Always Distracted

waves · Apr 5, 2019

One of the things that God has shown me more than once is that when I am around my significant other he is always distracted. This is where his mind seems to be elsewhere and he also keeps looking down on his phone. This happens all the time. It is extremely obvious that whoever is on his phone is much more important than I am. That he enjoys spending time with that person much more more than me.

Just now God gave me a dream where it seemed a female kept on walking trying to avoid a particular guy, the guy kept on pursuing her. Then two of them basically bounced into each other and started laughing together along with other females.

This guy and girl was playing a game of pursuit where the female pretended that she didn't like the guy but she did, the guy kept on pursuing her, it was like a love game between these two persons. One of these persons is my former best friend, the other one is my significant other.

I have wondered why God shows me these things knowing that it crushes me. But what I do know is that throughout my life God has always been there for me guiding me and protecting me.

Recently, about a day ago, while going out of the home where I live in, there was this man who I don't know basically in a big vehicle was waiting for me to leave the home I live in but God worked it out in such a way that this particular man was not successful in following me. There was also another man much further down the road doing the same as the other guy and the same thing happened. This kind of thing happens to me often and reminds me constantly how life is short.

Then I think about what is going on in my life and it hurts a lot to know I am going through what I am, on my own, because my significant other has decided that I am not the one for him anymore, even though I know for a fact that God has brought two of us together and that she is bad.

God has also shown me where my significant other is always eager to come up with an excuse why he cannot be with me. For e.g that I keep cheating on him etc even though he knows my situation is different. I am just tired of all of this.

Additionally, I have my own mental and physical health issues that I am dealing with, and I am not supposed to be under any stress or anxiety, and all of this is just making my problems much worst.

I just want to be myself, not around anybody, especially around persons who constantly hurts me. Please pray that Jesus Christ will give me his peace every day.

Carl Emerson · Apr 5, 2019

Do you have support from other believers, maybe church friends?
This is a tough journey and I have been through it myself.
God is bigger than any human circumstance keep hold of Him no matter what.
Praying for you...

well hey · Apr 5, 2019

the most precious beleivers go through the worst.

Carl Emerson · Apr 5, 2019

Yes there is no shortcut to real faith...

Waves - one of my closest friends moved in with my first wife.
Then I had 10 years of singleness waiting on the wrong lady.
Then He miraculously led me to the right one.
That was 33 years ago. We have a beautiful relationship in Him. 5 children and 5 grand children, and a great team together.

He can do the deepest work in relationships and it is deeply painful. Gold does not come cheap. He loves you and is on your case.

Blessings,

Carl Emerson.

SkyWriting · Apr 5, 2019

waves said:
One of the things that God has shown me more than once is that when I am around my significant other he is always distracted. This is where his mind seems to be elsewhere and he also keeps looking down on his phone. This happens all the time. It is extremely obvious that whoever is on his phone is much more important than I am. That he enjoys spending time with that person much more more than me.

Just now God gave me a dream where it seemed a female kept on walking trying to avoid a particular guy, the guy kept on pursuing her. Then two of them basically bounced into each other and started laughing together along with other females.

This guy and girl was playing a game of pursuit where the female pretended that she didn't like the guy but she did, the guy kept on pursuing her, it was like a love game between these two persons. One of these persons is my former best friend, the other one is my significant other.

I have wondered why God shows me these things knowing that it crushes me. But what I do know is that throughout my life God has always been there for me guiding me and protecting me.

Recently, about a day ago, while going out of the home where I live in, there was this man who I don't know basically in a big vehicle was waiting for me to leave the home I live in but God worked it out in such a way that this particular man was not successful in following me. There was also another man much further down the road doing the same as the other guy and the same thing happened. This kind of thing happens to me often and reminds me constantly how life is short.

Then I think about what is going on in my life and it hurts a lot to know I am going through what I am, on my own, because my significant other has decided that I am not the one for him anymore, even though I know for a fact that God has brought two of us together and that she is bad.

God has also shown me where my significant other is always eager to come up with an excuse why he cannot be with me. For e.g that I keep cheating on him etc even though he knows my situation is different. I am just tired of all of this.

Additionally, I have my own mental and physical health issues that I am dealing with, and I am not supposed to be under any stress or anxiety, and all of this is just making my problems much worst.

I just want to be myself, not around anybody, especially around persons who constantly hurts me. Please pray that Jesus Christ will give me his peace every day.

Do you pay him as much attention as his phone does? Do you listen to each word? Do you seek out to discover new interesting aspects of his minute, hour, day, life?

Do you listen, or talk? I don't mean to criticise, just to illustrate the perfect listener.

Gods not mad · Apr 5, 2019

well hey said:
the most precious beleivers go through the worst.

can you show me in scripture where it says this.

Carl Emerson · Apr 5, 2019

General theme in scripture... Paul is a clear example.

Luke 22:31

Luke 7:47

Philippians 3:10

Blessings,

Carl Emerson.

Gods not mad · Apr 5, 2019

Carl Emerson said:
General theme in scripture... Paul is a clear example.

should have made myself more clear. those who would be considered some of the most precious believers would be those who have rejected themselves fully and are not depending on works but on Christ alone. those that have a correct view of who he is and are receiving his grace, like paul who yes went through a lot should see it differently then a point of sympathy. God loves all His children equally but those that may be considered most precious should then be the ones to have this mind set. romans 8:28 and romans 5:1-5 and james 1:2-4 . this was all that my point was if we trust Christ is who he truly says he is then we would trust him and know he is love and cares for us and his intentions are good. so therefore the most precious believers don"t go through the worst they are refined and brought closer to the Lord and how could that ultimately be considered a bad thing. it would be for our benefit. i"m talking mind set here yes pain and hardship are hard while in the season of trouble but we should in those times look up for one who is greater has our best in mind. Gods not mad at his children or judging them for what happened last week only lovingly correcting. his purpose is to love. if you trust that then all will be worked out for your betterment.

waves · Apr 7, 2019

SkyWriting said:
Do you pay him as much attention as his phone does? Do you listen to each word? Do you seek out to discover new interesting aspects of his minute, hour, day, life?

Do you listen, or talk? I don't mean to criticise, just to illustrate the perfect listener.

I have tried numerous times to become involved in his life. When I have tried to reach out to him he doesn't want to say anything to me. I don't talk much, I actually enjoy listening to people when they speak.

One of the things God has shown me for instance is that my significant other was talking to my sister and he was excited to talk to her mentioned something in regards to work. I started to cry and ask him why he doesn't talk about what is going on in his life with me, and he said it is because I cheated on him.
My significant other knows that my situation is completely different, that I am not just a cheater because I want to, and despite this he has pushed me away many times.

I also have severe memory problems which he knows and have experienced first hand, but despite knowing that he stills try to make it appear as if I am a serial cheater by choice. And he uses this as an excuse whenever he wants to justify a particular behavior or action he does.

SkyWriting · Apr 7, 2019

waves said:
I have tried numerous times to become involved in his life. When I have tried to reach out to him he doesn't want to say anything to me. I don't talk much, I actually enjoy listening to people when they speak.

One of the things God has shown me for instance is that my significant other was talking to my sister and he was excited to talk to her mentioned something in regards to work. I started to cry and ask him why he doesn't talk about what is going on in his life with me, and he said it is because I cheated on him.
My significant other knows that my situation is completely different, that I am not just a cheater because I want to, and despite this he has pushed me away many times.

I also have severe memory problems which he knows and have experienced first hand, but despite knowing that he stills try to make it appear as if I am a serial cheater by choice. And he uses this as an excuse whenever he wants to justify a particular behavior or action he does.

What he says may not be accurate. I very often explain the joys of my work to others, because my wife interrupts me with her "insights" about what I am doing wrong ...about nearly every subject. She is not aware that she speaks over the top of me, regularly.

Try a tape recorder or voice recorder on your phone and see if you are actively listening.
Active Listening - Communication Skills Training from MindTools.com

The memory problem is yours and not his to remember.
Fix your memory problem.
My daughter is unable to read a clock but is never late for an appointment with her autistic son.
Her sister has no developmental problems but is late for everything that you can imagine.

SkyWriting · Apr 7, 2019

Gods not mad said:
can you show me in scripture where it says this.

(Scripture actually says the most devout have the hardest lives.)
Jesus for example.

waves · Apr 7, 2019

SkyWriting said:
What he says may not be accurate. I very often explain the joys of my work to others, because my wife interrupts me with her "insights" about what I am doing wrong ...about nearly every subject. She is not aware that she speaks over the top of me, regularly.

Try a tape recorder or voice recorder on your phone and see if you are actively listening.
Active Listening - Communication Skills Training from MindTools.com

The memory problem is yours and not his to remember.
Fix your memory problem.
My daughter is unable to read a clock but is never late for an appointment with her autistic son.
Her sister has no developmental problems but is late for everything that you can imagine.

This sentence above caught my attention. She is not aware that she speaks over the top of me, regularly. In other words she is not doing what she is doing on purpose, she is not aware of what she is doing.

I cannot simply fix my memory problem just like you cannot fix when somebody has alzheimer's.

Gods not mad · Apr 11, 2019

SkyWriting said:
(Scripture actually says the most devout have the hardest lives.)
Jesus for example.

just not sure what you consider the hardest lives. Jesus came to do what no man could and all he received he willingly gave to us. Jesus was content,at peace,full of joy,walked in power and had a perfect relationship with God. is hard defined only by our environment or defined by what be believe and who we believe he is. if it is defined by who we believe he is then life is not that hard. no man is different then another. all have trials. some just believe the external man more than the spirit of God within the man. its all perception that was my point.

SkyWriting · Apr 11, 2019

Gods not mad said:
just not sure what you consider the hardest lives. Jesus came to do what no man could and all he received he willingly gave to us. Jesus was content,at peace,full of joy,walked in power and had a perfect relationship with God. is hard defined only by our environment or defined by what be believe and who we believe he is. if it is defined by who we believe he is then life is not that hard. no man is different then another. all have trials. some just believe the external man more than the spirit of God within the man. its all perception that was my point.

And not many of us get to have that close a relationship or assurance that our lives have meaning. Still Jesus lived a harder life than....um....all the rest of us.
He died at the hands of His children, for their benefit, at the request of His Father.

Gods not mad · Apr 12, 2019

SkyWriting said:
And not many of us get to have that close a relationship or assurance that our lives have meaning.

why did Christ willing allow himself to go to the cross? 1 john 4:4 and 1 john 5:4-5 what does that mean for me and you in reality as in the here and now? i"m interested in your opinion.

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