I just do not understand this concept at all.I understand men and women have different ways of expressing emotions,but I find it odd that society paints anyone having emotions,especially crying,as something to be ashamed or embarassed of.What happened to being compassionate and understanding all people express pain or handle emotions differently.
I think a lot of the confusion is how opposite the world views emotions, from what you shared. From how I see it, people encourage people to be emotional or else they are not being compassionate, loving, etc. This, however, isn't a requirement for genuine love or compassion.
I think the trick is when people hold onto emotions, or think, "wow, this person is really emotional about this, so that means it must be true..." Even with crying, how many times have we cried because we wanted others to feel sorry for us and/or we wanted to get away with something we know was wrong but didn't want to fes up too? This type of emotionalism is deceiving and can lead to a bad form of manipulation.
What we need is to have an honest look at ourselves from a rational perspective, and not let the emotional side of us cloud the obvious truth that is going on. Like I said above, just because someone isn't 'sounding' emotional, that doesn't mean they were not being compassionate and loving. To shoe genuine compassion and love, we need to have actions. Take Jesus for example. Always when the scriptures said, "He felt compassion for the multitudes", led Him to do something nice for them. However, this wasn't always the case... There was a time a group of people were following Him not because of His teachings, rather all they wanted was the bread that they could get from Him (similar to what prosperity preachers do today. With the bread being change to money). So instead of having compassion with the multitudes, He rebuked them for their wrong behavior. Jesus didn't let the emotions of a group of people sway Him from His rational thinking, which allowed Him to see the bad motives these people had.
The answer is finding balance between our rational side and our emotional side. We don't let emotions cloud our rational thinking, and we don't allow our rational side to overlook obvious emotions we are feeling.
At least, this is my opinion.