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If I keep praying to God for a husband, will God end up giving me one? I admit I am old and not only losing whatever good looks I had but probably can't have babies. I am also a bit shallow and don't want to date unattractive men. I wish I could make friends with men and then have feelings develop, but that is not going to happen. I just want the stuff you hear other people talk about. It's also hard to meet Christian men who will wait. I have extreme anxiety when it comes to love and sex.
 
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How can you be sure God hasn't answered your prayer but you've turned him away instead? Are you certain the people you've deemed "unattractive" weren't God's blessing in disguise?

And while it's clear you have an aesthetic preference you acknowledge deficiencies for yourself. Do you think it's possible you've exempted yourself from the dating pool with that mindset?
 
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If I keep praying to God for a husband, will God end up giving me one? I admit I am old and not only losing whatever good looks I had but probably can't have babies. I am also a bit shallow and don't want to date unattractive men. I wish I could make friends with men and then have feelings develop, but that is not going to happen. I just want the stuff you hear other people talk about. It's also hard to meet Christian men who will wait. I have extreme anxiety when it comes to love and sex.

God will supply all your needs, according to HIS riches in glory.

So I can't predict whether He will supply you one or if having one will be of God's will. But I can say that if you trust in God while you walk through this life, whatever your outcome is will be for your good. But if you do want a godly husband, there's no reason why you can't pursue it and put a plan in place. There's no reason why you can't still prepare yourself for one either. Always walk as one with hope.
 
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Yes he will, you just need to be patient. God is sending you a husband. Don't be closed minded to what God is sending you. You need to look at the heart. yes, looks are always great, but the attraction will come after (hey, he is kinda cute, after all). God knows who the best fit for you is.
God bless[/QUOTE

Thank you.
 
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How can you be sure God hasn't answered your prayer but you've turned him away instead? Are you certain the people you've deemed "unattractive" weren't God's blessing in disguise?

And while it's clear you have an aesthetic preference you acknowledge deficiencies for yourself. Do you think it's possible you've exempted yourself from the dating pool with that mindset?

Most likely that’s what happened.
 
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If I keep praying to God for a husband, will God end up giving me one? I admit I am old and not only losing whatever good looks I had but probably can't have babies. I am also a bit shallow and don't want to date unattractive men. I wish I could make friends with men and then have feelings develop, but that is not going to happen. I just want the stuff you hear other people talk about. It's also hard to meet Christian men who will wait. I have extreme anxiety when it comes to love and sex.

I am a man. But I was like you as a teen, anxious to the point of creepy. I didn't know how to just be myself. If I had been able to give up hope and just start living, enjoying life, I might have had more confidence with girls, and they might have been more attracted to me.

Now, at 63 years, and a widower, I can tell you while I still notice external beauty and internal grace, I plan to never marry again, but if I do, I am pretty sure I will have no desire to do so unless it is to a woman who I have gotten to know simply as a friend --not as a prospect.
 
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I think he generally expects us to take care of these things ourselves, but I wouldn't rule it out if you keep praying....just no guarantees.

As far as looks go, just don't expect more than you are yourself, but it could happen. I'd guess most people see attraction just as you do, you'll notice at least oft times the very attractive are with the very attractive, the medium attractive w/the medium and so on down the line.

Best I can recommend is get yourself out there to be seen. Do you go to church? I'd say that is the A#1 place to find what you seek.
 
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Most likely that’s what happened.

I think you should invest this season in your growth and beautification. If you've been less attentive to your appearance. Make adjustments. Capsule wardrobes are a good idea. Learn your seasonal color palette and refresh your makeup. Spend a day pampering your skin and making yourself feel good. If you're shy, join Toastmasters. You'll become more confident in your communication and a better conversationalist too.

Ladies are attractive at any age. Don't forsake what's important to focus on minor wants. Make sure you're investing in the whole person. Your grace and virtues are the things that will make you unforgettable. Don't neglect them.
 
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None of us can answer your question. God chooses to bless people as he sees fit. Just because He doesn't give what we ask when we want it, it doesn't mean He is not blessing us.

I really think you need to focus on being as healthy and emotionally stable as you can. Keep drawing close to God. He will always do what is best for you at the best time.
 
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