Heck no it wasn't a bonus vacation. And I doubt they would lose their jobs because apparently this is normal. Yes I did add to it and the whole time I felt uneasy but I am imperfect too. I prayed about my uneasy feeling and that's what got me to repent to God my part of the inappropriate expenditure and caused me to worry about the fruits of my wife's spirit.
Unfortunately these days the bar is set very low to call yourself a Christian. I don't know what part of the world you live in but here in the southern us if you toe the Republican line ,tough on crime, one nation under God , anti abortion, anti drug, practically everyone around you would consider you Christian. That doesn't mean you have accepted the free gift. It is quite possible to keep the law of the land and even that of Moses your entire life yet not really have the spirt, Jesus made very clear that the scribes and pharisees were such people. If you think about it the bar that is set today for the stuff you have to do to be considered Christian by outward appearance is pretty much at the same level of what you have to do or not do to avoid being tossed into the clink. So maybe acting was not the right word but I believe it is quite possible to do things and live in a way that make you appear Christian to your avwragw America 24/7 ,without actually accepting the holy spirit.
That was one of my first questions, is this worth discussing? And should I be the one doing it or should it be some one in the church women's group?
If you can't talk to your wife and if she won't open up to you then maybe some pastoral counselling would benefit. Keep trying!
Do you have some history with that other person? Do you want to talk about it? There seems to be a whole lot of animosity between you two.You sure have a lot of time on your hands...lol
Seriously my only thought was “there he goes again”
We weren't highchool sweethearts. We went to the same high school but had almost nothing to do with each other back then. Back in high school we maybe had a hand full of classes together but we weren't really even friends. We became friends junior year of college after she started attending the church that my campus Christian group was attached to. We didn't really date until some time in senior year.
I am not as much worried about the behaviors in and of them selves. I am worried if the behavior is indicative of her not being truly saved.
So we talked and she is of the opinion that there lots of Christians do lots of questionable things, which honestly she has a point. She told me that as long as there are Christians out there worse than her she should be fine.This is a matter to take to God. Let Him be the One to guide you through your walk of faith. Work our your own salvation, but also do not turn a blind eye to those who may be false christians. Pray for her.
I respect what you say but I disagree with you. I don't see it as gossip since my wife does the things she does out in the open. And I disagree that one needs to be blameless in order to offer correction, if that are the case there would be no criminal justice system, law enforcement or a department of corrections. To me it seems like it is a common theme these days amongst Christians and non Christians alike, that it is unacceptable for men to criticize any behaviors of a woman.
