My boyfriend is Muslim and he is making me doubt my faith...

derpytia said:

First of all I'm so sorry you are stuck in this position and that so many of the responses here seem to lack compassion and empathy.

Woman to woman, you can do better than this man. The type of man you deserve is one who respects you and loves you as Christ loved us. Christ would never do any of what this man has done to you. What the other posters here have said is true but I know that sometimes we poor humans can get comfortable with a situation, even if it is bad for us, because the unknown is scary. For you, not being with this man must cause you quite a bit of anxiety. You don't know what to do with yourself without him. But learning to be without him doesn't have to be done alone at all because Christ, who loves you THE MOST out of everyone you've ever known, will be with you.

As for why people join the Islamic faith -- People join it for various different reasons. The first reason (which is the most common) is that they were raised in it. If you were raised Muslim you'd have a difficult time converting to something else. The second reason is that people view it as a "practical" faith because it encompasses daily life and some people feel like they can be spiritually fulfilled by following rules and routine. But at the end of the day Islam doesn't provide the hope that Jesus Christ does and doesn't address our sins and the bitterness of situations such as the one you are in with this man.

And don't ever be too afraid to pray. It doesn't have to be a big prayer. But the sooner you let the Lord know that you need His help, the better. Sometimes that's the first step is realizing that we need God's help because we obviously cannot do whatever it is we know we need to do on our own. And trust that when you ask for help, God WILL help you. It may not happen right away or how you expect but He will most certainly help you.

You have my love as your sister in Christ and you have my prayers. Don't ever give up hope in the Lord, even when the situation feels like a gigantic mess.

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SinoBen said:

At this stage I think your utmost priority is to get out, run quickly, as far as possible from the situation. You think he is controlling now... it will get worse if you continue. What you need to do is have supporting people around you who are not Muslims of course. Islam means submission, choose it if you want to live under it otherwise run!

Time to let the head do the talking and not the heart because it was misplaced anyway. If you are a Child of God, you do not belong in that relationship. Find your man amongst those that love the Lord Jesus Christ.

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Romans 8 said:

What advice were you given a month ago? Did you follow it? Doesn't sound like it. You need to follow people's advice. Tell your father, or a male authority that can help you. You need male guidance in your life, like a father figure.

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mmksparbud said:

But of course he is trying to take you out of your faith---that is what all religious people who love their religion want to do---bring you to their side. You were the weak link to begin with, he knew you would cave---why?---because you did not walk away from him from the very start. That in itself proved to him that your faith is not very strong, which only made him stronger. This is a matter of who's in control. The minute you walked away from God's clear stated command to not be unequally yoked---he knew he had you. It was just a matter of time before you will start to doubt and you go over to his side. The Muslims are very good at this, they recruit very well, esp. among the young who do not have a very strong family relationship. They become a grounding force to a sense of belonging and family--it is what gangs and cults do--become your family and then displace them and then displace your faith. Classic.
The choice is the same one Adam and Eve had---who do you believe, God or this beautiful, talking snake.

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timewerx said:

Many are born to it. Grew up in a Muslim household or region.

From a relative perspective, it's not evil to them.

A similar thing can be said about Christianity. We have many doctrines that doesn't actually agree with Biblical teachings and yet we do them anyway and assume the Bible teaches but the Bible actually does not.

Why we do and believe those doctrines? Why be a Muslim if many thinks its evil?

Ignorance is the answer. We accept doctrines that is not actually taught in the Bible because we don't know God nor Bible enough to discern the Truth in things we hear.

People accept being Islam because they don't know enough of it, nor other religions.

Don't belong into anything you don't know fully about. The same can be said about Christianity. Don't be quick to believe but be very careful, scrutinize, test - Proverbs 14:15

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archer75 said:

@Nika Yermakova, are you generally strong in your faith? You should seriously consider this difficulty as an opportunity to draw closer to Christ.

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He Calls Me Friend said:

If you are still reading the comments on this forum, I want to tell you that the place to start your way back is "Jesus loves me, this I know!" He has never stopped loving you, has never stopped wanting a relationship with you, and has never stopped looking out for you. You say you haven't prayed, but you have written out your thoughts for the forum members here, so now just read to your Heavenly Father in Jesus' name what you have written here, just as Jesus told us to do. That's all prayer is … telling God what's on your heart. It's not Christianity you need to get closer to; it's Jesus. You need to fall in love with him again, and you do that by getting to know him again. Read the book of John over and over and over, talk to Jesus often, tell him all your worries, all your fears, tell him what you need, what you want, what you like, what you don't like … just tell him about everything that's on your mind. There is nothing you can't tell him, you can't tire him, and you can't bore him! Your relationship with this young man won't be a problem once Jesus is number one in your life again. In the spiritual condition you are in now, you are right … YOU can't let go. But when you are in love with Jesus again, the SAME power that raised Jesus from death will empower you, and, in Jesus' name, all that needs to go, will go!

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Jason0047 said:

First, the Bible warns against adding words to it (See: Revelation 22:18). For men have lost their voice for adding to God's Word (Which is a plague that is not in Revelation but elsewhere in the Bible; See this link here and here). Galatians 1:8 says, "But though we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel unto you than that which we have preached unto you, let him be accursed." It's kind of odd that the Muslim religion is founded upon a man (Muhammad) who received a revelation from an angel long after this warning in Galatians. Yet, the Bible warns against this very thing.

Second, there is no religion that has a holy book that is backed up by so many evidences like the Bible. The evidences (in the following link) are unmistakeable that the Bible is divine in origin.

Love Branch: Evidences for the Word of God

Three, ex-Muslims/turned Christian have said that the Koran is primarily violient at it's core.
While the OT has violence within it, the entire Bible is not based solely on violence alone. The New Testament puts things in perspective with God's love and in loving our enemies.
The Koran cannot offer that.

Four, Muhammad did not die for your sins. Jesus Christ did. No other religious prophet or leader died for your sins except Jesus Christ (Who is God).

Five, the Muslim religion is about works alone to be saved. There is no grace. Yes, most of bible churches today wrongfully teach that works of faith (after being saved by God's grace) do not play a part in salvation, but that is no excuse to turn to the clearly false Muslim religion. Jesus said narrow is the way that leads unto life, and few be there that find it. Jesus said you will know a tree by it's fruit. Do you see Muslims having more of a repetition of doing good than Christianity? I sure don't. My impression of the Muslim religion is one of violence and not peace or love. But Jesus taught us to pray and love and do good towards our enemies under the New Covenant.

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Jason0047 said:

This ex-Muslim turned Christian talks about why he stopped believing the Muslim is a religion of peace.

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