Hey guys,
I come to you all seeking advice with an issue that my family and I are currently facing. As the title suggests, we are dealing with an ex family member who is currently spreading lies about us as a last spiteful effort to ruin our reputation and image, and to make it seem like he was a victim of verbal abuse during his time living with us.
Long story short, my mum separated from her ex-husband because he became extremely childish, arrogant, spiteful and selfish in the last few months of living with us. So much so that living with him became a mental and physical challenge because his actions were too much to handle on a daily basis. He became the physical definition of obnoxious in every way possible.
A few weeks prior to being kicked out, he would lash out at my mum for anything and everything, wait for her to respond, then secretly audio record her and send it out to his sister as "proof" that my mum is the bully in the relationship. This was done several times and we did not know until recently when his sister informed my aunt about the secret recordings.
Not only that, but he's also going around contacting our family friends and relatives to spread the lies about us, saying that we bullied him into leaving, and that we were constantly rude and disrespectful to him throughout his time here and much much more. There's about 15 different lies to be specific, and those mentioned above are nothing compared to the rest, but I won't repeat those here.
My aunts, uncles, cousins, brother, sister in law and grandparents have all been a victim of his rumours, and this is clearly his last ditch effort to ruin our friendships and reputation and drag us down to his level because he's clearly miserable in his life. He was thrown out like yesterday's garbage by his previous family and noone cares about him. We were kind enough to bring him into our family and make him feel right at home, and yet this is how he repays us... Explains a lot about why he's hated by so many.
We've tried everything we could to sort this relationship out but nothing worked. We've even contacted his own siblings to sit down and talk to him, but his stubbornness knows no bounds. Kicking him out was probably the best decision we made as it relieved so much tension in this household, but his pathetic behaviour still affects us as he continues to spread lies about us.
Many grew suspicious that he was cheating, and that this was his attempt at breaking up with my mum. But we're not 100% sure.
So, what do you guys reckon we should do about this? For anyone living in Australia, is this against the law?
Thank you, and God bless.
I come to you all seeking advice with an issue that my family and I are currently facing. As the title suggests, we are dealing with an ex family member who is currently spreading lies about us as a last spiteful effort to ruin our reputation and image, and to make it seem like he was a victim of verbal abuse during his time living with us.
Long story short, my mum separated from her ex-husband because he became extremely childish, arrogant, spiteful and selfish in the last few months of living with us. So much so that living with him became a mental and physical challenge because his actions were too much to handle on a daily basis. He became the physical definition of obnoxious in every way possible.
A few weeks prior to being kicked out, he would lash out at my mum for anything and everything, wait for her to respond, then secretly audio record her and send it out to his sister as "proof" that my mum is the bully in the relationship. This was done several times and we did not know until recently when his sister informed my aunt about the secret recordings.
Not only that, but he's also going around contacting our family friends and relatives to spread the lies about us, saying that we bullied him into leaving, and that we were constantly rude and disrespectful to him throughout his time here and much much more. There's about 15 different lies to be specific, and those mentioned above are nothing compared to the rest, but I won't repeat those here.
My aunts, uncles, cousins, brother, sister in law and grandparents have all been a victim of his rumours, and this is clearly his last ditch effort to ruin our friendships and reputation and drag us down to his level because he's clearly miserable in his life. He was thrown out like yesterday's garbage by his previous family and noone cares about him. We were kind enough to bring him into our family and make him feel right at home, and yet this is how he repays us... Explains a lot about why he's hated by so many.
We've tried everything we could to sort this relationship out but nothing worked. We've even contacted his own siblings to sit down and talk to him, but his stubbornness knows no bounds. Kicking him out was probably the best decision we made as it relieved so much tension in this household, but his pathetic behaviour still affects us as he continues to spread lies about us.
Many grew suspicious that he was cheating, and that this was his attempt at breaking up with my mum. But we're not 100% sure.
So, what do you guys reckon we should do about this? For anyone living in Australia, is this against the law?
Thank you, and God bless.
