What can Jesus do to help me with my suffering?

I think you should pray against negative self image. This seems like the main culprit for your stagnancy in life. It's going to be hard to meet people who treat you nicely because you probably don't treat yourself nicely too. Why don't you like your appearance? can you do something about it?

You're not a failure, stop comparing yourself with others, you're unique and rightly so. You can get a job if you make yourself look better, change your mindset and build your confidence..God can help you but you'll nerd to ask Him to help you love yourself first. God bless

God loves you and you definitely can grow closer to Him and understand His Will for your life by having a daily prayer life and by reading a few pages from the Bible at least once every few days.

NathChristian said:

Hi guys
I consider my life a total failure.
I have no friends and no social skills, I am 26 years old and never had a boyfriend.
I try to be friendly to people but everybody go away.

I am a chemical engineer, unemployed, can't get a job.
I studied hard because I thought "at least I will have money"... but it didn't work out because I could not get any job after University.

So I lost all my youth in my room studying.

My past high school classmates all got good jobs and are all getting married etc.

I have never traveled, I do not have any good experiences to tell people. My life is so boring.
and I hate my appearance.
most people I meet are mean people who treat me badly.

What should I do exactly?
Can I ask Jesus to help me in some way? Would he help me in anything or I'd better just change my mindset to accept my boring life as it is?

Thanks

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So basically you are just like me. I have felt all the same things. I have failed at everything in life. I'm 41, and never had a girlfriend. I am friendly to be people, but they have all treated me terribly and deserted me. At least you are a chemical engineer. I failed out of college 3 times in a row. And I hate the way I look too.

So aren't we a pair? I'm not working jobs with people half my age, that have double my income. It is great fun.

However, I have to tell you, just in the way you write, how thoughtful and honest you have spoken here.... my reaction is that this is just the valley for you, and things will improve at some point.

I know that's seems trite, and I cannot point to any specific reason, but I just get the feeling that you are in a temporary place, and that this is more of the interlude to the rest of your life, not the last chapter.

Now I would imagine you'll have to make some changes that are not comfortable, but on the other side will be something better G-d willing.

Above all else seek Him that will never leave nor forsake you. You are still young and talented and have much to offer the world.
You can do anything that you set your mind to friend. :]

NathChristian said:

Hi guys
I consider my life a total failure.
I have no friends and no social skills, I am 26 years old and never had a boyfriend.
I try to be friendly to people but everybody go away.

I am a chemical engineer, unemployed, can't get a job.
I studied hard because I thought "at least I will have money"... but it didn't work out because I could not get any job after University.

So I lost all my youth in my room studying.

My past high school classmates all got good jobs and are all getting married etc.

I have never traveled, I do not have any good experiences to tell people. My life is so boring.
and I hate my appearance.
most people I meet are mean people who treat me badly.

What should I do exactly?
Can I ask Jesus to help me in some way? Would he help me in anything or I'd better just change my mindset to accept my boring life as it is?

Thanks

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I´m sorry you are in a rough spot right now. You can pray to God for a change, but it´s not a guarantee you will get the help you want. Sometimes we don´t get things we want, but things we need. It´s not easy being in such a negative mindset. You could try to change your thoughts a litle, Remember that no matter how hard you have it, no matter how bad people treat you, or how little you have in life, there is always people in this world who has it a million times worse than us, this could help to put your thoughts in the right perspective.Try to focus on what you have, be grateful for all the things you have, don´t focus on what you don´t have, and try not to compare you to other people.The people you talk about, who you think have happy easy lives, they are miserable too at times. There is no perfection, no manual to a perfect life, life is not easy for anyone. Just because other people have more than you, have acheived more, that does not make them more happy. I know this world we live in, is all about obligations and acheiving things, but in the race after fame and glory we forget something crucial, we forget the small things in life. We forget to be present, we forget to value the small things. We put way too much pressure on ourselves, no wonder we become more and more depressed, anxious and stressed out. It´s benneficial to understand when your mind takes over and dwells on negativity, to try and stop these bad thoughts, to learn positive selftalk, it´s not easy but it can be done. There is apps you can download to learn positive selftalk, or therapy can be good.I hope you can break this vicious cycle.

I feel like the unemployment thing is first and foremost. Do you like the field? If you want to travel, are you interested in relocating? ChemE is not a booming field, but not a saturated or dying one, either. Petrochemical and semiconductor need plenty of ChemE's. Cryogenics is really heating up (pun intended).

It seems you are really speaking badly about yourself. Give your self some credit for studying, doing the hard work, passing the classes and completing your degree. You will get a great job soon if you quit speaking negative words over your life. Put the word of God in your heart and mouth and you will be blessed! Start thinking on the perfect job, pray on it correctly, knowing you will receive the petition you desire and God said you will receive. Glory to God! We live as Christians in a faith system, everything comes about by faith. Negative faith works too, it is called fear. Right now you seem to be fearing you will not get a job, you think you don't look right, your youth is fading etc. This must change. You are a child of the living God, made by the Father, with all of the potential in the world! I wrote on my blog about how important it is to get God's word into your heart and mouth in a few different posts entitled, The Heart and the Mouth, The Word and the Blessing, also the latest, Faith and Fear: A Daily Choice of Life. at therealmbydanielmears.com

NathChristian said:

Hi guys
I consider my life a total failure.
I have no friends and no social skills, I am 26 years old and never had a boyfriend.
I try to be friendly to people but everybody go away.

I am a chemical engineer, unemployed, can't get a job.
I studied hard because I thought "at least I will have money"... but it didn't work out because I could not get any job after University.

So I lost all my youth in my room studying.

My past high school classmates all got good jobs and are all getting married etc.

I have never traveled, I do not have any good experiences to tell people. My life is so boring.
and I hate my appearance.
most people I meet are mean people who treat me badly.

What should I do exactly?
Can I ask Jesus to help me in some way? Would he help me in anything or I'd better just change my mindset to accept my boring life as it is?

Thanks

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Frankly, Jesus came up only in your last sentence above.

Sounds similar to my life and it caused me to be bitter. I would suggest you to be careful and not let this make you bitter. Just work on your faith and relationship with God and everything will fall into place either eventually or in the next life.

After all Jesus said, "Seek first the kingdom of heaven and all else will be provided."

NathChristian said:

Hi guys
I consider my life a total failure.
I have no friends and no social skills, I am 26 years old and never had a boyfriend.
I try to be friendly to people but everybody go away.

I am a chemical engineer, unemployed, can't get a job.
I studied hard because I thought "at least I will have money"... but it didn't work out because I could not get any job after University.

So I lost all my youth in my room studying.

My past high school classmates all got good jobs and are all getting married etc.

I have never traveled, I do not have any good experiences to tell people. My life is so boring.
and I hate my appearance.
most people I meet are mean people who treat me badly.

What should I do exactly?
Can I ask Jesus to help me in some way? Would he help me in anything or I'd better just change my mindset to accept my boring life as it is?

Thanks

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Suffering? You are not hanging naked crucified on a cross.

You're depressed because of your current circumstances. Focus on and be thankful for Jesus who really suffered for you. Regardless on how people might treat you in this world Jesus loves you more than your mind can conceive, rest in that. Talk with Him, praise Him for all that He did for you. Study His Word. Focus on scriptures of encouragement.

Keep looking for work ... perhaps it may not be the work you want, but I am sure you kind find some kind of work ... perhaps through that new friends might be brought ... who knows. Maybe do some charity work?

Point is ... get the focus off yourself and on Jesus. He will open doors, maybe just not the doors you want opened or at the time you want them opened.

May the Lord bring peace to your heart and mind in all circumstances. Amen.

NathChristian said:

Hi guys
I consider my life a total failure.
I have no friends and no social skills, I am 26 years old and never had a boyfriend.
I try to be friendly to people but everybody go away.

I am a chemical engineer, unemployed, can't get a job.
I studied hard because I thought "at least I will have money"... but it didn't work out because I could not get any job after University.

So I lost all my youth in my room studying.

My past high school classmates all got good jobs and are all getting married etc.

I have never traveled, I do not have any good experiences to tell people. My life is so boring.
and I hate my appearance.
most people I meet are mean people who treat me badly.

What should I do exactly?
Can I ask Jesus to help me in some way? Would he help me in anything or I'd better just change my mindset to accept my boring life as it is?

Thanks

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The bible tells us that "all things work together for good for those who love God". I have two stories for you my own and my friends. It took me until the age of 35 to get married. Before that time I felt abandoned, and abandoned by God, I never had a serious relationship with the opposite sex, every thing was very tough, I though God would never let me marry. But eventually I did marry, and now I am happily married. But the time leading up to that period was not easy, I sometimes thought about suicide. Looking back I see little good in that time, but now I am blessed. Don't worry thinking you don't have a good future ahead God has good plans for you. The second story is a little morbid, but I had a friend, a good friend, who was a Christian, but they had a disability that caused them to find a hard time getting a partner. Once their mother died, my friend became very sad, and depressed. The likely hood of marriage was low, so they would have grown old lonely. Yet I feel God had another plan, He actually made my friend sick, a sickness from which he died shortly after. So my friend is now in heaven. After his mother died, he had no companion, and God knew it, so God took him home. That may not seem like a blessing, but the bible says "eye has not seen nor ear heard the blessing that awaits in heaven". I share two parallel stories to show, that regardless how life goes, God has good ahead for you.

If you are chosen and set apart you won't seem to have everything you wanted that others seem to have so easily. This is to bring you forth as gold. We are called to be patient in affliction. Not so comfortable, I know. But you will shine, sparkle and stand out from the rest after the whole process. Just follow the Lord faithfully and let Him be your priority and everything else will not matter that much anymore.