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Nika:

As hard as this may be hard to hear, the most healthy thing you can do as part of your faith in Christ is to break it off with your Muslim boyfriend. The Bible talks about "what fellowship does light have with darkness?" We are told to "not be unevenly yoked with unbelievers." This is why he is making you doubt. Your connection to him is rubbing off on you (Which is not good). So I would encourage you to break off ties if you love Jesus more than your boyfriend who is against Jesus. For Jesus calls us to love Him more than anyone else in our life. If not, we are not worthy of Him. Granted, we are to love others, but they come second.

Again, this may sound harsh, and I am not looking to control your life. However, the Bible is the Word of God. His Word seeks to protect us spiritually. For God loves us more than we can imagine. But sometimes love has to be tough and it can hurt. Instead, pray for a Christian man who loves Jesus, and the Lord will bring that person into your life if you are faithful to the Lord and you keep asking. For me, it took several decades, but the Lord answered my prayer in bringing a Christian soul mate into my life.

I hope this helps.

May the Lord Jesus Christ bless you.

Sincerely,

~Jason.
 
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Is my boyfriend a test from God? Why did he bring him into my life if he knew I was going to fall in love with him. I wasn't strong in my faith to begin with and always struggled with depression and anxiety and had terrible spiritual wars going on inside me which caused me to be in pain and cry for hours.. I was never strong I don't think but things keep getting harder and after repenting things get harder and I seem to fall even worse than before.

I was given the same test---failed miserably and married the man---followed 28 years of living with a severe alcoholic. It was hell. I got my faith back eventually and before he died last year---he finally gave his heart to the Lord. It nearly killed me first though! Literally--I was in a 2 mth coma after cancer surgery. He came to faith, but I was the one that had to change. I was the one that had to get my strength in my faith back and to live it--I lived it for years under extreme stress from his drinking and trying to undermine my faith. It took years of my standing strong for my faith before he finally succumbed to it---just a few hours before he died. I can not urge you strongly enough to walk away ---no, run away---and don't look back!
 
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If your faith wasn't that strong to begin with,

  1. leave the guy
  2. strengthen your faith. I know it sounds impossible. Have you ever felt drawn to another Christian confession?
 
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What if no man will accept me if they find out about my past and how much of a mess and sinner I am.. I don't think I deserve anything good..
Nika, all the more you ought to look amongst the ones that have sought forgiveness from Christ. Believe me, there will be many many people with the same thoughts as you.

Finding a life partner is not always easy, but like everything, let this be a principle to you: Galatians 2:20
in other words, you are not your own, you were bought with a price (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). Ask the Lord for your life partner.
 
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What if no man will accept me if they find out about my past and how much of a mess and sinner I am.. I don't think I deserve anything good..


That is what they want you to think--it is what Satan wants you to think. DON'T YOU BELIEVE IT!!

Isa_54:5 For thy Maker is thine husband; the LORD of hosts is his name; and thy Redeemer the Holy One of Israel; The God of the whole earth shall he be called.

Jesus has never let you go---He is just waiting for you--He only knocks, He's a gentleman. You have to open the door. You don't deserve anything better---not on your own. It is Jesus that says you deserve the very best, and the very best is Him!
Joh_10:10 The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.

He wants to give you everything He has---don't settle for less!
 
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A month or so ago I was talking about a Muslim friend that I am very in love with... we ended up becoming a couple with the intention of marrying and out love grew deeper. But the problem is our different religions... I'm a Christian and he is a Muslim. For weeks and months he tried to convert me. I've watch hundreds of videos about his faith with him and he always debated and argued and now.. I'm lost. He didn't bring me closer to Islam.. and only brought be farther away from Christianity and now I'm lost.. I'm scared that I will go to hell and.. we have broken up and tried to leave the toxic relationship but we always come back because we love eachother so much... I can't let go and I don't know what to do.. I'm scared and lost and I don't believe in anything anymore. I haven't prayed and weeks and I'm scared...
Dear Nika,
Here is the best advice I can give you. Please give it serious consideration. You should not seek any deeper relationship with this person unless he converts to Christianity and then I would be hesitant. A few years here on Earth of what you "think" will bring happiness is no where near worth an eternity of torment. The most important trait you should look for in a mate is whether or not this person will help you get to Heaven. This fuzzy, warm feeling is superficial at best and definitely temporary. Believe me, I know from experience, there is someone else out there who will make you forget all about him. Your soul is the most valuable and precious thing you will ever own!
In Him
 
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I've never heard of anyone who became a christian after an argument about the truth of the Word of God. We may win the argument and lose the person. We are to share the truth in love and humility and share our personal testimony and let God do the rest. I think we can correct their faulty view but we should not engage in an argument with an unbeliever. Perhaps find someone more mature who wouldn't argue with you. Perhaps an older Christian sister in the faith.

I agree.

I have a friend who has been a missionary to the Muslim world for nearly 30 years now. He spent twenty years somewhat "undercover" working as a contractor in one Muslim country. His ministry was simple: He behaved as a Christian so that it was clear that he was a serious believer, not merely the typical American "default" Christian.

But every now and then, he was quietly approached by a Muslim who wanted to know more about Jesus.

So what my friend would do is simply begin reading with the Muslim through the gospels, each one from Matthew through John. They they would read through Acts, then Romans. They just read. My friend would answer questions simply, but mostly they just read. It would typically take months, with the Muslim returning on his own to continue.

Most importantly: My friend never tried to expound Christian "theology" or "doctrine." You see, the Quran explicitly inoculates Muslims against Christian doctrine. It spells out responses to specific Christian assertions about Christ--and Muslims love to get Christians into those debates because they already have their ammunition.

But my friend just read scripture. When they finished Romans, he would ask, simply, "Do you believe what we've read?" He reports that every Muslim who stayed with the reading from Matthew through Romans said, "Yes, I believe this. I want to be baptized."
 
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I just don't understand why so many people believe in it if it is so evil - Islam I mean.

I'm sorry, how many people bowed to Hitler, Stalin, and Mao?

You're kidding, right?

Islam IS evil. The Quran is full of violence, antisemitism, anti-Christian rhetoric, and allows men to beat their wives.

What are you doing???!!
 
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I'm sure the average Muslim spends very little time even thinking about Christians. I'm sure they have better things to do.
Muslims do not hate Christ.

You don't know anything about Islam. I have many Muslim friends and one who has asked for my hand in marriage for a while now. They care about Christians and are highly offended.
in my evangelistic missions, I have come face to face with the horror of Islam indoctrination. They are taught to say they believe in Jesus but He is not a son of God.
 
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Nika:

As hard as this may be hard to hear, the most healthy thing you can do as part of your faith in Christ is to break it off with your Muslim boyfriend. The Bible talks about "what fellowship does light have with darkness?" We are told to "not be unevenly yoked with unbelievers." This is why he is making you doubt. Your connection to him is rubbing off on you (Which is not good). So I would encourage you to break off ties if you love Jesus more than your boyfriend who is against Jesus. For Jesus calls us to love Him more than anyone else in our life. If not, we are not worthy of Him. Granted, we are to love others, but they come second.

Again, this may sound harsh, and I am not looking to control your life. However, the Bible is the Word of God. His Word seeks to protect us spiritually. For God loves us more than we can imagine. But sometimes love has to be tough and it can hurt. Instead, pray for a Christian man who loves Jesus, and the Lord will bring that person into your life if you are faithful to the Lord and you keep asking. For me, it took several decades, but the Lord answered my prayer in bringing a Christian soul mate into my life.

I hope this helps.

May the Lord Jesus Christ bless you.

Sincerely,

~Jason.
Thank you.. I am just scared of hurting him, I don't want that...
 
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I was given the same test---failed miserably and married the man---followed 28 years of living with a severe alcoholic. It was hell. I got my faith back eventually and before he died last year---he finally gave his heart to the Lord. It nearly killed me first though! Literally--I was in a 2 mth coma after cancer surgery. He came to faith, but I was the one that had to change. I was the one that had to get my strength in my faith back and to live it--I lived it for years under extreme stress from his drinking and trying to undermine my faith. It took years of my standing strong for my faith before he finally succumbed to it---just a few hours before he died. I can not urge you strongly enough to walk away ---no, run away---and don't look back!
Thank you.. I wish you the best ^^ I just.. its hard to let go but it hurts me being with him..
 
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Awww thank you ^^ yeah I've been struggling with depression for a while and I still do. I also overthink a lot and experience severe anxiety which has made me afraid to go to church and I skipped many days of school which led me to failing many classes and it took a lot of of effort to get my grades back up. But this relationship made it so much worse, i skipped school so that I could talk to him and that made my mom always go to court because of so many absences. I even skipped church for him. It is so hard and I experience pain all the time and fighting for him drained me so much. I lost everything. I lost my faith, I pushed away many friends and even went against my family. I gave up on all my dreams, plans and goals and I had so much hope for him but all of this ended up bringing me down and making my mental, physical and spiritual situation worse. I would stay up all night for him watching religious videos because otherwise he would be upset and say "you are making up excuses and running away from the truth" he talked bad things about pastors and my Christian friends saying that they are ignorant and they changed the bible for their own good and such. He called God fake and.. honestly his words really hurt me. And when we talk about religion I end up crying at some point because I can feel a war inside me. He calls me ignorant and egoistic and selfish and I feel like it's all my fault.. I've even experienced more and more suicidal thoughts which never happened so much...
Sounds toxic, what's the attraction based on? Looks or....
 
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Mixed marriages can work, but it is difficult and requires that each party respect each other and each other's faith. Another potential problem is how will the children be raised.

I disagree with some who might say that it is always wrong for a Christian to marry a Muslim or a Jew.

You seem to be ignoring what the Bible has to say.
 
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If your faith wasn't that strong to begin with,

  1. leave the guy
  2. strengthen your faith. I know it sounds impossible. Have you ever felt drawn to another Christian confession?
I have but I feel like every time I repent I just keep falling into worse sin and go through more harsh trials...
 
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Nika, all the more you ought to look amongst the ones that have sought forgiveness from Christ. Believe me, there will be many many people with the same thoughts as you.

Finding a life partner is not always easy, but like everything, let this be a principle to you: Galatians 2:20
in other words, you are not your own, you were bought with a price (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). Ask the Lord for your life partner.
Thank you so much
 
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Dear Nika,
Here is the best advice I can give you. Please give it serious consideration. You should not seek any deeper relationship with this person unless he converts to Christianity and then I would be hesitant. A few years here on Earth of what you "think" will bring happiness is no where near worth an eternity of torment. The most important trait you should look for in a mate is whether or not this person will help you get to Heaven. This fuzzy, warm feeling is superficial at best and definitely temporary. Believe me, I know from experience, there is someone else out there who will make you forget all about him. Your soul is the most valuable and precious thing you will ever own!
In Him
This really means a lot thank you.. it's just very hard and scary to let go... he will hate me.. I feel like all of these troubles are my fault.
 
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He uses A LOT of science. It's his hobby and he loves it. He shows me all these signs. He shows videos of babies stop crying after listening to it. He shows me how the Quran has all these scientific facts and things that wouldn't be known during that era. He said that it is the word of God because Mohammed couldn't read nor write.

Yeah that's standard-issue dawah nonsense.

The Quran contains so many "facts" it says people come from clots, water, and dirt all at the same time. The Quran is so scientifically accurate it allows first cousin marriage which is producing reams of inbreeding birth defects among Muslim populations.

He's deceived, and he's trying to take you with him.
 
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I just don't understand why so many people believe in it if it is so evil - Islam I mean.
I suppose there have been exceptions, but every Moslem who has tried to convince me against Christianity has used the same series of attack lines.

What I learned from this experience are two things: 1) these people have been carefully schooled in which Bible verses to misrepresent to Christians in order to cause them to question their faith, and 2) it behooves Christians who work with Moslems or socialize with them, etc. to KNOW their own Christian beliefs, why they make sense, and why they are believed by Christians.
 
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