Leaving my job as a bartender

Christ_inMe93 · Feb 23, 2019

Hello guys.. I need some encouragement/advice. Like the title says, I have put in my two weeks notice at the restaurant where I work as a bartender. I believe that God is calling me out of that restaurant and to find work elsewhere. Me working there has really drifted me away from God and I don’t want to keep being disobedient. I had fallen into drinking alcohol, making sarcastic/inappropriate jokes, gossiping, lusting, etc., because of being around my co-workers all day. And I feel like a hypocrite when I try to talk about Christ because I’m serving liquor to guests while they get buzzed & trying to tell my co-workers about Christ. Where I work isn’t a crazy club/bar but I am still serving hard liquor/wine/beer to guests and sometimes they get drunk because of my serving! (Of course not too drunk to where they pass out/can’t walk, etc.) everyone thinks I am being impulsive because I don’t have another steady job lined up right now. Although, I am starting substitute teaching for the time being while I actively search for a new job & have about $3,000 saved up for to pay for my car note($150/month) & phone bill($60/month) (I live at home btw). I truly do believe that God wants me to leave that place and take a leap of faith and trust Him during this time to provide for me, but I feel scared/worries that maybe I made the wrong decision. My family thinks that I shouldn’t have put in my two weeks yet and I should stay there until I find a new job, but I feel like that is telling God that I don’t trust Him to provide and I’ll stay there until I find something better. Idk. I just feel alone and I feel like no one is understanding where I’m coming from/supporting me. They are just worried about money & how I will make it jobless for who knows how long. Have any of you ever been in a situation like this? Some encouragement/advice would be greatly appreciated.

Roidecoeur78 · Feb 23, 2019

Christ_inMe93 said:
I believe that God is calling me out of that restaurant and to find work elsewhere. Me working there has really drifted me away from God and I don’t want to keep being disobedient. I had fallen into drinking alcohol, making sarcastic/inappropriate jokes, gossiping, lusting, etc., because of being around my co-workers all day. And I feel like a hypocrite when I try to talk about Christ because I’m serving liquor to guests while they get buzzed & trying to tell my co-workers about Christ. I truly do believe that God wants me to leave that place and take a leap of faith and trust Him during this time to provide for me, but I feel scared/worries that maybe I made the wrong decision. My family thinks that I shouldn’t have put in my two weeks yet and I should stay there until I find a new job, but I feel like that is telling God that I don’t trust Him to provide and I’ll stay there until I find something better. Idk. I just feel alone and I feel like no one is understanding where I’m coming from/supporting me. They are just worried about money & how I will make it jobless for who knows how long. Have any of you ever been in a situation like this? Some encouragement/advice would be greatly appreciated.

Good for you. If you're seeking to obey and draw near to God there is no wrong decision you can make. Even if you should lose/give up every thing the world might have to offer, it would still be the right decision to obey and draw near to your Creator. Everything in the world is going to go away, sooner or later, but a relationship with Yahweh is forever. Trust is essential to being faithful, you are showing what it means to you and He does not ignore that. Matthew 8:36

And yes, I have left jobs when the spirit moved me to, and there were always more jobs to be had whether I really wanted them or not. As long as the world is allowed to continue, there will be a plethora of ways to "make money", but there's only one way to have inner peace.

Romans 8 · Feb 23, 2019

I applaud you, you made the right choice. Always listen to God over family and friends (if you really think it's God of course). If you ever question if God is telling you something you should also ask your church to pray for the answer. Anyway, it's really great that you live at home and don't have to worry too much about rent. You will find another job, good luck and God Bless!

Lost4words · Feb 23, 2019

Very brave indeed. Also, you put me to shame as your trust in God is awesome.

God bless you

Sparagmos · Feb 23, 2019

Christ_inMe93 said:
Hello guys.. I need some encouragement/advice. Like the title says, I have put in my two weeks notice at the restaurant where I work as a bartender. I believe that God is calling me out of that restaurant and to find work elsewhere. Me working there has really drifted me away from God and I don’t want to keep being disobedient. I had fallen into drinking alcohol, making sarcastic/inappropriate jokes, gossiping, lusting, etc., because of being around my co-workers all day. And I feel like a hypocrite when I try to talk about Christ because I’m serving liquor to guests while they get buzzed & trying to tell my co-workers about Christ. Where I work isn’t a crazy club/bar but I am still serving hard liquor/wine/beer to guests and sometimes they get drunk because of my serving! (Of course not too drunk to where they pass out/can’t walk, etc.) everyone thinks I am being impulsive because I don’t have another steady job lined up right now. Although, I am starting substitute teaching for the time being while I actively search for a new job & have about $3,000 saved up for to pay for my car note($150/month) & phone bill($60/month) (I live at home btw). I truly do believe that God wants me to leave that place and take a leap of faith and trust Him during this time to provide for me, but I feel scared/worries that maybe I made the wrong decision. My family thinks that I shouldn’t have put in my two weeks yet and I should stay there until I find a new job, but I feel like that is telling God that I don’t trust Him to provide and I’ll stay there until I find something better. Idk. I just feel alone and I feel like no one is understanding where I’m coming from/supporting me. They are just worried about money & how I will make it jobless for who knows how long. Have any of you ever been in a situation like this? Some encouragement/advice would be greatly appreciated.

I think that as long as you are supporting yourself and not relying on others, no problem. You have some money in the bank. You mentioned you live at home, do you pay your share of the bills and groceries?

maintenance man · Feb 23, 2019

Christ_inMe93 said:
Have any of you ever been in a situation like this? Some encouragement/advice would be greatly appreciated.

I have been there and I have to tell you I regret not staying at the old job until the new job was found.

Nevertheless...

You sound strong and I believe you will persevere. You are without question moving in the right direction.

I'm praying God rewards your effort.

sunshineforJesus · Feb 23, 2019

Im proud of you and think its great that your faith in God is so strong,and also puts mine to shame.

Christ_inMe93 · Feb 23, 2019

Sparagmos said:
I think that as long as you are supporting yourself and not relying on others, no problem. You have some money in the bank. You mentioned you live at home, do you pay your share of the bills and groceries?

Yes! I pay for my car note & phone bill every month

Loyce KG · Feb 23, 2019

Christ_inMe93 said:
Hello guys.. I need some encouragement/advice. Like the title says, I have put in my two weeks notice at the restaurant where I work as a bartender. I believe that God is calling me out of that restaurant and to find work elsewhere. Me working there has really drifted me away from God and I don’t want to keep being disobedient. I had fallen into drinking alcohol, making sarcastic/inappropriate jokes, gossiping, lusting, etc., because of being around my co-workers all day. And I feel like a hypocrite when I try to talk about Christ because I’m serving liquor to guests while they get buzzed & trying to tell my co-workers about Christ. Where I work isn’t a crazy club/bar but I am still serving hard liquor/wine/beer to guests and sometimes they get drunk because of my serving! (Of course not too drunk to where they pass out/can’t walk, etc.) everyone thinks I am being impulsive because I don’t have another steady job lined up right now. Although, I am starting substitute teaching for the time being while I actively search for a new job & have about $3,000 saved up for to pay for my car note($150/month) & phone bill($60/month) (I live at home btw). I truly do believe that God wants me to leave that place and take a leap of faith and trust Him during this time to provide for me, but I feel scared/worries that maybe I made the wrong decision. My family thinks that I shouldn’t have put in my two weeks yet and I should stay there until I find a new job, but I feel like that is telling God that I don’t trust Him to provide and I’ll stay there until I find something better. Idk. I just feel alone and I feel like no one is understanding where I’m coming from/supporting me. They are just worried about money & how I will make it jobless for who knows how long. Have any of you ever been in a situation like this? Some encouragement/advice would be greatly appreciated.

Yes, I have been in a similar situation twice. The first time, I left a job because of abuse and God saw me through. I quit just like you did and I knew God called me to do that precisely. I didn't have any savings yet there was rent to pay and so many other bills. For six months, I saw God faithfully provide for me-through strangers and friends. I never begged.
Second time, I was living with my
Boyfriend and knew it was sinful to do so. I was comfortable and didn't want to leave because of the financial security I got. I neglected the emotional abuse from my ex. My r/ship without God grew worse by the day to the oint of depression. I had evil thoughts about burning down our house and losing everything.
I asked God to give me 2 signs and he did. I left the r/ship and started from scratch. I have never been more proud of myself. It's been 4 years and I have grown in faith because I chose faith over fear.
Faith doesn't make sense to the world, it prompts us to do th abnormal. When Abram left his riches and posessions for an unknown land, he must have been mocked. Noah built the ark in preparation for the flood(btw it had never rained on earth before), it didn't make sense to the world.
All these men of great faith; heard the call, promptly acted without doubt and continued to walk in faith. God eventually rewarded them.

Go forth and leave that place. With or without your savings, God is your creator and trust Him to provide. He will never leave nor FORSAKE you.

aiki · Feb 23, 2019

Christ_inMe93 said:
I truly do believe that God wants me to leave that place and take a leap of faith and trust Him during this time to provide for me, but I feel scared/worries that maybe I made the wrong decision. My family thinks that I shouldn’t have put in my two weeks yet and I should stay there until I find a new job, but I feel like that is telling God that I don’t trust Him to provide and I’ll stay there until I find something better. Idk. I just feel alone and I feel like no one is understanding where I’m coming from/supporting me. They are just worried about money & how I will make it jobless for who knows how long. Have any of you ever been in a situation like this? Some encouragement/advice would be greatly appreciated.

I think you're making a very God-honoring decision that He will honor in turn. You're quite right that aiding people in becoming drunk is not something God condones. That you're not going to spend any more time than you absolutely have to serving alcohol in a circumstance that is leading you away from God is, I think, very wise. Honestly, stuff what others think. If you're intent is to honor God and live righteously before Him, go for it. Stepping out in faith as you are for the reasons you are will meet only with God's approval and provision.

Christ_inMe93 · Feb 23, 2019

Thank you all so much for your encouragement. Sometimes I give in to my feelings rather than stand on God’s truth. You all have reminded me what is most important over all. I believe God will use this time for me to draw nearer to Him & spend more time bringing glory to His kingdom. God bless you all!

redleghunter · Feb 23, 2019

Christ_inMe93 said:
Hello guys.. I need some encouragement/advice. Like the title says, I have put in my two weeks notice at the restaurant where I work as a bartender. I believe that God is calling me out of that restaurant and to find work elsewhere. Me working there has really drifted me away from God and I don’t want to keep being disobedient. I had fallen into drinking alcohol, making sarcastic/inappropriate jokes, gossiping, lusting, etc., because of being around my co-workers all day. And I feel like a hypocrite when I try to talk about Christ because I’m serving liquor to guests while they get buzzed & trying to tell my co-workers about Christ. Where I work isn’t a crazy club/bar but I am still serving hard liquor/wine/beer to guests and sometimes they get drunk because of my serving! (Of course not too drunk to where they pass out/can’t walk, etc.) everyone thinks I am being impulsive because I don’t have another steady job lined up right now. Although, I am starting substitute teaching for the time being while I actively search for a new job & have about $3,000 saved up for to pay for my car note($150/month) & phone bill($60/month) (I live at home btw). I truly do believe that God wants me to leave that place and take a leap of faith and trust Him during this time to provide for me, but I feel scared/worries that maybe I made the wrong decision. My family thinks that I shouldn’t have put in my two weeks yet and I should stay there until I find a new job, but I feel like that is telling God that I don’t trust Him to provide and I’ll stay there until I find something better. Idk. I just feel alone and I feel like no one is understanding where I’m coming from/supporting me. They are just worried about money & how I will make it jobless for who knows how long. Have any of you ever been in a situation like this? Some encouragement/advice would be greatly appreciated.

The Lord will bless you for making this move.

Hang in there. Help is on the way.

Sparagmos · Feb 23, 2019

Christ_inMe93 said:
Yes! I pay for my car note & phone bill every month

What about rent and food and utilities?

Christ_inMe93 · Feb 23, 2019

Sparagmos said:
What about rent and food and utilities?

I currently live at home, so I don’t pay for rent / food

Sparagmos · Feb 23, 2019

Christ_inMe93 said:
I currently live at home, so I don’t pay for rent / food

Then your family is supporting you, and should probably have a say in the decision you made. If you are old enough to serve alcohol, surely you are old enough to pay your share of household expenses? IMO that would show your parents that you are responsible and can make your own decisions about your employment.

I worked in restaurants for years and agree that it is a constant temptation to “party,” so it makes sense to move on. But getting another job before quitting the current one is what most working class people have to do and it doesn’t seem unreasonable that your parents want you to learn to be financially independent and not take their generosity for granted.

Christ_inMe93 · Feb 23, 2019

Sparagmos said:
Then your family is supporting you, and should probably have a say in the decision you made. If you are old enough to serve alcohol, surely you are old enough to pay your share of household expenses? IMO that would show your parents that you are responsible and can make your own decisions about your employment.

I worked in restaurants for years and agree that it is a constant temptation to “party,” so it makes sense to move on. But getting another job before quitting the current one is what most working class people have to do and it doesn’t seem unreasonable that your parents want you to learn to be financially independent and not take their generosity for granted.

My parents don’t mind supporting my sisters and I. In our culture (Nigerian) most kids stay @ home until they marry, so that isn’t an issue. I have around $3,000 saved up to pay for my car note & phone bill so as to not put a burden on my family & I am doing substitute teaching in the mean time until I get a more permanent job (I stated that in my original post). I just don’t think because my parents support me that I shouldn’t move forward in faith because of that. I am very grateful to have a family that financially supports me & doesn’t mind me staying at home until I’m ready to move out and/or get married. I’ve even since talked to my mom and she said she is happy that I decided to leave the bar & look for another job in the meantime.

Christ_inMe93 · Feb 24, 2019

Sparagmos said:
Then your family is supporting you, and should probably have a say in the decision you made. If you are old enough to serve alcohol, surely you are old enough to pay your share of household expenses? IMO that would show your parents that you are responsible and can make your own decisions about your employment.

I worked in restaurants for years and agree that it is a constant temptation to “party,” so it makes sense to move on. But getting another job before quitting the current one is what most working class people have to do and it doesn’t seem unreasonable that your parents want you to learn to be financially independent and not take their generosity for granted.

Also, I don’t want to keep hindering my relationship with God but staying at this job until I find another one. That is what I told myself in the past & I drifted far from God. I will rather put God first, not money.

Richard T · Feb 24, 2019

You made the right call. Protecting your conscience is far more important than a few weeks of salary. I believe God has far better things in store, just quit fretting about it and rest in Him. As to whether you leave or not, just follow what you think God is leading you to. Keep in mind, many will not rent to someone without a job, so a practical matter that might have to come first anyway.

Sparagmos · Feb 24, 2019

Christ_inMe93 said:
My parents don’t mind supporting my sisters and I. In our culture (Nigerian) most kids stay @ home until they marry, so that isn’t an issue. I have around $3,000 saved up to pay for my car note & phone bill so as to not put a burden on my family & I am doing substitute teaching in the mean time until I get a more permanent job (I stated that in my original post). I just don’t think because my parents support me that I shouldn’t move forward in faith because of that. I am very grateful to have a family that financially supports me & doesn’t mind me staying at home until I’m ready to move out and/or get married. I’ve even since talked to my mom and she said she is happy that I decided to leave the bar & look for another job in the meantime.

Well cool! I thought that their concern might be that the decision should be a family one since you are still a dependent. I wish you the best!

Residential Bob · Feb 24, 2019

If you're a Southern Baptist, maybe you should keep the job for the free drinks.

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