Brainstorm for Anger and Rage

I would pray against the following things and forgive anyone you've been holding anger towards. That unforgiveness provides the legal right for spiritual vexation and eliminates its removal. If God is in that number make sure you forgive Him and seek His forgiveness.

Rejection. It's the strongman here. Bitterness, root of bitterness, anger, hatred, wrath, envy, pride, strife, obsessive and compulsive spirits, and contention. I don't usually say this in public but I would include the spirit of death and terminus to this as well.

i advise you to listen to this excellent sermon on fighting anger.

Smooth Criminals: Anger

Angeleyes7715 said:

Wanted to mention it's definitely not an all the time feeling. It's mostly when something happens or when I get caught up dwelling on things that infuriate me.

Triggers... People laughing loud near me.
Women flicking their hair and rolling their eyes at me or flaunting their clothes as if they are better than me. Guys making rude comments or smack talking. Pointing and smirking. Whispering behind my back. All of this stuff makes me ready to fight. Specially if I get that I'm a spoiled entitled person and I think I'm cute or better than u vibe like I get ready to lash out.

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From what your describing it sounds like Psychological Projection: Psychological projection - Wikipedia

The tell-tale sign of projection is that mannerisms of others is offensive to you, provoking you to anger.

You should have at look at the wiki page. If you're seeing a doctor you need to tell them about it if you haven't already and that it makes you too angry.

It may be that you need medication for it. Although I looked online and it said a counselor can help you work thru it. Unless there's some other problem that's creating the anger or projection.

Angeleyes7715 said:

My anger is so bad I feel like cursing other people and fighting them most of the time or that they deserve to suffer because they are spoiled and undeserving.

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So, you know this is wrong. You can thank God that you know this. And trust God to do what He can in you. God is the One who is able to change us so we are pleasing to Him and so that we love even ones who do not know how to love us.

Angeleyes7715 said:

It really stops me from making friends cause in addition to being socially anxious I have this deep seated hatred for other people like they've personally wronged me.

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So, like I have offered, it is good that you know this is wrong.

Yes, there are so many people who do not know how to love.

And we can be their real friends, by being examples to them of how to love. They need you to become their friend, by being their example!!! And be their friend by knowing that only God is able to change them to find out how to please God and how to love, and pray for all which is possible with God in them. If you know how God is able, you can help them by praying for them, with hope for them > love "hopes all things" (in 1 Corinthians 13:7).

And how much did we deserve for Jesus to love us and so suffer and die for us?

So, God bless you

Angeleyes7715 said:

Working with a counselor she just suggested exercise so far which seems good.

Anything else that helps with anger?

Mostly angry at other people and feelings of not being given what I deserve or anger at social situations.

Example anger at people who treat me like they are better when they had everything handed to them while I grew up struggling.

I thought of making a list of all the reasons I have not liked other people and evaluating with my counselor whether or not I'm being fair.

Other counselor suggested venting and tearing it up.

My anger is so bad I feel like cursing other people and fighting them most of the time or that they deserve to suffer because they are spoiled and undeserving. It really stops me from making friends cause in addition to being socially anxious I have this deep seated hatred for other people like they've personally wronged me.

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Hi,
I recognised the first trigger you listed. I spent most of my childhood being triggered by people laughing nearby. I always assumed they were laughing at me. All that stemmed from the daily bullyingI was subjected to from the age of 4 years and 9 months and all throughout my childhood. Bullying affects every aspect of life. You can’t learn social skills when you are forced into isolation. It is in your early years and playing and interacting with your peers, that you learn those very necessary skills for normal life.
when a joke was told, I’d be asked “who told you you could laugh?” The physical assaults are nowhere nearly as damaging as the psychological abuse and the constant threat of violence takes a far more lasting damaging effect than the actual assaults. There was even one teacher who used my older brother, who had learning difficultie, as ammunition to get the class to laugh at me. The only friends I had were fair weather friends. Cowardly people who are only friendly when there’s only the two of us. The second another person came over, they switched to bully mode in an instant.
All of this treatment cultivated the ideal ground conditions for a root of bitterness to grow over the years. This root of bitterness lasted 45 years! I felt justified in my bitterness. Satan pours petrol on the fire by telling me I’m well justified in my anger. I used to refer to my anger and rage as “the anger that never goes away”. I called it that because I could sense its malevolent presence always lurking below the surface, ready to be vented at a moment’s notice. One lie I was told way back, was that it will make me feel better if I go somewhere and swear and curse to “get it all out”. That is nothing less than more petrol for the raging Forrest fire.

So, how did I get rid of this all consuming rage? One day, I was thinking about my sinful, murderous rage (I say murderous rage because of the evil murderous revenge fantasies I had in my mind). I thought of the guy who started the bullying. I realised we were both sinners and so I forgave him, and everyone else involved. The bitterness left me and satan lost his fuel to pour on the fire which had been quenched now anyway. I can assure you that forgiveness is the only way to get rid of the bitterness and rage. The relief is fantastic!
God bless.