It's been 8 months since I told my mom that my stepfather had been touching me inappropriately. My mom believed me and had a talk with him. Unfortunately, I don't think she handled the situation correctly. Instead of addressing the issue (the inappropriate touching) she just told him that affection makes me uncomfortable because the men in my family are not affectionate and blahblahblah (a bunch of bs), so to please stop because she hates seeing me upset. My stepfather apologized and said he understood. What a liar.
Anyway, I tried to forgive him. And I almost did, but the fact that he still acts like nothing happened drives me insane. It's making me question if maybe he really was just being "affectionate". Here is what happened:
A few months after him and my mom got married we started getting really close. Since I was now his daughter, he started asking me for hugs and kisses. At first I was like, "Can we just do high-fives?", but he insisted that he deserved hugs and kisses so I went along with it.
Every night when my mom was not around he would ask me for his hug and kiss. He would always make me stand up because for some reason they weren't good enough sitting down. So I would stand up and we would hug and then he would kiss my cheek.
I started to notice that during the hugs he would put his hand under my shirt. At first he would just rub my back, but as the days passed he started putting his hand over my bra on my breast. Of course I thought that was really odd, but he acted like it was no big deal so I never said anything. Then one night he actually put his hand UNDER my bra and on my breast. I was so freaked out that I froze. Again my stepdad acted like it was no big deal. The next day I told my mom and she had that talk with him.
Since then he has asked me for more hugs, but I always say no. He also pinched my breast one day like it was an ok thing to do, but I gave him the stink eye and I think he got scared.
I just don't understand him. Sometimes he's really nice and fatherly. Then other times he does stuff like that. I guess I should mention that he thinks I'm really naive. Could he be using that to his advantage? Shame on him if he is. I wonder if he'll ever apologize. Maybe he thinks he did nothing wrong.
Can anyone recommended me any Bible verses to help me deal with this? I would greatly appreciate it.
Anyway, I tried to forgive him. And I almost did, but the fact that he still acts like nothing happened drives me insane. It's making me question if maybe he really was just being "affectionate". Here is what happened:
A few months after him and my mom got married we started getting really close. Since I was now his daughter, he started asking me for hugs and kisses. At first I was like, "Can we just do high-fives?", but he insisted that he deserved hugs and kisses so I went along with it.
Every night when my mom was not around he would ask me for his hug and kiss. He would always make me stand up because for some reason they weren't good enough sitting down. So I would stand up and we would hug and then he would kiss my cheek.
I started to notice that during the hugs he would put his hand under my shirt. At first he would just rub my back, but as the days passed he started putting his hand over my bra on my breast. Of course I thought that was really odd, but he acted like it was no big deal so I never said anything. Then one night he actually put his hand UNDER my bra and on my breast. I was so freaked out that I froze. Again my stepdad acted like it was no big deal. The next day I told my mom and she had that talk with him.
Since then he has asked me for more hugs, but I always say no. He also pinched my breast one day like it was an ok thing to do, but I gave him the stink eye and I think he got scared.
I just don't understand him. Sometimes he's really nice and fatherly. Then other times he does stuff like that. I guess I should mention that he thinks I'm really naive. Could he be using that to his advantage? Shame on him if he is. I wonder if he'll ever apologize. Maybe he thinks he did nothing wrong.
Can anyone recommended me any Bible verses to help me deal with this? I would greatly appreciate it.
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