Giving up on life, and not upset about it.

Lost4words · Mar 14, 2019

God is with you. Offer up your sufferings to God.

I myself know what it is like to be alone. Its awful.

Try and be strong friend. We are all one family here.

God bless you

Snflwrgrl · Mar 15, 2019

Danielwright2311 said:
OK, So Every day I wake up I have nothing and no one.

Divorced and cant see my kids and have no one to wake up to and no one to buy things for and no one to go to church with and every day starting to find I do not care any more.

And the funny thing is , like when I was a kid, I just do not care if I live or die.

Is that something I should worry about?

Because to be honest I don't worry about living or death, Sometimes I feel like death would be welcome, a welcome escape from my reality. In the past I would play like I might commit suicide to get my way, but this is different, this is real and i'm not afraid to die. And i'm not thinking about suicide but am wanting a way out of my stupid existence.

You have heard of many who have a bad life, or have a horrible life, ok, ok, I have no life, nothing. I am wishing I had a bad life over no life.

So I spend my days preaching the word of God and the love of Jesus and how he died for us.
I'm finding this to be fulfilling but my life is still void. At least I could have some friends every day to talk to, to look forward to say hi and who are concerned for me, but nothing.

I meet a lot of people on here who talk for awhile but then loose interest for some reason or another and stop responding, I guess there busy, and that's ok, at least they have some sort of life, I'm glade for them.

Am i the only one? is there others who fell the same as I?

Looking for advise, not for others to pity me or fell bad for me, take that pity party out of here lol.

I tell others about the Lord too. I greet at the morning service, teach workshops, and visit the elderly. Not long ago I asked the Lord why my life still feels so empty. I found a book that has helped me called Abiding in Christ by Andrew Murray. I highly recommend it if you haven’t already read it. It taught me that once we receive Christ we actually have another deeper calling, to abide in Him. I have set aside protected time every day to spend alone with the Lord. My time is in the morning because I have found if I don’t do it first thing in the morning I don’t do it at all. It can be any time but it must be daily. To start getting in my Bible again I began reading nine verses in the morning and nine at night. It takes all of about two minutes and it doesn’t matter where you start. With that I added a wonderful devotional book called One Day at a Time by William MacDonald. I pray and I keep a journal. Sometimes I just sit and listen. And I thank the Lord everyday through worship music and a book called 31 Days of Praise. Every time a new hurt arises I surrender it to the Lord. I am starting to find joy again. It’s not every day and sometimes it’s not even all day but just like he promises to he has been near to my broken heart and saved my crush spirit. Psalm 34:18

Bobber · Mar 15, 2019

Danielwright2311 said:
Looking for advise, not for others to pity me or fell bad for me, take that pity party out of here lol.

OK so you've asked for people not to pity you. Fair enough. I'll seek to offer you none. Not all people can take advise for they can't get their minds off themselves long enough to receive it. So tell me....what type of person are you?

I agree you've had some problems in life. And yes problems especially if prolonged can cause one to loose heart and surrender to apathy. You're the only one yeah or nay that can flip the switch to set forth a positive agenda for happiness. I can't do it for you. Neither can anybody else on here. You still don't wan't someone taking to you in a sympathetic way? I mean I'm willing to if you want me too but if not I'll just continue.

OK, So Every day I wake up I have nothing and no one.

I thought you said you're a Christian? God the Father, Jesus and the Holy Spirit aren't someone?

And the funny thing is , like when I was a kid, I just do not care if I live or die.

Is that something I should worry about?

Maybe not something you should worry about but something rather you should make a serious adjustment in the way that you think. If your time left on the Earth meant nothing more than being a strength to others and to advance the Kingdom of God shouldn't that right there be a motivation not to want to give up on life.

And i'm not thinking about suicide but am wanting a way out of my stupid existence.

It's not a stupid existence if you're wanting to advance the Kingdom of God. The truth of the matter is many you perceive have all things going well for them if they're not serving God they're the ones who have a stupid existence. Every day you can make you life count for something. Will you?

At least I could have some friends every day to talk to, to look forward to say hi and who are concerned for me, but nothing.

You don't think that characters like Joseph in the Old Testament didn't feel like that when he was sold into slavery? Did it stay like that forever? No but it might have if he would have kept focus on himself rather than God. Again remember Daniel you said you didn't want NO pity but just clear plain advice.

Am i the only one? is there others who fell the same as I?

By no means Daniel. There are multitudes which turn inwardly assessing how all circumstances effect them. You give joy to others and keep your focus that way then guess who comes knocking on your door. His name is The Excitement of Life! Don't worry! He'll find you.

Looking for advise, not for others to pity me or fell bad for me..

As you see I tried not to do that so I hope you liked my post. I will break down and say one thing however I feel its sad that you had a divorce and can't see your kids. But even with that one has to set forth an agenda to maybe somehow change that situation if possibly or lock into whatever positive agenda God can give you. And he will.

If you're a Christian like you say, your life is bought with a price...by the precious blood of Jesus. Sorry but you have no right to say your life is meaningless or has to stay that way. There's nothing meaningless about one sharing the love of God in them and seeking to do his will.

Bobber · Mar 15, 2019

Danielwright2311 said:
I have no friends, just employees who work for me lol.

Now wouldn't it be funny if one of your employees came on here and said THEY didn't have any friends? So here the two of you were working side by side wanting the same thing and you weren't even aware of it. :doh:

Danielwright2311 · Mar 15, 2019

Lost4words said:
God is with you. Offer up your sufferings to God.

I myself know what it is like to be alone. Its awful.

Try and be strong friend. We are all one family here.

God bless you

THANK YOU, GOD BLESS YOU ALSO.

Danielwright2311 · Mar 15, 2019

Bobber said:
OK so you've asked for people not to pity you. Fair enough. I'll seek to offer you none. Not all people can take advise for they can't get their minds off themselves long enough to receive it. So tell me....what type of person are you?

I agree you've had some problems in life. And yes problems especially if prolonged can cause one to loose heart and surrender to apathy. You're the only one yeah or nay that can flip the switch to set forth a positive agenda for happiness. I can't do it for you. Neither can anybody else on here. You still don't wan't someone taking to you in a sympathetic way? I mean I'm willing to if you want me too but if not I'll just continue.

I thought you said you're a Christian? God the Father, Jesus and the Holy Spirit aren't someone?

Maybe not something you should worry about but something rather you should make a serious adjustment in the way that you think. If your time left on the Earth meant nothing more than being a strength to others and to advance the Kingdom of God shouldn't that right there be a motivation not to want to give up on life.

It's not a stupid existence if you're wanting to advance the Kingdom of God. The truth of the matter is many you perceive have all things going well for them if they're not serving God they're the ones who have a stupid existence. Every day you can make you life count for something. Will you?

You don't think that characters like Joseph in the Old Testament didn't feel like that when he was sold into slavery? Did it stay like that forever? No but it might have if he would have kept focus on himself rather than God. Again remember Daniel you said you didn't want NO pity but just clear plain advice.

By no means Daniel. There are multitudes which turn inwardly assessing how all circumstances effect them. You give joy to others and keep your focus that way then guess who comes knocking on your door. His name is The Excitement of Life! Don't worry! He'll find you.

As you see I tried not to do that so I hope you liked my post. I will break down and say one thing however I feel its sad that you had a divorce and can't see your kids. But even with that one has to set forth an agenda to maybe somehow change that situation if possibly or lock into whatever positive agenda God can give you. And he will.

If you're a Christian like you say, your life is bought with a price...by the precious blood of Jesus. Sorry but you have no right to say your life is meaningless or has to stay that way. There's nothing meaningless about one sharing the love of God in them and seeking to do his will.

Thank you for your kind words.

Danielwright2311 · Mar 15, 2019

Bobber said:
Now wouldn't it be funny if one of your employees came on here and said THEY didn't have any friends? So here the two of you were working side by side wanting the same thing and you weren't even aware of it.

I live right next to the Indian reservation so all my employees are from that Indian tribe, there a lot different and do not believe in God, well, most of them.

I have tried to make friends out of them, but cant as I do not believe in there ways of life and cant support them. But I do pray for them.

Liam2019 · May 12, 2019

I turned 40 this year so being in my 40's is still a new experience for me but it does feel sort of odd to think i will never be in my 30's ever again. Anyway a few things stood out in your posts

Danielwright2311 said:
Divorced and cant see my kids

Same. I lost custody 6 months ago, although i can see them once a fortnight, but that's it.

Danielwright2311 said:
I am a man over 40 who is divorced, no one wants a friend who is a man over 40

I also have trouble making friends but not sure it its because i am a man over 40 because i've always had trouble with it.

I read somewhere once that men tend to be loners more than women because they don't have a social network of friends the same way women do. The more i think about it, aside from my family which i've lost now anyway, i guess i have always been a bit of a loner.

Danielwright2311 · May 12, 2019

Liam2019 said:
I turned 40 this year so being in my 40's is still a new experience for me but it does feel sort of odd to think i will never be in my 30's ever again. Anyway a few things stood out in your posts

Same. I lost custody 6 months ago, although i can see them once a fortnight, but that's it.

I also have trouble making friends but not sure it its because i am a man over 40 because i've always had trouble with it.

I read somewhere once that men tend to be loners more than women because they don't have a social network of friends the same way women do. The more i think about it, aside from my family which i've lost now anyway, i guess i have always been a bit of a loner.

Well, we are in the same boat, I can row for awhile if your tired.

:swoon:

carp614 · May 14, 2019

Daniel you are valuable to more people than you think. None of them would be better off without you. please don't forget that.

Think about and pray about serving at an animal rescue. Dogs and Cats are fine, but horses/farm animals would be better. If people are baffling right now, this can help you get better.

I have been saved for almost 14 years, but I was basically broken and useless until I started volunteering at a horse rescue 3 years ago. Serving without worrying about the reward helped me to reshape my expectations of other people. God used the animals to heel me and grow a seed of compassion for people that had never developed before. I also met a ton of cool people who were patient and kind and lot like me.

One thing I want to say to you in love: you need to get off the internet and go do something physically for others. Research suggests that spending too much time on the internet makes people feel isolated. Google it, then turn it off for a while.

God bless you Daniel!

Kayann246 · May 15, 2019

Alway stay in faith. As a almost 40 year old women I can't say I completely understand from a male point of view but as humans we have all been where you are whether physical or emotionally in our lives. It's easier to make friends when you force yourself to engage in things you enjoy. Some of the things I've done to embrace life and people are joining a church and volunteering at the church, joining a fitness class that you commit to go to at least once or twice a week, join a hobby (baseball, tennis, game night, book club etc) meetup group, volunteer at a local hospital, Habit for Humanity, VA or animal shelter etc. Those are a few of the things I've done to experience meeting new people that lift you up while enjoying common interests. Always hold God close and know that he is with you. You are experiencing a bump in the road but it gets smoother and you will cruise on that long highway of life with joy again.

bèlla · Jul 12, 2019

Danielwright2311 said:
I find it hypocritical how I need to be the start in a friendship Becouse I'm the one in need.

You’re putting the cart before the horse. Adults don’t enter friendships as swiftly as children do. They have the luxury of familiarity and the absence of emotional barriers and experiences we’ve endured.

Friendships are developed through common bonds and interactions. If the pressure to become friends is driving your conversation and outlook. It can scare people away and give the impression you’re desperate or unstable.

You can’t gauge a person’s makeup through one meeting. And if you’re trying to do it you’ll make a lot of mistakes. We are told you know a tree by its fruit. You’re looking for trees rooted in Christ. That takes discernment.

Mabie I'm wrong here but the body of Jesus is suppose to run to me and be my family in time of need. So all my family are hypocrites who truly do not serve God and this frightened me to learn.

Your expectations are part of the problem. People will always disappoint you. We’re imperfect. If you’re trying to fill the void with them you’ll always fall short. No one can occupy that space completely but God.

Instead of dwelling on where the Body falls short. Ask the Lord to make you the kind of friend who sticks closer than a brother. Ask Him to change you and see what happens when He does.

I spent years after I came to Christ with no one to talk to save my family and daughter. I gave up all my connections for Him. I didn’t lean into the congregation or despair. I leaned on Him and He never stops talking once you do.

You need to turn in and lean in and you’ll experience the removal of your burden and the heaviness you feel. And perhaps that is what He’s trying to bring you to in all of this. Maybe your lack is a lesson in disguise and a blessing awaits when you’ve learned.

Jubilee Jonz · Jul 27, 2019

I'm new to this site and feeling some of the same things you do. I'm trying hard to take negative thoughts captive. Get in touch if you would like a consistent pen-pal and friendly support.

God bless you!

Danielwright2311 said:
OK, So Every day I wake up I have nothing and no one.

Divorced and cant see my kids and have no one to wake up to and no one to buy things for and no one to go to church with and every day starting to find I do not care any more.

And the funny thing is , like when I was a kid, I just do not care if I live or die.

Is that something I should worry about?

Because to be honest I don't worry about living or death, Sometimes I feel like death would be welcome, a welcome escape from my reality. In the past I would play like I might commit suicide to get my way, but this is different, this is real and i'm not afraid to die. And i'm not thinking about suicide but am wanting a way out of my stupid existence.

You have heard of many who have a bad life, or have a horrible life, ok, ok, I have no life, nothing. I am wishing I had a bad life over no life.

So I spend my days preaching the word of God and the love of Jesus and how he died for us.
I'm finding this to be fulfilling but my life is still void. At least I could have some friends every day to talk to, to look forward to say hi and who are concerned for me, but nothing.

I meet a lot of people on here who talk for awhile but then loose interest for some reason or another and stop responding, I guess there busy, and that's ok, at least they have some sort of life, I'm glade for them.

Am i the only one? is there others who fell the same as I?

Looking for advise, not for others to pity me or fell bad for me, take that pity party out of here lol.

Danielwright2311 · Jul 27, 2019

Jubilee Jonz said:
I'm new to this site and feeling some of the same things you do. I'm trying hard to take negative thoughts captive. Get in touch if you would like a consistent pen-pal and friendly support.

God bless you!

Well, thank you, I just might write you just to say hi, thanks for your support and i am here for you if you need to talk.

Jubilee Jonz · Jul 27, 2019

I'm glad you're still here. Are you feeling better these days? I'll pray for you; please pray for me!

Danielwright2311 · Jul 27, 2019

Jubilee Jonz said:
I'm glad you're still here. Are you feeling better these days? I'll pray for you; please pray for me!

Well, its a battle every day, But i do got the lord. I pray daily and have hope.

Its not about getting better, its about being a better person then the good will follow.

At least that is what I am trying to do.

And I will pray for you.

Jubilee Jonz · Jul 27, 2019

Thanks for your prayers!

May I ask what you have hope for - better times in this life, or peace and joy when we finally get to be with God in heaven?

Danielwright2311 · Jul 27, 2019

Jubilee Jonz said:
Thanks for your prayers!

May I ask what you have hope for - better times in this life, or peace and joy when we finally get to be with God in heaven?

My hope is not to be alone, All my life that has been my biggest fear, and here I am, settling into loneliness. Yes, I have people who are around me, but they do not get me or know me. Yes, I know others but they do not touch me or hold me or even hug me.

I forget what it feels like to be touched to be honest.

If the lord God would touch me and some times he does, it helps.

But to have that human connection, there is nothing like it while we are alive.

I wish i was in heaven with God so I did not fell this way every day, It would be easier.

I once was afraid to die, now, I welcome it.

Don't get me wrong, I love others and life, but not in the state i'm in.

Its a tired hopeless feeling. I'm 47, fit, good job, well, at least as well as I can be, able, but, the truth is.

No one wants me,

Now don't get me wrong here, i'm not complaining, not crying about it, not complaining to much.

Just needed others understanding to help my mental state.

Edit, im 46, lol.

Jubilee Jonz · Jul 27, 2019

I get you, Daniel; I definitely get you.

It's frustrating to feel lonely when surrounded by people. I could feel better about being lonely if I felt like I was of some use to anybody at all. I know I have so many blessings, and I thank the Lord for saving me (even me!) after all these sinful years. I feel selfish sometimes, like my unhappiness is ungratefulness. I don't think it is! I'm just ready for this to be over.

I just turned 45, and wonder with dread how many years lie ahead for me. I understand your tired hopeless feeling.

Consider going to church tomorrow. It's my favorite part of the week, even though I am crushed with envy sometimes seeing happy couples and families and friends together. I struggle to just be happy for them and not focus so much on what I want and don't have.

It's early here (8pm), but I'm going to bed. I would rather be asleep than awake.

Thanks for communicating with me today. I hope we will continue to chat.

Have a good evening/night.

Danielwright2311 said:
My hope is not to be alone, All my life that has been my biggest fear, and here I am, settling into loneliness. Yes, I have people who are around me, but they do not get me or know me. Yes, I know others but they do not touch me or hold me or even hug me.

I forget what it feels like to be touched to be honest.

If the lord God would touch me and some times he does, it helps.

But to have that human connection, there is nothing like it while we are alive.

I wish i was in heaven with God so I did not fell this way every day, It would be easier.

I once was afraid to die, now, I welcome it.

Don't get me wrong, I love others and life, but not in the state i'm in.

Its a tired hopeless feeling. I'm 47, fit, good job, well, at least as well as I can be, able, but, the truth is.

No one wants me,

Now don't get me wrong here, i'm not complaining, not crying about it, not complaining to much.

Just needed others understanding to help my mental state.

Edit, im 46, lol.

S.O.J.I.A. · Jul 27, 2019

so are you meeting with other believers of your local congregation?

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