I have a wonderful boyfriend who I love very much and plan on marrying in the future but my mom keeps saying he's not the one God has for me. She is being very disrespectful to me and every time I talk about him, she gets so bitter and angry. I told her that he's the best guy I have ever been with and he never tried to get me into drugs like my ex. But she refuses to believe he's the right one for me all because he doesn't drive or have a lot of money. I keep telling her that I don't date for money and I don't care if he drives or not because I love him for who he is. He's so gentle and kind to me and makes me feel loved unlike my family. But I'm worried that God will take him away from me because if he's not the right one, God won't allow me to be with him. He will find a way to remove him from my life and I am deeply in love with my boyfriend. I would die for him. I would do anything for my boyfriend. I want to have a future with him but literally every time I bring up his name, my mom criticizes me and tells me to shut up or that nobody cares about him. What should I do? I'm 24 by the way but my mom still wants to control every aspect of my life including how I dress or dye my hair.
Anyways, how do I know if God has sent me the boyfriend I am with now?
I feel like he is the perfect one for me and I wouldn't want to be with anyone different but my mom doesn't think so. I just want to be happy and have a family that accepts me and loves me.
OOoooo boy. So, lots of things here. My answer is not going to be clear, because there is too much I don't know about the situation.
Mommy does not like boyfriend. Generally speaking I advise people to listen to their parents, because often they see things, that you do not. Your parents generally only want to help you avoid pain and suffering.
However, I want a reason, and it must be a good reason. So.....
Boyfriend does not drive, or have lots of money. Now, that could be nothing important, or something very important.
Why does he not have a lot of money? Why does he not drive? Is there are reason for this? Does he live in New York, and use the subway to get everywhere, and that is all he needs?
Is he working a steady job? Or is he working part time, and is spending most of his day playing video games?
Because I've seen that. I know some guys who were professional moocher. When they wanted to go some place, they asked everyone else to take them, because they didn't want to buy a car. One worked part time, and played video games constantly.
You get with a guy like that, and your life will be miserable. I know girls that have done this... and they ended up miserable, and some divorced. Don't do that.
So WHY does he not have money, and not drive? If he is lazy and unmotivated, then you need to listen to your mother. You are about to get in a train wreck.
If on the other hand, your mother is just elitist, then maybe you can go ahead and marry him. Let her be mad about it. Thanks mom, love you, but this is my husband.
I'm worried that God will take him away from me because if he's not the right one, God won't allow me to be with him. He will find a way to remove him from my life and I am deeply in love with my boyfriend. I would die for him. I would do anything for my boyfriend.
This is the part that scares me. This is boyfriend. He is not your husband. You should not be this wrapped up in him, when he isn't married to you. This makes me worried that you are not thinking clearly, when your mother voices concerns. Because there could be glaring neon danger signs here, and you are so out of touch, that you are not seeing them, but she is.
One question I have is... you said you had an ex-boyfriend. Did you wait a sufficiently long enough time before getting into this relationship? Meaning, was there enough time, between the end of your relationship with your ex-boyfriend, and the start of your relationship with this one? I would at least 1 year.
If you jumped straight into this relationship, from your previous one... then you should take a step back, stop dating, and wait for about 6 months. Then start thinking about how to proceed from there.
I'm 24 by the way but my mom still wants to control every aspect of my life including how I dress or dye my hair.
Your parents will generally act this way until you don't live with them. Get a job, and find an apartment. As long as you live in their house, under their roof, using their stuff and their money... then you follow their rules. That's life.