My boyfriend is Muslim and he is making me doubt my faith...

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The Bible makes it very clear that you should not be yoked together with an unbeliever (2 Corinthians 6:14). To love God is to obey His words. My only plea to you is to break up the relationship and never marry an unbeliever, In fact, don't date an unbeliever to start with. May God help you.
Nika,
What willing heart says is true.
I married a nonbeliever. He is agnostic and it is hard enough. He respects my beliefs though and does not try and change my beliefs. If you state that the relationship is toxic, then IT IS. Secularly AND spiritually.
BUT, I should have listened and not married a nonbeliever...however, I pray every day that he may come to know the Lord.
Pray for strength.
 
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Thank you so much... I loved all of this. I wish you could talk to him too but he doesn't want me to talk about our relationship to anyone.. unless you don't mention it that would be okay.. or anything that I said about him because he would be very upset.

Yes i would not mention the relationship at all. That to me is just the side effect of the real issue, his acceptance of Islam. If he were convinced of the bible and christian, the side issues would disappear imo.
 
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<NY>A month or so ago I was talking about a Muslim friend that I am very in love with... we ended up becoming a couple with the intention of marrying and out love grew deeper. But the problem is our different religions... I'm a Christian and he is a Muslim. For weeks and months he tried to convert me. I've watch hundreds of videos about his faith with him and he always debated and argued and now.. I'm lost. He didn't bring me closer to Islam.. and only brought be farther away from Christianity and now I'm lost.. I'm scared that I will go to hell and.. we have broken up and tried to leave the toxic relationship but we always come back because we love eachother so much... I can't let go and I don't know what to do.. I'm scared and lost and I don't believe in anything anymore. I haven't prayed and weeks and I'm scared...<NY>
What you are going through is called brainwashing, constantly bombarding someone with religious or political propaganda to force them to accept some doctrine. Muslims are dedicated to one thing, to force the world to become Muslim peacefully sometimes but by force when nice does not work. I have read the Quran and the Hadith I'm not simply repeating something I read online. If you don't want to spend the rest of your life as a virtual slave to a husband and wear a Hijab every time you go out your door get out of this relationship, now. Muslim husbands beat their wives for anything they don't like and there is nothing the wife can do about it It is permitted in the Quran and Hadith
 
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Be strong my sister, you are a precious daughter of our loving God, and it breaks His heart to see you this way.
Thank you so much ^^ I'm trying very hard to be strong but I'm only strong with God. Your words mean a lot to me, thank you so much for your support.

Sister, I think any guy would be so fortunate to have you in their life, the fact that you feel so strongly about Jesus, and not wanting to turn away from Him tells so much
Awww you're so nice thank you so so much! I deal with very low self esteem so it's very hard for me.. but your words made me happy and gave me hope, I really appreciate it :]

You are unequally yoked with one who is not of your faith in Christ. Not only is he not one of your faith, he denies it outright, proclaiming that Christ was a mere prophet; he denies Christ's divinity.
Yes.. and that's one of the few things that is keeping us from being together.. but its hurting me and even though I love him I know that I'm going against my God and he wants me to let go of my boyfriend..

He is not "making" you do anything. He's not "making" you doubt your faith. That's all you, my dear.
This was so inspiring ^^ thank you so much it made me tear up and smile ahah. I'm very thankful for your kind words, it truly helps.

You need to remember your armour of God, Nika. Jesus died for you and your heritage cannot be taken away.
You're right.. thank you so much. I hope I have enough strength and courage to keep going..

I'm so sorry to see you in so much pain Please remember that it is definitely not your fault in all this...
How is it not my fault?

Nika, if we took the religion issue completely out of the matter, a break-up like this one still is almost always going to be wrenching, agonizing.(Incidentally, I have to question how committed anyone really is/was who replies to the surprise news of a break-up by commenting, 'okay then.' But thats just a personal opinion from me.)
Yes.. it is very painful and.. that's just how he is.. he ignored me and didn't talk for the whole day. Then after talking to his friends he told me that I should research on my own about Islam and Christianity and say my answer after.. but that's only raising his hopes and it will hurt us BOTH in the end. Because I DON'T want to accept islam.. I want to be with Jesus.. I want to be a good Christian and heal myself but this relationship is bringing me down...

Keep strong. And understand that this man is the one who stands between you and your real husband. Your Christian husband is out there waiting for you to meet him, but he can't find you while you're dating Mr. Wrong. God Bless!
Your reply made me smile thank you so much, God bless you too!

Dump him. He doesn't care that he's hurting you. Kick him out of your life forever. There are Christian men out there who will, no matter what you have done. There are worse women than you who find Christ and find love with such men. Much of it is due to coercive pressure, either from the government or from within their families or communities. Muslims have historically had large families, so many children are raised as Muslim and either don't see other religions as potentially true due to that bias, or if they begin to come around to another faith, there is the very real fear of being disowned or worse.
Thank you for explaining and the encouragement, It really helps and means a lot.

Sounds to me like you gave him a chance but now it's time to not look back.
I gave him so many chances... everytime he leaves I wait and I used to pray.. then he would come back and I would forgive him right away. It has happened many times...

BUT, I should have listened and not married a nonbeliever...however, I pray every day that he may come to know the Lord.
Pray for strength.
I'll pray for you too I hope things turn out well. My Christian friend's boyfriend is an atheist but he slowly is beginning to accept Christianity, however I know how hard and heartbreaking it can be. I won't make the same mistake, thank you so much.
 
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Yes i would not mention the relationship at all. That to me is just the side effect of the real issue, his acceptance of Islam. If he were convinced of the bible and christian, the side issues would disappear imo.
Thank you ^^ I will ask him if he would like to talk with you.
 
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<NY>A month or so ago I was talking about a Muslim friend that I am very in love with... we ended up becoming a couple with the intention of marrying and out love grew deeper. But the problem is our different religions... I'm a Christian and he is a Muslim. For weeks and months he tried to convert me. I've watch hundreds of videos about his faith with him and he always debated and argued and now.. I'm lost. He didn't bring me closer to Islam.. and only brought be farther away from Christianity and now I'm lost.. I'm scared that I will go to hell and.. we have broken up and tried to leave the toxic relationship but we always come back because we love eachother so much... I can't let go and I don't know what to do.. I'm scared and lost and I don't believe in anything anymore. I haven't prayed and weeks and I'm scared...<NY>
What you are going through is called brainwashing, constantly bombarding someone with religious or political propaganda to force them to accept some doctrine. Muslims are dedicated to one thing, to force the world to become Muslim peacefully sometimes but by force when nice does not work. I have read the Quran and the Hadith I'm not simply repeating something I read online. If you don't want to spend the rest of your life as a virtual slave to a husband and wear a Hijab every time you go out your door get out of this relationship, now. Muslim husbands beat their wives for anything they don't like and there is nothing the wife can do about it It is permitted in the Quran and Hadith
Thank you.. I really want to leave for good..
 
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Yes i would not mention the relationship at all. That to me is just the side effect of the real issue, his acceptance of Islam. If he were convinced of the bible and christian, the side issues would disappear imo.
He said you could talk ^^ he asked for an Instagram but if something else is easier for you I could ask him.
 
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I agree.

I have a friend who has been a missionary to the Muslim world for nearly 30 years now. He spent twenty years somewhat "undercover" working as a contractor in one Muslim country. His ministry was simple: He behaved as a Christian so that it was clear that he was a serious believer, not merely the typical American "default" Christian.

But every now and then, he was quietly approached by a Muslim who wanted to know more about Jesus.

So what my friend would do is simply begin reading with the Muslim through the gospels, each one from Matthew through John. They they would read through Acts, then Romans. They just read. My friend would answer questions simply, but mostly they just read. It would typically take months, with the Muslim returning on his own to continue.

Most importantly: My friend never tried to expound Christian "theology" or "doctrine." You see, the Quran explicitly inoculates Muslims against Christian doctrine. It spells out responses to specific Christian assertions about Christ--and Muslims love to get Christians into those debates because they already have their ammunition.

But my friend just read scripture. When they finished Romans, he would ask, simply, "Do you believe what we've read?" He reports that every Muslim who stayed with the reading from Matthew through Romans said, "Yes, I believe this. I want to be baptized."

That great witness and encouraging to hear about your friend. Thanks for sharing that @RDKirk. I have a dear Muslim friend and I remember once trying to witness to him but it ended up that I was kinda arguing with him and I also lost a friend in that process. Although we are still friends today, it has not been the same since then. I do keep on praying for him and I pray tht God would somehow work in his life even through all my mess.
 
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That great witness and encouraging to hear about your friend. Thanks for sharing that @RDKirk. I have a dear Muslim friend and I remember once trying to witness to him but it ended up that I was kinda arguing with him and I also lost a friend in that process. Although we are still friends today, it has not been the same since then. I do keep on praying for him and I pray tht God would somehow work in his life even through all my mess.
Me and him were fighting now.. I told him how I feel for the first time.. he got upset and called me mean and ignorant and didn't even mention when I said that this is hurting me.. he just said that I'm judging the whole religion based on his actions, he got very upset and started defending his religion.. I said I'm sorry and told him I'm the one to blame and it was all my fault. He said I'm closed minded... he didn't even say anything about my feelings.. he doesn't care, I'm on the verge of tears and I'm shaking... I keep on forgiving and acting like its okay but it's not! It's not okay, I'm so weak and tired and I feel played and I keep giving chances and hoping. Isn't that what Jesus told us to do? To forgive those who do us wrong? Maybe I'm being selfish.. my feelings never mattered why would they now..
 
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Me and him were fighting now.. I told him how I feel for the first time.. he got upset and called me mean and ignorant and didn't even mention when I said that this is hurting me.. he just said that I'm judging the whole religion based on his actions, he got very upset and started defending his religion.. I said I'm sorry and told him I'm the one to blame and it was all my fault. He said I'm closed minded... he didn't even say anything about my feelings.. he doesn't care, I'm on the verge of tears and I'm shaking... I keep on forgiving and acting like its okay but it's not! It's not okay, I'm so weak and tired and I feel played and I keep giving chances and hoping. Isn't that what Jesus told us to do? To forgive those who do us wrong? Maybe I'm being selfish.. my feelings never mattered why would they now..

You may want to consider talking to your pastor or a Christian counselor about this.
 
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but he keeps trying he says he'll improve... I don't understand I'm so tired and hurt

Sorry again but you are setting yourself up for a passive aggressive person by letting yourself take the blame. In the end you'll be right back where you started from. Misogyny can grow out of this. You could be playing us but we can only go by what you post, so it sounds like he is playing you.
 
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@Nika Yermakova

From reading your other postings in this thread it sounds like this man is not only controlling and toxic but also borderline abusive to you. A man that does all these things to the woman who supposedly loves him and guilts her into staying in an unhealthy relationship is abusive. He is literally being emotionally abusive to you.

If you find that you are having trouble leaving because he controls you and tries to guilt you into staying, please reach out to the authorities, a woman's shelter, another woman in your family, ANYONE to help you get out of this relationship. The longer you stay, the more control this man has over you.
 
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but he keeps trying he says he'll improve... I don't understand I'm so tired and hurt

Taken from info I saved years ago. Cannot find the original website.

Quote... 'The p.a. relies on your self-doubt so that he/she CAN turn the focus on you.. Once you know what you are dealing with and are confident in that fact they are less able to instill the doubt and make you the wrong one and themselves the "injured" party...'
 
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He said you could talk ^^ he asked for an Instagram but if something else is easier for you I could ask him.


I am not on Instagram. what about on a forum? say this one through pm's?
 
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