Is gossip within a family normal?Almost everyone in my family talks about each other's business, and I just think it is odd.Sometimes people in my family tell me negative things about a person, and I feel bad because I think it is wrong to discuss a person's business.What should I say or do when someone starts to gossip?
The problem with gossip, is it leads you to form opinions about a person without their involvement. When people get comfortable doing that, knowing that the gossiped ideas will never have an opportunity to be discussed in the open, they can introduce misleading ideas and you end up believing things about a person that isn't true. Of course, that person doesn't know, and you don't know that you have believed a lie, but that is how the devil does his work.
So communities (eg: a family) that have gossip culture tend to also have a lot of devilish spirit and less inherent righteousness (because righteousness would rather approach that one with the concerns to say "I heard this about you and I just want to make sure you're on the right path". It's the opposite culture of love, when you look at it that way, because that's what love would do.
Have a good read of Psalms 101:
Pledge of Integrity
Psalm 101
1 A psalm of David.
I will sing of lovingkindness and justice.
To You,
Adonai, I will sing praises.
2 I will behave wisely in the way of integrity
—when will You come to me?
I walk in my house with integrity in my heart.
3 No base thing will I set before my eyes.
Twisted behavior I hate—it will not cling to me.
4 A perverse heart will depart from me.
I will know nothing evil.
5 Whoever slanders his neighbor in secret
—him I will silence.
Who has haughty eyes and a proud heart
—him I will not tolerate.
6 My eyes are on the trustworthy of the land,
to be in my company.
One walking in a blameless way will serve me.
7 No one who practices deceit will dwell in my house.
No one who utters lies will endure before my eyes.
8 Each morning I silence all the land’s wicked ones—
to cut off from
Adonai’s city every evildoer.