I need advice on a situation with my husband. I recently went into his phone, with his knowledge, and I saw a text message from his secretary at his job. He does not work in an office setting, but he and everyone else has to contact her several times daily for work orders, timesheets etc.. I had previously seen where he messaged her and called her “hon” ok.. so it bothered me, I told him I felt disrespected by it & told him not ok with him calling another woman hon. He got a little irked, but was like okay. Last night I saw a message where he was thanking her for entering some data for him on a job, and he had wrote “Thanks Dirty D lol” her name is Diana & he was referencing her pet name as Dirty Diana, like the Michael Jackson song. She responded with a Lol & a couple blushing smiley emojis. This literally made my blood boil! I asked why did he think this was ok?!? He had exploded on me, threatened to leave me, told me I was mentally retarded for being mad. I told him to put the shoe on his foot! Because I know that he would go through the roof it that was my conversation with another man! I had once sent our daughters boyfriend a smiley face over text telling him to have my daughter call me when she woke up & my husband had the biggest fit, accusing me of all kinds of ridiculous things. But I’m supposed to be ok with him receiving smiley faces from another woman & him having a pet name for her, after I asked him not to call her “hon”?? If anyone knows the song, it’s actually about a groupie that convinces a man to cheat and lie to his partner! So the fact that he has this nickname for her, just makes it so much worse! I’m upset.?But in his eyes, I’m in the wrong, because I got mad over it. Am I overreacting??!?? I’m tired of his double standards!