Thank you so much.. you're right.. I was taught to tolerate the pain and not say a word. Just stay quite and deal with it... I hope I can get better ^^ thank you so muchWhen you grow up like that, you do not learn "limits." If you grow up having to tolerate physical and verbal abuse, you are "programmed" to take it, you can't say no, you can't fight back. You end up allowing that behavior as an adult for you know nothing else and you don't know how to stop it. I grew up sexually abused--you end up programed, trained to give in to sexual advances. You have no idea how to say no, for that was not allowed. You end up doing the same thing as an adult. It took God to retrain my mind, to put Him first meant saying no to certain things and He gave me the power to do so. You will have to face the same trial again and again until you learn to put God first. He will not let you stay the same. It can take some time to learn how to break that training.
Pro_22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Unfortunately, this applies to good and bad training. You, working together with God, can break this. It can become a generational curse---the victim raises the children in the same environment they knew and so it passes on. Let God take you out of it first, then you will be able to pass on good behavior and attitudes to your children. He wants only what is good for you.
Pro_3:6 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.
Deu_5:33 Ye shall walk in all the ways which the LORD your God hath commanded you, that ye may live, and that it may be well with you, and that ye may prolong your days in the land which ye shall possess.
This is the difference between real love and the fake. Real love seeks the good of the other, the fake seeks only their own. Whatever God asks us to do is for our own good.
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