Brainstorm for Anger and Rage

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Angeleyes7715 said:

Working with a counselor she just suggested exercise so far which seems good.

Anything else that helps with anger?

Mostly angry at other people and feelings of not being given what I deserve or anger at social situations.

Example anger at people who treat me like they are better when they had everything handed to them while I grew up struggling.

I thought of making a list of all the reasons I have not liked other people and evaluating with my counselor whether or not I'm being fair.

Other counselor suggested venting and tearing it up.

My anger is so bad I feel like cursing other people and fighting them most of the time or that they deserve to suffer because they are spoiled and undeserving. It really stops me from making friends cause in addition to being socially anxious I have this deep seated hatred for other people like they've personally wronged me.

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As is the case with all sin, anger originates in the heart.
Matthew 15:19
For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander.

Short-tempered people are in a constant state of bother. Their hearts and minds are continually filled with discontent and impatience. This disposition skews their ability to perceive things as they are and causes them to be irrational.
Proverbs 14:17 'A man of quick temper acts foolishly'

This state of bother stems from pride and feeling the need for self-preservation. It is the fruit of thinking more highly of self than of others and blinds to seeing the need of the 'bothersome' person. Such people are greatly hindered in their ability to minister compassion. They are like the thief whose self-interest and disregard for others cripples their ability to show compassion. In their perverse thinking, weak and ignorant people do not deserve consideration.
Ephesians 4:26-28
Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, and give no opportunity to the devil. Let the thief no longer steal, but rather let him labor, doing honest work with his own hands, so that he may have something to share with anyone in need.

The most effective way of dealing with anger is fundamentally the same as dealing with any other sin. According to Proverbs 14:17, you need understanding. In particular, you need to understand other people. Stop being so focused on yourself and your own situation. Put yourself in the offenders shoes. Think about what might be the cause for their irksome behavior.
According to Ephesians 4:27-28, you need to exercise compassion. They are miserable, selfish fools because they are in desperate need of God's grace to save them. See yourself as an instrument of salvation in God's hands. The next time you are tempted to malicious thoughts, force yourself to pray. Pray for self-control, and pray for the one that is provoking you. Even do something to show them how God is saving you from anger.

This is impossible to do with sincerity, but such is the Christian life. God is in the business of conforming sinner's into the image of His perfect Son, and this is the hope of all who depend on Him to do so.
Hebrews 13:20-21
Now may the God of peace who brought again from the dead our Lord Jesus, the great shepherd of the sheep, by the blood of the eternal covenant, equip you with everything good that you may do his will, working in us that which is pleasing in his sight, through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory forever and ever. Amen.