pray for a broken heart :')

hi friends. my ex broke up with me almost three months ago and I'm STILL heartbroken about it. why? I feel like there are so many reasons, but also there shouldn't be any reasons why I still feel this way. when we were together I thought we were perfect, of course. he's the pastor's son, for one thing, and I've never met someone who has such an authentic love for Jesus the way he does. he told me the reason he wanted to break up because he was scared that he didn't truly love me, and that it was just lust. we never crossed any physical boundaries. and how could he have known if he loved me that soon? I guess I'm mostly upset because he said he really wanted to stay friends but ended up completely distancing himself from me. I'm scared I'll never know anyone as good as him. I pray about this every day and every time I seem to be getting better, I get worse again. I've tried making an effort to be his friend but he just doesn't want that anymore. it's so hard when I see him at church. I started to wonder if God is allowing me to feel like this because we are meant to be together. I just can't seem to let go and I wish I knew what to do to please God and heal my heart :/

Tigger45 said:

May God’s peace, strength and wisdom guide you

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thank you so much <3

tniles408 said:

I may sound mean but I'm just being straight, ok? God loves you... here goes... As a Christian a relationship can only be healthy if we don't NEED the other person. We find the love and everything we need from Jesus and then once we're full we enter into a relationship for what we can give. That's the only way, otherwise we're still like the world, and when we say I love you we really are saying I need you... it's selfish... the reason you're so hurt is because you still don't know Gods love and you NEED/want that man to fill your void... he never will, only God can. To know the love of Christ is to be full. Then once youre full you can overflow... only then is a relationship or marriage healthy.

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you are absolutely right. thank you. I needed to hear that.

God bless

Sketcher said:

It's going to keep hurting for a while.

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not what I was hoping to hear . all I can do is focus on God's love

tniles408 said:

It doesn't have to keep hurting, trust me. If I send you a video will you watch it?

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yes I would

tniles408 said:

Great, I'm excited for you... I hope you don't hear this as arrogant but you're blessed that I saw your post lol.
The love of God can be known beyond just an intellectual thing... that's why Paul prayed in Eph 3 that they would know (epignosis) Gods love that surpasses knowledge (gnosis) ... Two different Greek words . Its an experience through the holy spirit. An experience. Once it is truly known and experienced you will be full. And when you're full you're free.
I was gonna send one video but I changed my mind. The first "video" I want to show you is actually a series of 5. I suggest you watch them all. Here it is : God's Kind Of Love To You - Andrew Wommack (MP3) 1 to 5 - YouTube
The second is really special to me, its long but it's really just the first hour or so that I want you to see:

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I will definitely check it out. thanks

Mydreams said:

Lord bless Nicole Aziz, in this matter. Heal her heart and broken relationship. Please give your guidance, understanding and bless Nicole Aziz, in Jesus precious name, Amen!

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thank you thank you!

Kenny'sID said:

Honestly, this type thing always stinks, and no matter who we are, or what our religion, if any, it's always going to stink, and I'm sorry you had to go through it.

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yeah, it's okay. thank you.

Southernscotty said:

Lifting you up in prayer friend. God is not keeping you from someone, He is keeping you for someone :]
He has the right one for you, so trust in God and lean not on your own understanding!

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Amen! thank you.