see people flourish and persevere despite setbacks along their journey of their dreams.

Cclun · Apr 15, 2019

Take Heart said:
So.. a brief background:
My mom is in the healthcare field, career-wise. My dad was a dentist. All they've ever known has to do with health care. And of course, they pushed that onto me when I was in highschool (which is when most kids are still trying to figure out what they want to do).

Here's the thing though, I never was remotely interested in healthcare. They wanted me to be a nurse or something related.

So fast-forward-- now, having recently turned 30, I am a nurse AND a psw (personal support worker). Im not happy. As great and rewarding as these jobs are, my heart is just not in it. I have had to pay my tuition and endure classes that I was not interested in and dreaded. Don't get me wrong, I am very thankful for these jobs. God has helped me through those courses through tears and feeling a bit of resentment towards my mom (who really pushed me to do a dream job she wanted for herself) It truly is a miracle I am even a nurse as my grades in highschool were so bad I had to upgrade the marks in college (through a special course)

I have "grown to (like?) tolerate" my jobs I guess..but again, my heart is not there.

So the advice I am seeking is..
Do i pursue my dream while doing these 2 jobs I currently am blessed with or just suck it up and do the jobs im currently in for the rest of my life and live in complete regret, bitterness, sadness, and feeling like.."what if i actually had the courage to do what I wanted"?

You may be wondering, at this point, what my dream is. I feel a bit reluctant to share it as i dont want the dream to be shot down, be criticized in comparison with what in doing now (job wise), or laughed at.
I want to be an auto-detailer. Basically a person who cleans cars (interior mostly as opposed to exterior (car washing and/or polishing). I want to start my own business. Ive bought 90% of the supplies needed, and ive practiced on my own car and my mom's. (She actually likes when i clean her car) but doesnt really know how interested I am in it.
Should i pursue the dream, start a business, see what happens.. or just.
Not bother. I want to repeat that I am grateful for my current jobs. I enjoy interacting with the elderly, listening to their stories.. i just feel like ive wasted my years doing something i never was passionate about.

Thanks for reading this far.[/QUOTE

As long as you really pray about this, and feel that God is putting in your heart to do this, there is no reason not to pursue your dream. But I would pursue It cautiously, start It on the side without completely quitting your current job, see how It works out, how much you really like It day in a day out and go from there. In the end, in whatever job you work at, the focus should be Colossians 3:23 "Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters". You can serve God in the health care field, you can also serve Him washing cars. If your parents are understanding Godly people and God is laying on your heart to pursue your dreams, they should have no objection to this. But remember, make sure you do this on the side for a while to make sure you REALLY like the day in day out of car washing first because diving into It right away.

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