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I prefer dating but I would be interested in a peaceful discussion about why would you prefer a different option like courting. Share your thoughts!
I have danced with girls before. It is my favorite dating idea.Dating. I know people who courted and didn't get to know each other well enough to make a wise decision about marrying. It didn't turn out well.
Courting is a fad idea, not imposed by the Bible and is unwise. It is a Pharisaical construct, worrying about small things and losing sight of big things.
The whole idea reminds me of my favorite Baptist joke:
Q: Why are Baptists against premarital sex?
A: Because it might lead to dancing.
Courting, when conducted properly, can help overcome the temptation to jump the gun so to speak. Ultimately, it depends on the maturity and spiritual sensitivity of the couple. My wife's father was a pastor and so we wanted to avoid giving the appearance of any indiscretion. The way people think, 'if it's okay for the pastor's family to do x, then it's okay for mine to do y.'
You write impeccably. Reading your comments is a pleasure.Are we speaking of people in their twenties getting acquainted or older persons? I'm beyond the point of chaperoning and the notion of inconveniencing someone to monitor me and another gentlemen beyond thirty years of age is unrealistic.
Much of this hinges on maturity and self-awareness. Knowing what you can tolerate is a must as is admitting incompatibility when it's evident. For me, courtship is ideal when you've had a lengthy tenure of acquaintanceship. If that isn't the case, dating allows engagement without expectation. My initial yes shouldn't suppose a potential vow. It's an agreement of exploration. Nothing more or less.
I'm curious especially since you are close to my age.I have come to agree that the practice of dating is wrong, courtship is the best route...
The practice of dating is actually a new phenomenon in our culture, less than a century old, and cannot be found in almost all of human history. Besides that, it is basically unregulated. Whereas courtship has boundaries between two persons seeking to know each other and pursuing each other, dating doesn't have limitations. You can enjoy all the "fruits" of a marital relationship without an actual marriage in dating, and we are seeing the damaging effects and consequences of it in our society today.
I live in Texas and I have never going to a farm.
Well, I am 20 but it is open for anyone. I also believe in dating to make yourself feel more comfortable to your partner, what is the point of seeing the best of a person if you might not tolerate the worst?Are we speaking of people in their twenties getting acquainted or older persons? I'm beyond the point of chaperoning and the notion of inconveniencing someone to monitor me and another gentlemen beyond thirty years of age is unrealistic.
Much of this hinges on maturity and self-awareness. Knowing what you can tolerate is a must as is admitting incompatibility when it's evident. For me, courtship is ideal when you've had a lengthy tenure of acquaintanceship. If that isn't the case, dating allows engagement without expectation. My initial yes shouldn't suppose a potential vow. It's an agreement of exploration. Nothing more or less.
I'm curious especially since you are close to my age.
Well, I am 20 but it is open for anyone. I also believe in dating to make yourself feel more comfortable to your partner, what is the point of seeing the best of a person if you might not tolerate the worst?
You write impeccably. Reading your comments is a pleasure.
God bless