Hello all. I am new member here. This message is for all prospanking parents. How do you believe spankings should be administered. How does you routine go in your home when giving the spankings. Do you believe in using an object or hand? Believe in spanking bare bottom or over clothing and what is the best position to use?
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I believe in spanking for certain offenses (direct defiance) and after the option to back out of that offense with a reminder of the consequence they choose with the action.
I use a bare hand, usually over their clothes.
I have the child turn away from me so I have access.
There's lots of talking, hugging, and reconciliation before and after the spanking. The point is to give them an impact to help them understand the severity of the offense.
One other thing. Spanking should never be done in anger. If I'm angry, the child goes into his/her room first and I calm down before I encounter them for punishment. If I can't control my emotions, my child will do it for me (manipulate me). I have to be in control of the situation.
Rachel
I use a bare hand, usually over their clothes.
I have the child turn away from me so I have access.
There's lots of talking, hugging, and reconciliation before and after the spanking. The point is to give them an impact to help them understand the severity of the offense.
One other thing. Spanking should never be done in anger. If I'm angry, the child goes into his/her room first and I calm down before I encounter them for punishment. If I can't control my emotions, my child will do it for me (manipulate me). I have to be in control of the situation.
Rachel
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Hubby's in charge of that department, but we've agreed that before he spanks our children he'll take ten minutes to calm down (whether he really needs it or not). Personally, I prefer over clothing because the point isn't to hurt the child, just to get the point across that they messed up. I also think it should be used as a last resort and not for every offence, cause then it doesn't work anymore (I stayed in trouble and got spanked a lot, so this is from experience).
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We don't spank any more (our daughter is 5), but when we did she always had a warning that if she continued "whatever" she would get a spanking. Then if necessary, we would follow through. Always done with one or two swats on her CLOTHED bottom with our hand. And afterwards we'd hug and discuss again why she got the spanking and reassure her that we loved her.
But we found out that some type of reward system works much better for her now that she's older.
Every child is different, you just need to find what works best for yours!!
But we found out that some type of reward system works much better for her now that she's older.
Every child is different, you just need to find what works best for yours!!
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I know its aimed at pro hitters but i never laid a hand on my child. I think if you approach behaviour correctly then you shouldnt need to raise your hand!
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