The Bible's Laws on Divorce and Remarriage.

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That isn't scriptural, though. The bible doesn't say anything about malicious desertion or that physical or emotional abuse, refusal to have sexual relations with ones spouse, or refusal to support the spouse financially are grounds for divorce. The only ground for divorce is the physical act of adultery. The only other exception is when an unbelieving spouse leaves you, you are not required to remarry them.
Brother I believe the only grounds for divorce according to Jesus is fornication which happens according to Jewish laws , during the one year betrothal period before the consummation on the wedding night. It is why Jesus said fornication and not adultery . The penalty for adultery , is stoning . It is why it was said to Jesus later ..." We be not born of fornication ". Jesus lived His whole life with the understanding that others thought His earthly parents had committed fornication or minimally that Mary had.
Jesus understood that everything was to the glory of God , including and especially marriage . And God is faithful and eternal , even when we are not . As believers I believe we are called to demonstrate the faithfulness of God . Especially men . But that horse left the barn long before it became constitutionally acceptable to do whatever the law allowed. Thus we have a literal Babylon of christian beliefs . I am not confident that we truly love God and others , our children are lost , Christmas is one more celebration of US And God weeps for the destruction we have wrought .
 
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“Then said Jesus again unto them, I go my way, and ye shall seek me, and shall die in your sins: whither I go, ye cannot come.” (John 8:21) (KJV 1900)
Those are the ones that deny Jesus as their messiah!
A Christian who divorces and remarries except for biblical grounds is committing sin, but not denying Jesus is Lord!
 
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Those are the ones that deny Jesus as their messiah!
A Christian who divorces and remarries except for biblical grounds is committing sin, but not denying Jesus is Lord!
““Why do you call Me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ and do not do what I say?” (Luke 6:46) (NASB95)
 
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You're saying the scripture is wrong? I guess I misunderstood what you were trying to say.

The test of the truth is not the testimony of man, but the word of God. The word of God is inspired and infallible. Jesus said Heaven and Earth would pass away but His words would never pass away. When you say the scripture is wrong, you are incorrect.

Yes, I am saying the Scripture is wrong.
John says that once saved, Christians do not sin again.
But they do. All of them.
Ergo, John is wrong.

Jesus doesn't say that Christians never sin again. Rather, he speaks of how to obtain forgiveness from the sins one commits. He says that to be forgiven sin by God, you must forgive others their sins. Note that while Paul says that all you have to do is to believe in Jesus and his blood forgives, Jesus did not say that. So, Paul is wrong too (unless Jesus is).

Jesus said that to be forgiven your sins by God, you have to forgive others their sins. If you forgive, and to the extent you forgive, God forgives you, to the extent you forgive. It's straightforward and clear.

Peter asked Jesus: But how many TIMES do I have to forgive somebody, seven times? Jesus answered seventy-times-seven times.

Once again: a clear answer from Jesus.

Jesus' first rule: that to BE forgiven, by God, you MUST FORGIVE OTHERS is not wiped away by the cross. What Paul says seems to contradict it. Paul suggests that by believing in Jesus, his blood simply wipes away the sin. But JESUS said "What good does it do you to say you follow me if you do not keep my commandments.

So, there are two things in the Bible about forgiveness: a broad and easy path proposed by Paul - believe in Jesus and his blood washes free your sin, and then there is what Jesus ACTUALLY SAID, which is that God will NOT FORGIVE YOU your sins - regardless of Jesus' blood - if YOU don't forgive others THEIR sins against you. Period. THAT is the rule of God. And Jesus said that it does you no good to say you follow him and believe in him unless you OBEY him. So, the ONLY WAY to be forgiven your sins is to forgive. Period. Jesus said one thing, Paul said something else. Jesus trumps Paul, because Jesus is God and Paul isn't. That means that yes, the Bible is WRONG, if Paul is taken as the last word.

Now, there IS a way to read Paul that works, but it involves interpreting Paul towards Jesus. If you forgive, God forgives you, BECAUSE OF the blood of Jesus. Ok. (That is why Vatican 2 comes out where it does.) But simply believing something about Jesus will not result in the forgiveness of sins. You have to DO something: forgive others their sins. And yes, that is indeed an act - a WORK. Jesus says you have to perform a series of WORKS: forgiving other people their sins, or else God will not forgive you yours. Once again, Paul seems to be at odds with Jesus. And once again, if Paul is read that way, then Paul is wrong and there is yet another error in the Bible.

The ONLY WAY to be forgiven your sins is to forgive others. Do that, and Jesus' blood will be effective. Refuse to do that, and Jesus said that it isn't going to do any good to say you follow him, because you didn't do what he said (forgive).

John says that if you follow Jesus, you never sin again. But Jesus speaks to the Churches in Asia Minor, in Revelation, and he admonishes them for the sins they have fallen back into after having come to him and after their initial seal. Jesus stands ready to forgive them: Seventy-times-seven - but the assertion that they HAVEN'T sinned again, or don't, or can't, if they're REAL Christians - what John said: that is wrong, and absurd, and contrary to what Jesus said.

Three errors in the epistles. Three things that contradict Jesus.

Here's a fourth error in the Bible. James said that if you break one rule of the law, you're broken them all. Jesus never said any such thing. In fact, Jesus spoke clearly of greater and lesser commandments. So no, if you have broken a rule on being unclean, you have NOT done the same thing as committing murder. It's simply not true. Jesus said it's not true. James is making a point, but in making that point he grossly overstates the case and writes something that is not true.

Four passages from three Apostles in the Bible that contradict Jesus in some way, and that are used at the foundations of various doctrines and preached as foundational by some.

Paul himself wrote of this tendency when he asked if there was a Gospel of Paul and a Gospel of Apollos. Paul rightly answered his question: No.

So, we can disregard the hyperbole in Paul, James and John, where they wrote things that are objectively untrue because they directly contradict Jesus. We can grant the Apostle writers literary license and disregard their excesses.

What we CANNOT rightly do is take something an apostle wrote and use that to OVERRIDE what Jesus said. No, faith does NOT forgive sin by itself. Jesus said that you have to actually forgive others, or you're NOT forgiven your sins by God. And that means that Jesus said you have to perform several works. Yes, Christians DO sin again. And no, break one tiny law, you've broken them all.

"But BIBLE!" Yes, these four voices in the Bible: Jesus, Paul, James and John, DO conflict somewhat. So what do we do? We listen to God Almighty, the Father, speaking from Heaven saying: THIS is my beloved Son, listen to HIM.

And we read Jesus as the final word, and disregard the conflicting statements of John (which we tested in this thread and found that no, not one Christian could come forward and aver that he had never sinned again after he came to Jesus). And we recognise, per Jesus, that we're not forgiven our sins unless we perform a work: forgiving others theirs (sorry, Paul, at least THAT work is necessary for salvation - Jesus said so, and he trumps you).

And - faced with the clear exposition of three conflicts in the Scripture, between Jesus and three different Apostles - we acknowledge that JESUS is Lord, follow him, and discard doctrines based on words that contradict him.

It requires a change of Spirit. No, the Bible is not God. Jesus in the Bible is God. God tells you that. "Listen to HIM." He says "Follow ME". So stop arguing with me and go do it!
 
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The easiest way to solve this is to go back and see how those who were taught by the apostles understood it. In the beginning Christians only allowed divorce for adultery. There was no remarriage except after the death of a spouse. They understood it just as Jesus said it. They didn't make excuses or exceptions.
 
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“Then said Jesus again unto them, I go my way, and ye shall seek me, and shall die in your sins: whither I go, ye cannot come.” (John 8:21) (KJV 1900)
Again, refers to lost sinners who deny Jesus was the messiah!
 
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The easiest way to solve this is to go back and see how those who were taught by the apostles understood it. In the beginning Christians only allowed divorce for adultery. There was no remarriage except after the death of a spouse. They understood it just as Jesus said it. They didn't make excuses or exceptions.
For two Christians who were really Christians, but not for say, two unbelievers, or also where it talks about the instance of a believer and non-believer being married... And it explained that also... I don't think it recommends marrying an unbeliever, but it did happen, and so, the scriptures talks about it...

A person can also be with or marry what they thought was a believing spouse, who may depart from or fall away from the faith, or the true faith, and then it becomes a believer and an unbeliever situation...

God Bless!
 
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Yes, I am saying the Scripture is wrong.
John says that once saved, Christians do not sin again.
But they do. All of them.
Ergo, John is wrong.

I kind of find it strange that you come to the conclusion that scripture is wrong and not that you simply misunderstand the meaning of the verse. Could you at least provide the verses that you are interpreting? John wrote Revelation, that should tell you something shouldn't it? To me it says that I better pay attention to every word he said.

Of course Christians do fail God and fall into sin and backslide, because the Lord made provision for them by grace as it says in 1 John 2:1 that if anyone sins, we have an advocate with the Father, Jesus Christ the righteous. That doesn't excuse our sins, and we are responsible to obey what God tells us to do. Yet we fail, however, there is hope because the Holy Spirit in us will put to death the deeds of the body as it promises in Romans 8:13

My opinion is that the verses you are referring to are talking about willful persistent sin. It is transmitting the idea I believe that a genuine Christian won't live in sin, at least for long. I don't think the scripture is presenting the idea that one sin disqualifies you from salvation. What a heavy burden they are laying at your feet. The scripture as a whole talks about grace which is unmerited favor. However it doesn't gloss over Gods judgment either. However in Jesus Christ we find the bridge to be reconciled to God. When we receive the reconciliation in our hearts then we can serve God in joy instead of fear.
 
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Brother I believe the only grounds for divorce according to Jesus is fornication which happens according to Jewish laws , during the one year betrothal period before the consummation on the wedding night. It is why Jesus said fornication and not adultery . The penalty for adultery , is stoning . It is why it was said to Jesus later ..." We be not born of fornication ". Jesus lived His whole life with the understanding that others thought His earthly parents had committed fornication or minimally that Mary had.
Jesus understood that everything was to the glory of God , including and especially marriage . And God is faithful and eternal , even when we are not . As believers I believe we are called to demonstrate the faithfulness of God . Especially men . But that horse left the barn long before it became constitutionally acceptable to do whatever the law allowed. Thus we have a literal Babylon of christian beliefs . I am not confident that we truly love God and others , our children are lost , Christmas is one more celebration of US And God weeps for the destruction we have wrought .

Well, let me say off the bat that if I thought the scripture told me to pursue remarriage with my ex-wife, I would have. I am not for loosing social standards. Since we are discussing it, the marriage was not born out of love really. My ex is into bad spiritual practices and it wouldn't be good for me to be around her to be honest. I felt like the Lord released me from the marriage according to what I understood about the scriptures at the time.

I agree America has become a moral cess pool but we should all continue to pray for the nation and follow 2 Chronicles 7:14. Pray for the Holy Spirit to move in your local community
 
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Whosoever shall put away his wife, except for the cause of fornication, causes her to commit adultery (Matthew 5:32).

In Matthew 19:9 it says: “Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, commits adultery;"

Some think you can divorce for other reasons.
May I ask. Supposing God told someone he did not want them to marry a specific woman, it would go against the plan he had for their life. But the man ignored what God told him and married the woman anyway, thereby he could not now fulfill what God wanted him to do with his life. Is the man entitled to say ''Because I married the woman, unless she commits adultery against me, God will have to accept the marriage, even though I cannot fulfill the calling he wants from me''
It seems to me, there is then the possibility of doing what we want regardless of what God wants, and we expect to be blessed for it. Can we expect that? For God wants happy marriages where he can bless those in them
 
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I can only give you my example since I am more familiar with me than you . My wife , like me , were secular Christians ..Christians by tradition and not atheist . But I may as well have been an atheist or a Satan worshiper . Not living for Christ is not living for Christ . I loved myself and my life . So did my wife . ( I endeavored to promote her interest and her dreams and goals and she did likewise for me and she was good to me . ) When the Lord came and found me , only then could I love my wife for she was lost . She divorced me but if I am to love my enemies , why should I not love and pray for her ? Christ loved me when I did not love Him and He waited patiently for me . In my understanding and only by and through God's grace , I am endeavoring to treat her as God ( for Christ's sake ) treated me . I did not remarry but elected to remain single .( She did and has moved on .) I do not believe I have the liberty to remarry nor do I wish to have the confusion that goes along with step children and multiple sets of in laws . ( We have children together . ) That is where I am . I realize that many christians feel they have the liberty to remarry . I do not . As regarding your former wife being a pagan and practicing witch ...I do not see how she is unsavable ...she may be closer to salvation than many in churches who are serving their selves but think they are worshiping God . I wonder who is praying for her ?

I never said she was unsavable, that isn't what I thought and I do honestly care for her as a person. You just couldn't imagine the experience I had. In any case I prayed to the Lord and I believe He didn't want me to pursue remarriage with her.
 
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May I ask. Supposing God told someone he did not want them to marry a specific woman, it would go against the plan he had for their life. But the man ignored what God told him and married the woman anyway, thereby he could not now fulfill what God wanted him to do with his life. Is the man entitled to say ''Because I married the woman, unless she commits adultery against me, God will have to accept the marriage, even though I cannot fulfill the calling he wants from me''
It seems to me, there is then the possibility of doing what we want regardless of what God wants, and we expect to be blessed for it. Can we expect that? For God wants happy marriages where he can bless those in them

The scenario you describe is not possible because God honors a traditional marriage by the laws of the land. God agrees with traditional marriage and He tells us to obey the laws of the land (See Romans 13). Granted, this would be the laws of the land that do not conflict with His Word (of course).
 
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The scenario you describe is not possible because God honors a traditional marriage by the laws of the land. God agrees with traditional marriage and He tells us to obey the laws of the land (See Romans 13). Granted, this would be the laws of the land that do not conflict with His Word (of course).
It is not possible to have a scenario where God has a specific work he wants someone to do, and they then get married to someone knowing that is not what God wants for them? That is far from an impossible scenario
 
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It is not possible to have a scenario where God has a specific work he wants someone to do, and they then get married to someone knowing that is not what God wants for them? That is far from an impossible scenario

You said God can tell a person not to get married and then you implied that if they married, it would be a marriage that was not considered valid in God's eyes. If this is what you are saying: Then this is simply not true. Again, Romans 13 says God is in support of the laws of the land (unless of course that law is in violation of His Word). But those laws that are in line with His Word or it is not in conflict with His Word are binding for our lives to obey. So seeing God is in support of national laws (that do not conflict with His Word), then God would not consider a marriage to be invalid just because God nudged a person so as to not to marry a particular person. The marriage law is still binding and in effect because God honors the law of the land (that does not conflict with His Word).
 
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