Hi.
My boyfriend and I have been together for just over seven months. We’re serious about each other and often speak of engagement and marriage. Before meeting him I had put on weight as I was going through depression. Recently I’ve noticed that he stares at women, mostly blonde haired women (my hair is black). I spoke with him about it and he sincerely apologised followed by men are visual, which I know. He then said he agrees that our eyes should be for each other and the Lord. Before I noticed his staring he didn’t directly call me fat but said I’m a heavy lump and then laughed. I haven't been able to forget it and it really hurt me. Shouldn’t he accept me for how I currently look if he loves me? I have been working out and my goal is to get back to my normal weight (I’m 5’6 and currently 143lbs, usually 120lbs). I am 28 and he is 32. Deep down I know he loves me but can’t help but feel when he looks ar women, he wishes I wasn’t fat. It also makes me even more worried as he told me honestly at the beginning of our relationship that he sometimes finds it hard not to click on celeb articles on DM with photos of women in bikinis. Again, I’ve spoke with him about all of this and he said that he cherishes me and should show it more often. Nothing has changed since our conversation in terms of him perusing me. I feel that he is the one the Lord has for me but I’m scared that if we do marry things will become worse. Godly and wise advice needed. Thank you.