- Aug 18, 2010
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My sixteen year old daughter who lives in Upstate NY had a very bad traumatic brain injury in 2015. Her lasting symptoms from that seem to be a headache and trouble with organization, or so we thought. Tuesday night she had a seizure. Her mom told me about it and I asked if I could go up to see her. She said no at this time and in case something else happens she wanted me to be there.
Last night she had two more. She is home now and is supposed to see a neurologist tomorrow or Tuesday. This time I told her I was coming up (I live in Florida) and I don't feel right being down here and not with her.
I was told that I shouldn't come up because she'll be in school and I won't get to see her and all I am going to do is stress everyone out including my daughter who doesn't need the extra stress. I conceded and said okay.
My girlfriend while she understands thinks that my daughter's mom doesn't have a right to tell me no as that's my daughter and she would not tell her son's father that he cannot come and see her if he said he was coming. My supervisor also feels the same and as do others I have talked to this morning. Part of me agrees, but part of me is trying to keep the peace.
A few minutes after I said okay to her when she said no, she said she'll see when spring break is and I can come up then and spend time with my daughter and her siblings which are my kids as well.
I am torn still. I don't think it's fair that her mother told me no. Why would my daughter be in school when she has had three seizures in less than a week? That doesn't make sense. I feel like I am being lied to there.
I really want to jump in my car and go see my daughter. I pay child support and health insurance for them, so technically she cannot deny me seeing them. However, I feel like keeping the peace is better even though I feel like my daughter needs me right now.
Thoughts?
Last night she had two more. She is home now and is supposed to see a neurologist tomorrow or Tuesday. This time I told her I was coming up (I live in Florida) and I don't feel right being down here and not with her.
I was told that I shouldn't come up because she'll be in school and I won't get to see her and all I am going to do is stress everyone out including my daughter who doesn't need the extra stress. I conceded and said okay.
My girlfriend while she understands thinks that my daughter's mom doesn't have a right to tell me no as that's my daughter and she would not tell her son's father that he cannot come and see her if he said he was coming. My supervisor also feels the same and as do others I have talked to this morning. Part of me agrees, but part of me is trying to keep the peace.
A few minutes after I said okay to her when she said no, she said she'll see when spring break is and I can come up then and spend time with my daughter and her siblings which are my kids as well.
I am torn still. I don't think it's fair that her mother told me no. Why would my daughter be in school when she has had three seizures in less than a week? That doesn't make sense. I feel like I am being lied to there.
I really want to jump in my car and go see my daughter. I pay child support and health insurance for them, so technically she cannot deny me seeing them. However, I feel like keeping the peace is better even though I feel like my daughter needs me right now.
Thoughts?