I am having a really hard time right now. I am 29 and was baptized and confirmed in the Episcopal Church when I was 24. I met my now wife the next year. She comes from a Baptist upbringing, but had a bad experience at her home church. She attended my Episcopal church with me for nearly three years, then voiced concern that she was not getting anything out of the services. I understood, as there is a big difference between the denominations. I told her I was willing to try a Baptist Church with her. We started attending a few weeks ago and we both really liked it. The pastor wanted to pay a visit to our home, and did so this past Tuesday. While at our house, he informed me that if I ever wanted to become a member, I would have to be baptized again, pretty much saying that the first one wasn't valid because I wasn't fully submerged. And he said that "we baptists go by the book", and other things taking subtle digs at the Episcopal Church (which I know of the issues a lot of folks have with Episcopalians, but some of the comments were uncalled for). I have always been taught in ONE baptism for the forgiveness of sins, and the thought of being baptized again is a bit unsettling because of it, because it's like saying I didn't mean it the first time. It is causing issues in my marriage because my wife is happy at the church and has had a bit of spiritual awakening, but it is causing me distress because the only way I can join that church is to be baptized again, which goes against one of my core beliefs. What should I do in this situation? Am I making it out to be a bigger deal than it actually is?
So I'm going to go all Bible on you... ok?
Ready?
Hebrews 13:17 says this....
Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you.
You are going to a church, that has some rules. Submit yourselves to the leaders of the church, and obey them.
You said the pastor made some 'digs' at Episcopalians, and some uncalled for comments. In general I think it is better to not make comments against any other Christian group, unless they are doing something truly crazy.
However, Proverbs 19:11 says this....
A person's wisdom yields patience; it is to one's glory to overlook an offense.
Christians should be the most difficult people to get offended. There is no reason to even give these small comments a second thought.
You said that getting baptized again would mean your first one meant nothing.
Says who? The only people who think that, already think your first baptism meant nothing, right? Will not getting baptized make them think it did?
So you know it meant something. And getting baptized again, will not change that.
I've read the Bible cover to cover. Did a read through Bible in a year, for several years. I read multiple translations.
Every single translation says people should get baptized. I have yet to read any translation of the Bible, that says "Get baptized, but never again, or else you get tossed in hell!".
I've never read that. Have you? If you have, where is that passage? Where is the passage that specifically prohibits you from getting baptized twice?
I know many people that got baptized more than once. For a variety of reasons.
Some people would argue.... well the first one didn't matter. OR well the second one didn't matter.
Well then so what? Nothing harmed, and everyone is happy... so ... what?
Here is the important part.... Colossians 3:17
And whatever you do, whether in word or deed, do it all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
What you did in the Episcopal church was for the Lord, correct?
And whatever you do in this Baptist church will be for the Lord as well?
Then as long as you know in your heart, you are serving the Lord as best you can, then set your mind at easy, give thanks to G-d, and move forward in your life.
That's all you need to do.