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I committed sexual acts with someone out of wedlock just a few weeks ago. And to make matters worse, I found out that he was also married at the time. In just one second all of my usefulness was lost.

At one time I had a dream of saving my first kiss for my wedding day, now I never want a man to even lay eyes on me for fear of him seeing how dirty and disgusting I am. I'll never be able to be loved because of this, and I completely ruined my life.

God will never use me nor bless me. I should not even pretend to be a Christian anymore, and at times I just want to renounce my faith because I failed to please God.
 

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My dear sister, please do not ever degrade yourself in such a way. You are a treasured beautiful daughter of the almighty God, as long as you pray for forgiveness and repent for your sin, you will be forgiven. Jesus died so that we can have fellowship with our heavenly father. The fact that you feel so strongly about this proves that the Holy Spirit is convicting you of your sin, and that you feel genuine regret. Don't let the devil win my dear sister, he's trying to make you think your un-savable, but in reality God has already forgiven you, and He has a glorious plan for you. Take strength my sister.

I too have committed many sins in my life, but God has forgiven me. Don't let sin hold you down, run to the Lord with your broken spirit, confess your sins and find peace.
 
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1 John 1:9 "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness."

Isaiah 43: 25-26 "
25 “I, even I, am he who blots out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sins no more. 26 Review the past for me, let us argue the matter together; state the case for your innocence.

Truth is we are all human, we make mistakes, but salvation and forgiveness is one of the many things Christ can offer. Ask and He will forgive you my sister.
 
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God will never use me nor bless me. I should not even pretend to be a Christian anymore, and at times I just want to renounce my faith because I failed to please God.

Christians do not live perfect lives.
 
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You have not lost your worth because of this. Yes, what you did was a sin, but we serve an incredible, merciful God who forgives all sins, regardless of how big or how small they seem.

God loves you. You are his daughter. He knew what you would do, and He still died for you despite it, and He can and will still use you for His glory despite it.

I know how hard it is to forgive yourself, but it is important to remember that however awful we feel, we are loved and we are forgiven.

I will be in prayer for you.
 
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I committed sexual acts with someone out of wedlock just a few weeks ago. And to make matters worse, I found out that he was also married at the time. In just one second all of my usefulness was lost.

At one time I had a dream of saving my first kiss for my wedding day, now I never want a man to even lay eyes on me for fear of him seeing how dirty and disgusting I am. I'll never be able to be loved because of this, and I completely ruined my life.

God will never use me nor bless me. I should not even pretend to be a Christian anymore, and at times I just want to renounce my faith because I failed to please God.
Sin is normal during life, even the saved stumble, and we only need to turn in real repentance to be helped. Sincere confession in your heart to God results in forgiveness and even more:

8If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. 9If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 10If we claim we have not sinned, we make him out to be a liar and his word is not in us.
1rst John 1
 
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I committed sexual acts with someone out of wedlock just a few weeks ago. And to make matters worse, I found out that he was also married at the time. In just one second all of my usefulness was lost.

At one time I had a dream of saving my first kiss for my wedding day, now I never want a man to even lay eyes on me for fear of him seeing how dirty and disgusting I am. I'll never be able to be loved because of this, and I completely ruined my life.

God will never use me nor bless me. I should not even pretend to be a Christian anymore, and at times I just want to renounce my faith because I failed to please God.
Permit me to offer a couple of verses from Isaiah the Prophet:
Isaiah 54:9-10 (KJV)
9 For this is as the waters of Noah unto me: for as I have sworn that the waters of Noah should no more go over the earth; so have I sworn that I would not be wroth with thee, nor rebuke thee.
10 For the mountains shall depart, and the hills be removed; but my kindness shall not depart from thee, neither shall the covenant of my peace be removed, saith the LORD that hath mercy on thee.

This is speaking of the New Covenant. God's not mad at you, He's not even miffed. Just repent and continue on down the path. I have no idea where that path may take you, but it will be awesome.
 
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i wrote this in another post a minute ago but it implies to you to all of us. just remember every one in the bible God used screwed up in a major way. God is never done with you never. you are a christian stand on the love of the father. on your best day He knew what your worst day would look like and loved you then He is the God who does not change He is the God who has forgiven you and placed your sins at the bottom of the sea. as far as the east is from the west which is never ending. the devil condemns not God.


i to have struggled with inappropriate content, masturbation, ect ect ect... for i identify with paul as he spoke in present tense i am the chief of all sinners. mary magdalene (or whoever the human women was) was brought to Jesus by the pharisees and placed before Him so that judgment could be placed upon her. now mary undoubtedly knew who Christ was, He was in her city preaching healing casting out ect.... now due to human nature mary would not want to approach the Lord because of her self condemnation and guilt of sin but the ''law'' pharisees brought her to Him. the law will always bring you to the end of yourself as paul taught us and this is a beautiful example of that in practice. now the Lord turned the tables on the pharisees and placed the requirements of the law on them due to their hardness of hearts, they were not ready for His grace but still depending on their own good works for God to accept them. with mary he showed grace and mercy He loved her forgave her and welcomed her why? anytime a man or women tries to obtain favor with God through their own "good works" of try harder, pray harder, study more, go to church more, focus on not doing this sin or that sin, do do do so that i may be found acceptable to the Lord not only will we fail but we will get worse. the Lord Jesus died for our sins one time. He took your shame your mistakes your failures upon Himself and He was forsaken by the farther so that we would not have to be. did you know that in the old testament the yearly blood sacrifice was offered up for the coming year so the jews sins were covered for that coming year. Jesus's sacrifice covers the sins of our furture past and present. this is not a licence to sin paul addressed that. but this is the offer of the gospel. will you put your faith in my FINISHED work and accept what I have done by faith and trust me. once you put all of who you are under the blood of the Lord then you no longer want to sin and i mean that. thats the beauty of it trust me I know. i will never leave you nor forsake you. my sheep know my voice and follow me and not one will be plucked out of my hand. nothing can seperate us from the love of God. remember the story of the faith of the canaanite women who came to the Lord saying Lord son of david have mercy on me my son is demon possessed and Jesus ignored her even to the point were the disciples told Him to remove her. she came before Him called Him Lord and said help me. The Lord said it is not right for the childrens bread to be given to the dogs. she responded the puppies eat the crumbs and His reply was o great is your faith your son is healed. what happened here? this women was a gentile and was pretending to be a jew for only a jew could make the statement Lord son of david and it be credible. she was seeking to know the Lord and be healed but would not approach Him as who she really was. she was being a hypocrite. all the Lord asks of us is to bring who we really are before Him. dont hide a thing trust that He is who He says He is and accept what He has done for us completely. He has washed us clean. by what? His perfect sacrifice the only sacrifice that will ever be acceptable to the Farther so add nothing of yourself and trust Him fully. He paid the price for your sins you will never be able to pay that price so dont even try. by Him you are the righteousness of Christ. by Him you are made blameless. if you study it out Jesus only touched people when He saw faith. faith in what? who He is and Him alone. when you were a sinner the good works you did could not save you now that you belong to Christ the sins you commit can not lose you. you are loved more than you know. Trust in the one who loved you first as i believe you do just add nothing to your faith other than Jesus is all i need and through Him i will overcome these sins which ever person on the planet deals with. one more thing. when God separated the languages at the base of babel english was not one of those languages so the word repent was not being used while Christ walked on earth. the greek translation for repent is metanoia which means change of mind. so what Christ would say is change your mind for the kingdom of heaven is at hand or change your mind and believe. people preach repentance as a work but the Lord did not he simply said change your mind on who i am and believe. if you ever are around someone who will not be honest about their faults and sins get away from them their self righteous Jesus needs my help to complete His finished work attitudes are toxic and unfruitful. anytime man says you must perform to please God they truly dont truly understand Gods grace and mercy.
grace=giving a good thing that is not deserved.
mercy=God not punishing us for our sins. withholding punishment that is deserved. some terrible thing that someone could inflict upon you but does not.
you are loved by the father metanoia and walk with Him.
 
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It's definitely not a good thing that you did, and to be perfectly honest you may have made it a bit more difficult for yourself because there are some Christian men who will be turned away by the fact you haven't been able to wait.

HOWEVER, God is certainly not limited by our failings. He is a God of miracles and of healing. Repent, deal with whatever things may have led you to that point, deal with the consequences whatever they may be, and move on. He has NOT given up on you, and please don't give up on Him. He can certainly still use you and I believe He will. Sometimes He lets us fall flat on our faces so we really understand how much we need Jesus and don't just rely on ourselves for everything. It's painful, but we do need that reality check sometimes.

You are certainly not alone in this. In fact, some people who claim to be Christians blatantly live together without getting married or even talking to others about it first. So I would place you a step above them at the very least. I certainly believe a true Believer can fail as you have.

As I said, don't be okay with this. But don't give up. If you've given your life to Jesus, it has already been forgiven and covered by His payment for you. If we go to Him in repentance, He promises to heal and restore us.
 
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God will never use me nor bless me. I should not even pretend to be a Christian anymore, and at times I just want to renounce my faith because I failed to please God.
Here is the strange and wonderful reality of the Gospel: God will not use us until we realize that we are useless. God has taught you the most important thing about yourself: you are a hopeless sinner desperately in need of His powerful grace to forgive and restore you. He has humbled you so that He might show in you what the Gospel really means. He is equipping you to let your light shine in such a way that men will honor Him, the Savior of sinners.
 
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I committed sexual acts with someone out of wedlock just a few weeks ago. And to make matters worse, I found out that he was also married at the time. In just one second all of my usefulness was lost.

At one time I had a dream of saving my first kiss for my wedding day, now I never want a man to even lay eyes on me for fear of him seeing how dirty and disgusting I am. I'll never be able to be loved because of this, and I completely ruined my life.

God will never use me nor bless me. I should not even pretend to be a Christian anymore, and at times I just want to renounce my faith because I failed to please God.

at least you didn't have the guy's wife killed so you could marry him..

it's not the end of the world hun. repent of your sin and go and sin no more.
 
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I am a wretched woman. I have nothing to offer God. If I am used, it will only be as an example of unrighteousness. Women like me belong to the devil, not of Heaven.

No man deserves to join himself with an unrighteous woman. There is no amount of cleansing and forgiveness that will make the feeling of disgust go away. I scrub my skin several times a day in an attempt to feel clean and pure, but it will never free me from the past. It's only something that death can erase. I am forever scarred by my sin.
 
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I am a wretched woman. I have nothing to offer God. If I am used, it will only be as an example of unrighteousness. Women like me belong to the devil, not of Heaven.

No man deserves to join himself with an unrighteous woman. There is no amount of cleansing and forgiveness that will make the feeling of disgust go away. I scrub my skin several times a day in an attempt to feel clean and pure, but it will never free me from the past. It's only something that death can erase. I am forever scarred by my sin.
Not what my hands have done
Can save my guilty soul;
Not what my toiling flesh has borne
Can make my spirit whole.
Not what I feel or do
Can give me peace with God;
Not all my prayers,
And sighs and tears
Can bear my awful load.

Thy work alone, O Christ,
Can ease this weight of sin
Thy blood alone O Lamb of God,
Can give me peace within.
Thy love to me O God,
Not mine, O Lord, to Thee
Can rid me of
This dark unrest,
And set my spirit free!

Thy grace alone, O God,
To me can pardon speak;
Thy power alone O Son of God,
Can this sore bondage break.
No other work, save Thine,
No other blood will do,
No strength save that,
Which is divine,
Can bear me safely through.

I bless the Christ of God;
I rest on love divine;
And with unfaltering lip and heart,
I call this Savior mine.
His cross dispels each doubt,
I bury in His tomb
My unbelief,
And all my fear,
Each lingering shade of gloom.

I praise the God of grace,
I trust His truth and might
He calls me His, I call Him mine,
My God, my joy, my light
’Tis He Who saveth me,
And freely pardon gives
I love because
He loveth me,
I live because He lives!

--Horatius Bonar
 
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I am a wretched woman. I have nothing to offer God. If I am used, it will only be as an example of unrighteousness. Women like me belong to the devil, not of Heaven.

No man deserves to join himself with an unrighteous woman. There is no amount of cleansing and forgiveness that will make the feeling of disgust go away. I scrub my skin several times a day in an attempt to feel clean and pure, but it will never free me from the past. It's only something that death can erase. I am forever scarred by my sin.
The reason you feel this way is because you don't know the power of our God. Do you think God is so powerless? Did Jesus dying on the cross man nothing sister? No, Jesus died for you so that all your sins may be forgiven. You are not a wretched woman, you are beautiful, yes you made a mistake but so do we all. I am a slave to lust, but Jesus has shown me that His love is far stronger than any sin we could commit. The devil has no power over you, rebuke him in Jesus glorious name and he will flee. With Jesus you can enter into heaven, forgiving yourself is a big part of it, through forgiveness the healing process starts. Forgive yourself, God already has, and He welcomes you back as his beloved beautiful daughter. Don't give in to these feeling sister!!!!
 
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